I was raised to the belief that you should and only love one person in your life. Never think of the pickup artist game. Be loyal and faithful. You attract people who think like you. Imagine marrying a wife that devotes all her energy to your family, to supporting your career. Of course you need to pick your wife carefully.
Look at the most successful men in the world: Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg... They all have not-so-beautiful wives and their wives seem to be family-oriented, i don't know them in person so i only assume that. It is also true with your girlfriend. Is that the biggest asset you've ever had, more than anything. If i'm wrong, please change my mind.
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"People who are married are statistically happier". As Chris pointed out.
"That doesn't mean everything ties back to only their marriage. Work, debt, stress, diet, mental attitude." as @DaRK9 stated. People're afraid of marriage because it's tied with troubles, while marriage itself is not all troubles, trouble is what happens to you in your life and it also affects marriage.
We often associate "good guy" with "low quality", it's not always the case. It's because we see a lot of "high quality" guy acting like "bad guy", doesn't mean we have to act like "bad guy" to be a "high quality" guy. It's a different aspect. Strive to be "high quality" but also strive to be "good".
Be loyal to a partner doesn't mean we are limited of option. If we have option, we do have many chances to choose what cakes we like. But will we choose cakes that are delicious, and spend our whole life on the journey looking for the most delicious cake which will never end, or will we choose the cakes that are beneficial to our healths.
We're young and we should experience as much as possible. But that's dangerous when we are used to that lifestyle, it's hard to change, like a habit or mindset. What you experienced and saw will affect you later in life. You can change, but you can't fully change.
We don't need to date as many as possible to find out who is right for us. We can justify most by normal daily contacts. Dating more doesn't mean you have more experience with women, dating one person in depth does. And you won't chasing an eternity.
And again this is just a lifestyle, i don't judge its morality, just simply our choice, you can be good with or without a "right partner". But the question is to find the best possible outcome, or something close to that, not just being good.
Look at the most successful men in the world: Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg... They all have not-so-beautiful wives and their wives seem to be family-oriented, i don't know them in person so i only assume that. It is also true with your girlfriend. Is that the biggest asset you've ever had, more than anything. If i'm wrong, please change my mind.
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EDIT: (Adding more reasons to support the argument)
"People who are married are statistically happier". As Chris pointed out.
"That doesn't mean everything ties back to only their marriage. Work, debt, stress, diet, mental attitude." as @DaRK9 stated. People're afraid of marriage because it's tied with troubles, while marriage itself is not all troubles, trouble is what happens to you in your life and it also affects marriage.
We often associate "good guy" with "low quality", it's not always the case. It's because we see a lot of "high quality" guy acting like "bad guy", doesn't mean we have to act like "bad guy" to be a "high quality" guy. It's a different aspect. Strive to be "high quality" but also strive to be "good".
Be loyal to a partner doesn't mean we are limited of option. If we have option, we do have many chances to choose what cakes we like. But will we choose cakes that are delicious, and spend our whole life on the journey looking for the most delicious cake which will never end, or will we choose the cakes that are beneficial to our healths.
We're young and we should experience as much as possible. But that's dangerous when we are used to that lifestyle, it's hard to change, like a habit or mindset. What you experienced and saw will affect you later in life. You can change, but you can't fully change.
We don't need to date as many as possible to find out who is right for us. We can justify most by normal daily contacts. Dating more doesn't mean you have more experience with women, dating one person in depth does. And you won't chasing an eternity.
And again this is just a lifestyle, i don't judge its morality, just simply our choice, you can be good with or without a "right partner". But the question is to find the best possible outcome, or something close to that, not just being good.
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