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Are you a man amongst boys?

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Oh, the irony of my click-bait title designed to get your attention.

Anyway... a 7 minute video for you.


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  1. The best piece of business advice I've ever seen, as posted by our very own @Vigilante.

  2. The trick to getting kids to do what you want (applies to adults too).

  3. A sure fire way of telling if you're a man amongst boys.


Enjoy.

Let me know what you think!



 
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Love the video Andy, lol'z kids really are attention junkies, and I guess so are adults; great lessons here about just starting and not worrying about perfection!
 

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Love the video Andy, lol'z kids really are attention junkies, and I guess so are adults; great lessons here about just starting and not worrying about perfection!
Thanks @beatgoezon

The things people do for attention eh?

And the things we can learn from kids!

At what age do we stop believing we can do things and start believing we can't? It bothers me now that I have kids - I have to protect them from that cr@p...
 

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Thanks @beatgoezon

The things people do for attention eh?

And the things we can learn from kids!

At what age do we stop believing we can do things and start believing we can't? It bothers me now that I have kids - I have to protect them from that cr@p...
I think that was around the same time I became a teenager lol, can't believe it was actually "cool" to not believe in yourself;)

Although I'm still not very mature, I do believe you're right about protecting the kids, protect them now and make them believe in the power of hard work now rather than have those poor souls spend years and years de-programming the negative nonsense when they're older
 
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Oh, the irony of my click-bait title designed to get your attention.

Awesome video! The title was of the "click-bait" kind, but knowing that @AndyBlack is not like that, I knew it would be something valuable and original - and it was.
 
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Awesome video! The title was of the "click-bait" kind, but knowing that @AndyBlack is not like that, I knew it would be something valuable and original - and it was.
Click-bait is now associated with the implication of no value. But, you see, that's the difference with @Andy Black : there is no negative association with his titles; it's pure value every time. So, when it comes to the world of headlines and content, Andy is indeed a man among boys. Then again, that would imply he is comparable . . .
No contest; there is no comparison.

Great stuff, Andy. Cheers.
 

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Andy,

I laugh every time I watch one of your videos!

Your "aw-shucks" delivery style, plus sincerity, makes me feel like I am right there with you.

Keep up the good work.

Thanks!

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Thanks @beatgoezon

The things people do for attention eh?

And the things we can learn from kids!

At what age do we stop believing we can do things and start believing we can't? It bothers me now that I have kids - I have to protect them from that cr@p...
at the age where you think your competition is better than you...and always will be.
 

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Bump....



TL;DR?

Boy = Craves attention

Man = Gives attention



The single biggest gift you can give someone is your full and undivided attention.

So what are you? A man or a boy?

Do you give, or do you take?
 
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Thanks @beatgoezon

The things people do for attention eh?

And the things we can learn from kids!

At what age do we stop believing we can do things and start believing we can't? It bothers me now that I have kids - I have to protect them from that cr@p...

We spend the first year of their lives teaching them to walk and talk. Then the rest of the time telling them to shut up and sit down.
 

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We spend the first year of their lives teaching them to walk and talk. Then the rest of the time telling them to shut up and sit down.
What a GREAT line.
 

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Bump....



TL;DR?

Boy = Craves attention

Man = Gives attention



The single biggest gift you can give someone is your full and undivided attention.

So what are you? A man or a boy?

Do you give, or do you take?


we can add that :


1) a man takes responsibility and stand against the tyranny of the dumb crowd ( fashion, "democracy" choices , false beliefs etc etc)

very few men are alive in this case

very few. 10 %

2) boys follow whatever society tell them : 90 %

there are no real heroes anymore in our society

men who are able to say : "that's enough, we live in a mess, i won't let society rule my life anymore."


i have something like 2000 books in my library ( real books, not stupids books like romance novels ).

i have been studying people in power for years now

so i don't really care what boys here will think of that .

i won't even respond.
 
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I’m reminded of this thread sometimes by the loud departures from the forum...
 

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love this concept. In my better parenting moments, when my kids are acting up, I notice that they act up when I'm not giving them enough attention. When I've filled up their 'love bucket' they get along pretty well, a lot of the time. When I don't, things heat up pretty quickly.

Now, to figure out how to remind myself of that when I'm not in a good parenting moment...
 

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Now, to figure out how to remind myself of that when I'm not in a good parenting moment...
It's hard alright!

I try to remember:
  • "Catch them when they're good."
  • "Criticise in private, praise in public."
  • Don't get stressed. Push the stress back onto them!
 
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It's hard alright!

I try to remember:
  • "Catch them when they're good."
  • "Criticise in private, praise in public."
  • Don't get stressed. Push the stress back onto them!
I need to do more of the catching them when they're good thing. I do that on occasion, but could do more.

On criticising them in private - do you mean taking them aside, privately, even in the family?
 

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Oh, the irony of my click-bait title designed to get your attention.

Anyway... a 7 minute video for you.


Mentioned:
  1. The best piece of business advice I've ever seen, as posted by our very own @Vigilante.

  2. The trick to getting kids to do what you want (applies to adults too).

  3. A sure fire way of telling if you're a man amongst boys.


Enjoy.

Let me know what you think!



I just saw this, thanks @AndyBlack for that, from a lunatic Geordie in Oz.
 
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if i go to the playground i most certainly will be.
 
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On criticising them in private - do you mean taking them aside, privately, even in the family?
Gosh. I completely missed this.

Yes, who likes to be told off or criticised in front of people? Take them aside and have a quiet word and they’ll appreciate it being done privately. And they’re waaay more likely to listen too because they’re not trying to look cool or unbothered in front of a crowd.


But praise in public and they’ll puff up in pride. Make a big deal of it.

Today is our wedding anniversary but I’m away at a funeral. The kids all crept into my wife’s bedroom this morning with my card and presents (I made sure to get three presents so they each had one to give).

I’ve FaceTimed and spoke to each individually to say thank you and let them know how proud of them I am.

When I get home tomorrow I’ll make sure we call them into the living room to stand in front of me and my wife sat on the sofa. I’ll thank each in turn in front of their mum and brothers and give them a hug.
 

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