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    Hey, I just read both books in a week after having my FTE. I was fired 6 months ago shortly before getting married (at least I had time for my honeymoon). After 63 applications, I was just about to sign for a job I thought to be really great when they made a "strategy change" and got rid of the position altogether. Just after that, a recruiter approached me on linkedin with something I would have thought to be a great opportunity in the past. I told her that I'd rather slowly castrate myself with a butter knife than to ever be employed again... and also quit all other ongoing applications.

    I'm now working out regularly, changed my eating habits and lost 15 pounds. To support my family (instead of watching my accounts head towards zero), I've taken up a freelance consulting gig 1 day of the week (which is enough to cover all costs) and I'm working the remaining 6 days of the week on ideas. Currently, I'm somewhere between 8-10h / day. I'm guessing that'll go up to 12-16h once I know what I'll be working on. My problem is not finding an idea, it's deciding on / finding out which of the ideas can deliver the most value and impact the most people. So, polygamy - I need to pick one (carefully) and then stick with it. I'm ok on execution (need to improve, get organized better and be more disciplined).

    Here's my why:
    - I want to be able to care for my parents in their old age.
    - I want to give my wife the house she's dreaming of.
    - I want to spend time with my kids as they grow up.
    - I want to never - ever - worry about money again. Or ever work for anyone else again but my customers.

    Anyway, not quite sure why I'm signing up and what I'm expecting here. I guess it's a way to not feel lonely, since my peers & family probably think I'm crazy. My background is in computer science and I've done projects for big names in the past, so I could just go and find employment. But just the thought of that makes me want to jump out the window. So it's either succeed or die trying.

    edit: oh, and also - although i'm free of debt and can grind it for a year without doing any side work, i'm scared sh*tless. no one in my family & friends circle owns a business and in germany, we're indoctrinated to be good little employees.
     
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    Welcome. I also lost my job shortly before getting married a few years ago. Because I was scared, I took the first job that came along, which I regret. Stay calm and good to have you here.
     
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    Welcome.

    An IT contract finished just before my wedding nine years ago (aged 38). I told my wife I wasn’t doing IT anymore and was going to have a go at this AdWords stuff I’d stumbled across. She cried, bless her.

    I’m *delighted* I turned my back on a decent daily rate and took the plunge. Your safety net is that you can get a job if needs be. When you find your path you may well take a job or freelance as an IT dude to just keep the money coming in. I actually took a couple of jobs to reskill and even another IT contract to get some funds.

    Good luck. Good to have you on board.

    EDIT: I like your Why’s. They’re exactly the same as mine. I also have an itch I can’t scratch - and lots of things I want to do and people to help.
     
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    Thanks for introducing your self, @justacar, and welcome to the Fastlane community forums!

    I'm never able to comprehend it when people say they cannot come up with any ideas at all. Every single day that I engage a business, I experience big flaws in their execution and I want to build a better mousetrap!

    Just add "I want to emigrate to Canada" to this bucket list, and you have my WHY :)
     
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    :-D Thanks for the support. My wife is actually in the foreign office of Germany & would like her next stay to be Canada. We loved it in Toronto. With the earth warming up, guess it'll be a good place to be.
     
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    Welcome to the forum! How do you balance work with having kids? I've got a 3 month old and he's a huge "distraction".
     
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    Balance... not sure I know how to do that or whether that's possible. Mine is 16 months old, he's going to preschool now, so he's away from 8:30 to 15:00. My wife picks him up and spends the afternoon with him. Short answer: I dropped everything except work and family from my life.

    I don't watch news (or anything else). I don't read unless it's related to sth I need to know / solve. I don't play games, listen to music, go out, visit friends etc. So my schedule roughly looks like this every day:

    4:30ish get up, start working
    7:30ish prep breakfast for the family
    7:45 get ready (shower etc)
    8:00 feed the kid, get him to preschool
    9:00 workout
    9:45 work
    17:00 prep dinner
    18:00 dinner with family, time with wife
    19:30 plan tomorrow
    20:00 work
    22:00 sleep

    this gets me to roughly 12h of work. I only work 4h on sundays (morning & night). So in total, it's 70-78h / week. unless I have a week with a one day consulting gig, in which case I can only do 60-68h / week. So far, I'm slowly able to keep that rythm and improve.

    My 3 biggest learnings:
    1) don't sacrifice sleep, health or family time. I see this as a marathon & need to pace myself.
    2) preparing ahead. When I do dinner, I also put some oat in water to prep breakfast. I lay out clothes for the next day. I try to be better organized in general.
    3) Use the little slots of time. I usually have an audiobook or my kindle handy while I'm waiting / going somewhere. Or jot down notes with my moleskin in my backpocket at all times.

    So it's the little things really. Once all the stupid time drains are gone, the days actually feel relaxed. I used to be a big gamer, I love comics, sci-fi etc basically anything geeky and nerdy. But when I had my FTE, I put that identity on hold.

    The best support is my wife. I told her that the next 4-5 years will be hell but if I can stick to butting my head against the wall and provide some real value to people out there, it'd be worth it. She's a tough cookie and is standing by me. If I had to fight her on this, it wouldn't work.

    So, yeah, no balance, but I don't feel distracted. Thinking back, it'd be tougher if one of us had to take care of him the whole day. Then again, babies sleep a lot.
     
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    I love this post. This is something I so really really want to do. Have a schedule, organize myself. I can keep to a schedule for a few days but then I get distracted with Sci Fi or meetups with friends and it ends up messing everything up again for a few days... Thanks for the motivation man and ALL the best! You will make it, there's no doubt about it!
     
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    what helped / helps for me is to schedule my friends in as well (right now, it's every two weeks for a few hours). i was sick a few days ago and had difficulties to sticking to my schedule & concentrating at work. I fired up amazon prime as an old habit...
    but: nothing seemed appealing although there were a few shows and movies i didn't know. it just felt like a waste of time, so i got back on reading about influencer marketing.
    i think the "why" is the biggest motivator for me, plus I - literally - have nightmares about being back in a job or not making it. and i'm super angry at myself for having wasted 20+ years to wake up. if it's difficult to discipline, you're not pissed off enough. or as palpatine said:
    "i can feel your anger. it makes you stronger. gives you focus!"
     
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    100%. We’re no good to our family if we’re too tired, I’ll, or distracted when with them.
     
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