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I remember hearing a counselor talking to a person. They said "words hurt". This person in need of help was a relative of mine. He was medicated and having a tough time with life. The counselor was telling another family member that the "tough love" was not a good thing to administer to this fragile individual.
I had a lot of trouble processing that phrase. It rattled around in my head like broken glass. I felt like they were giving this person another reason to act out and look for pity. I had and have a deep love and caring for all my relatives but did not agree with the advice at all.
Most of us have been through depression. I had a strong bout a number of years ago that reshaped my life. I had to work my way out of it myself. There were no words from someone else that would magically make the world make sense. But I was not looking for that advice either. There was not anything that anybody could say to me that would make me feel worse either.
We have it in ourselves to take what other people say and apply it to our lives. We have the choice on whether to allow them to affect our own personal world or not.
If you ask for advice, you may get it. If you don't like it, let the words fall to the ground. Don't let them hurt you in any way though.
I had a lot of trouble processing that phrase. It rattled around in my head like broken glass. I felt like they were giving this person another reason to act out and look for pity. I had and have a deep love and caring for all my relatives but did not agree with the advice at all.
Most of us have been through depression. I had a strong bout a number of years ago that reshaped my life. I had to work my way out of it myself. There were no words from someone else that would magically make the world make sense. But I was not looking for that advice either. There was not anything that anybody could say to me that would make me feel worse either.
We have it in ourselves to take what other people say and apply it to our lives. We have the choice on whether to allow them to affect our own personal world or not.
If you ask for advice, you may get it. If you don't like it, let the words fall to the ground. Don't let them hurt you in any way though.
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