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Of course there are things I did learn and can learn - I'm in my mid 40's, and more successful than my mother by a fair bit, will be more successful than my father even if I just keep on my current line and don't keep on improving (which isn't an option for me). When it comes to money, making it, how to make it, how to manage it, how to manage your financial life, how to think about money - anything financially related, other than how to balance a checkbook, my parents had it all wrong, and while their ideas maybe applied for their parents, it has left our mother in poverty and our father working into his mid-70's to pay for (he and his current wife's) expenses. Unfortunately, with no other influences in our life (homeschooled in a rural area only exposed to like-minded families) I swallowed it hook, line, and sinker.Is there ANYTHING you can learn from your parents or older people around you? How old are you now? Are you successful now? Doing what?
Your post made me sad. Wonderful people helped me when I was young. I was one of those kids who couldn't ever go home, so I had to make it out there in that big bad world. My mentor got me into RE and that was 47 years ago. I'm so thankful that she took me under her wing and helped me when I was so young, lost, and alone.
One of my goals is to be able to fully support my mother in nice place when she can no longer live on her own - that clock is, unfortunately, ticking quickly, but that's all the more motivation for me to get it right and make it happen in time to be able to do so.
Didn't say I didn't love my parents - love didn't make their advice remotely correct though, and I wasted a good 20ish working years mostly headed in the wrong direction and no idea that was the case until a layoff during the pandemic opened my eyes to reality - reality of the world, my own choices, how I put myself in that position to begin with, and how I had believed all the wrong things when it came to working towards what success meant for me.