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Here's some ideas because I was just in this situation a year ago.<br />
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First of all you are telling us your side of the story. I don't think any parent is so unreasonable that they would just kick you out for no reason at all. If you're still living with your parents past 18 you have to pull your own weight.<br />
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Who's car were you using to do all the chores? If it was your dad than it's only fair that he got mad. Also did you keep up with the car's maintenance? Did you buy and change the oil? Filled up the gas tank? I know a lot of kids that use their car parents do none of that shit. They just let the car rot and not fill up the gas tank. Also were you paying your share of the rent, bills and food? Maybe if you talk to your dad and tell him that you are willing a cut of the bills and food he might let you back in the house.<br />
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You also mentioned that you blew all your money in Vegas no wonder your dad is angry at you. I was in the same boat two years ago. Living with your parents makes you very irresponsible with money. I blew all my savings buying a new motorcycle and than I crashed it. After that my parents did not trust me with money that meant no loans or anything money related from them.<br />
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Ok we got that out of the way.<br />
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Last year I moved out on my own with $0 money in my bank account. How did I do it. Luckily my brother also wanted to move out. So that cut the cost of renting in half. But I'm living in Texas and rent is cheaper here than LA. Where I live is not the best place to be around but for a two bedroom apartment it's only $700. My monthly bills including rent and electricity, internet, insurance and car payments come at around $800. In all I spend around $1k a month just to get by.<br />
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I'm learning how to build websites at the moment and I know how much of a time drain jobs are even though you are getting paid. So this is what I did. I looked for jobs that are generally opened 24 hours a day. That means you will be able to choose your own schedule. The best manual labor jobs to work in and still have energy after your shift are jobs were you get paid in tips. Think waiters, valet, hotel doorman's. I'm working as a valet now and I get pay a fixed hourly rate plus tips and I only work 4 days a week and no more than 8 hours a day. I will never work in a fixed hourly rate again. Hopefully I won't have to work for anyone a year from now. Like another user posted you can go be a car salesman but you'll be a total slave. Get ready for 12 hour shift 6 days a week. You'll get paid hourly but now dealers only pay you $100 for every car you sale. Really not worth it if you are working on your own.<br />
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Another option is to lease a car through Uber so they lease you the car and you also work for them. You'll have time in between pick ups to take care of your business.<br />
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If everything else fails move to Texas. Everything is fairly cheap here and I'll let you crash at my place until you get off your feet.
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Thanks for the thoughtful response.<br />
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So starting from the top. The keyword there is "no parent would unreasonable throw out their kid"<br />
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Keyword being reasonable & the word reasonable is something my father isn't.<br />
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I replied to another member on here on one of my last posts who said something similar. People immeidately assume it must be the kid that is in the wrong, and its an uphill battle each time i try to explain the story.<br />
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But long story short this relationship estrangment started when I was 11. My father showed zero love, didnt buy me clothes, take me to doctor, broke my eye glasses. Verbally put me down every day that I was worthless. Didn't pick me up from school. Had to walk 2 miles plus take 2 buses back home and to school. And if I ever got sick and needed the doctor or asked for clothes he'd shout me out of the room. Physically abuse till I grew old enough till I looked like a man. I grew up from 6th grade till now with not one new cloth bought from me because he despised me so much. The only way I got clothes was from my uncle/cousin who would buy me stuff whenever he saw me once a year. But most of the clothes I wore wear toren and F*cked growing up. and it wasn;t because I was a bad kid. I didn't do drugs. I had almost straight A's. And never talked back as a kid. Only the people that have lived with me & witnessed everything, which would be my mom and my little brothers understand the bigger story. As well as very close family members<br />
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After I turned 18, I did support myself. I bought my own food, cooked my own meals. Didn't use his car for my needs.<br />
The only time I used the car was when I was told to do a million errands for him or the house.<br />
What I didn't have was money since the business was taking forevr to grow and I was investing alot into it so no I can't pay with the bills. But I was pretty much self suportive. No body had to do anything for me. nobody had to cook, buy me food, buy me clothes or shiet. The only thing I did was stay in my room, worked & helped a shiet ton with his personal errands as well as house errands that he should also have done himself. I benefited him more than he benefited me. And I stuck through the abuse, instead of getting a job and dipping immediately because I understood, if I could eat shiet at home & work on my business and learn as much as possible, I'd be in a better spot. In a way that is true. I have a business s that is automated although it isn't much. I have gained sales skills, jiring skills , managing skills, web designs kills, and shiet load of experience in seo & adwords, systemizing businesses,etc<br />
And regarding blowing $$ in vegas, I actually did that 3 months into my business at age 19 at the time. It was the first time I ever had money. I made about 2-3k in a month at the time and boom like a kid that was starving blew it in vegas with a friend. Granted my father or no one else knows about this. Just me and my friend. But one of my biggest lessons in money nonthless. But yes its something no one knows about.<br />
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Having said that. I have looked into waiters as well. All these tip jobs. Yea if it can make/clear 2k after taxes on about part time I'm happy. <br />
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And dude I really appreciate you offering me to crash at your place in texas in case I need to. That means ALOT!!!</div>
