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Free registration at the forum removes this block.This argument is not rooted in any logic. I don't have to get herpes to know I don't want it. Same with a concussion.
Now before you all go nuts thinking I'm comparing children to herpes, I'm not. I'm just trying to show that you don't have to experience something to know that you whole-heartedly don't want to do it. Skydiving also falls in this category for me.
This is also like arguing with a lesbian that she "just hasn't found the right man yet" -invalid argument there as well, folks.
It's very simple: some people want different things than you do. That's okay. Be secure enough in your personal wants/desires/goals & who you are that you are not threatened when others want something different. It's just that simple.
Perhaps that is the problem.We tell each other we're wrong in our choices all the time on this forum..
Because its NAUSEATING to being told in a degrading way "you will change your mind", especially when its being told to a grown person as opposed to some snotty 13-year old that just learned how to spell "diapers".
My wife and I "lived in sin" for like 6 years, caught it for that. Then were married a few years not really planning to have kids.
I know what you are saying. But I didn't really care when they pressured us, and I didn't really care when they congratulated us (or now when the other "side" gives us shit, or links some anti-kid article someone put in the media, which tend to be very vitriolic, in the interest of driving the almighty click count). For your own happiness, maybe you should practice a bit of stoicism on the topic, @BaraQueenbee
Maybe a point to consider...what IGP said is what happens to millions of people (and sorta how it happened to us). I don't think he's trying to force you to have kids, just explaining why he said what he did, perhaps imperfectly.
I live for my family but know plenty others who are all about themselves.
Oh, your maternal instinct will kick in the moment someone is about to scratch into your motorcycle
Well I don't say, I don't have the time. It's absolutely possible but also a lot harder. The question is how much quality time can Elon spend with each of his children per day?Look Elon deeply into the eyes and tell him that you don't have enough time to have any children.
The best thing about children is when they make grandchildren
Although I appreciate your concern, I do feel this is the other way around. Let's teach our children and the world to not be judgemental, on topics as this.
While we do this together as a society I shall work on a bit of stoicism.
Now back to happy hippie feelings.
Trying to tag Russ but I can't recall his screen name! He runs a B&B out in Napa & enjoys fatherhood more than anyone I know.... paging Russ...
This is my first post after reading these forums for months. Is there a niche for the homeschooling parent? So many do this and there has to be something. Any feedback is welcome.
Technology will eventually surpass biology.
You can either become immortal by leaving a legacy behind or create another unnecessary human.
I really doubt Elon has the time for his kids I would find acceptable. But there's no way to know. There's also no "right" answer, and I am glad he's doing what he's doing.
My big point is we need more freedom loving,
I find it extremely interesting that decades ago it could be viewed as having kids as not only legacy builder but as TIME/Money builder to the parents at some point! In other words, parents might have looked at the risk/reward favorably ( as kids actually helped on the farm, or helped chores around the house, mowing lawn etc). Today, they are viewed as money/time wasters either because the financial system/inflation toll has kicked in or because of the culture we seek. Why would you want kids if its true your kids live in your house until they are 27, demand to go to college without any real reason too( one can take harvard/yale level courses for free online now), and take away? To me it seems the system costs , the massive debt and long term inflation, etc are finally rearing their heads
Choices my friend, choicesMy little freedom stealer doesn't let me have any fun
I personally have never wanted kids -I have zero maternal instinct but was always made to question what was wrong with me by the adults in my life who adamantly proclaimed "You'll change your mind" or worse- "It will just happen eventually." F*ck no it won't. You underestimate my level of dedication to creating a fool-proof plan.
The older I became, I've realized that many (most?) people become parents by accident (or stupidity, or lack of planning) & then just decide to roll with it (because, really, what else can you do?). I have never wanted that life & that scenario terrifies me. I'm the first to admit that I don't want the emotional turmoil or responsibility of being in charge of another human life. I couldn't handle it. I don't want to handle it. I won't handle it.
That being said, I'm the most excited person in the room when I have a friend who has finally conceived after a long fight with infertility -why? Because they're getting the desires of their heart. And they deserve that. And I'm happy for them. I love getting the family Christmas cards in the mail that have family pictures. I love seeing people build their families & the kiddos growing into their own personalities & quirks. It's pretty cool to watch. Then, at the end of the day, I get to go home with my husband & enjoy our quiet, peaceful home. And it makes me smile, because it's what I've always wanted.
tl;dr: do whatever the F*ck makes you happy.
No. We are riding with you.I know, that's why I posted it. Did I miss the joke here?
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