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I pulled this quote out from another thread on doing something that you wish you would have done sooner...
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If you haven’t yet considered it, I highly recommend moving to a new city and a new culture on the other side of your country. Or hell, even expating to a new country if that is an option.
If you live in a shit country where emigrating is difficult, make LEAVING your priority. Forget the business stuff. What do you need to do to leave? Do you need a skill?
Don’t let “sacred cows” keep you immobile and planted like a tree.
A “sacred cow” keeps you planted with lame excuses like, “oh I grew up here, I can’t move.” Or, “my family is here,” or “My favorite football club is here.”
While family is important, most families are dysfunctional and many of them simply aren’t supportive of an Unscripted existence.
Moving to Arizona from Chicago was one the best decisions in my life.
If you have negative or uninspired history in a particular city, it can add significant mental baggage to your progress. Living in a place where you have struggled, failed, and lived unhappily is a mental burden, no matter how you want to frame it.
...Oh there's my old high school where I was bullied...
...Oh there's the intersection where I got into an accident...
...Oh there's my old best friend's house before he cheated with my girlfriend...
...Oh this is the route to my old job that I hated...
…Oh there’s the McDonalds I used to work at…
…Oh here’s the shitty weather that I can’t stand…
…Oh there’s my old neighborhood where my parents were divorced…
...Oh I hate shopping at that grocery story where I always run into my X-girlfriend...
...Oh there's that local park where the neighborhood bully beat me up...
Folks, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.
There is nothing stopping you from moving. I moved to Arizona with $900 in my bank account. I realize that those with family, things are more complicated, but it's not rocket science. It's a matter of importance and prioritization.
Do you want to own a business? Or do you want a safe and secure job that keeps you mildly entertained for 50 years?
Making big decisions like this is on par with the big decision to become an entrepreneur.
You only live once. Yes, happiness is largely a choice. However, you can make choices that make the choice to be happy, much easier.
Make happiness a priority. Make choices that make happiness more likely.
Another way of looking at it... if you grew up in a home with a lot of bad memories, what the hell would you choose to stay there? Why do you want to be reminded of bad times? And if your city/home does a good job at reminding you of unhappiness, PACK YOUR DAMN BAGS and MOVE.
GOLD! - HOT! - What improved your life so much that you wish you did it sooner?
What do you think about that he might be happier, because you (as parent) are happier? Of course it has an effect on my kid that I am happy too, but in this case it was so obvious that he really needed the change too (but it has more to do with the Danish School system than it has to do with...
www.thefastlaneforum.com
If you haven’t yet considered it, I highly recommend moving to a new city and a new culture on the other side of your country. Or hell, even expating to a new country if that is an option.
If you live in a shit country where emigrating is difficult, make LEAVING your priority. Forget the business stuff. What do you need to do to leave? Do you need a skill?
Don’t let “sacred cows” keep you immobile and planted like a tree.
A “sacred cow” keeps you planted with lame excuses like, “oh I grew up here, I can’t move.” Or, “my family is here,” or “My favorite football club is here.”
While family is important, most families are dysfunctional and many of them simply aren’t supportive of an Unscripted existence.
Moving to Arizona from Chicago was one the best decisions in my life.
If you have negative or uninspired history in a particular city, it can add significant mental baggage to your progress. Living in a place where you have struggled, failed, and lived unhappily is a mental burden, no matter how you want to frame it.
...Oh there's my old high school where I was bullied...
...Oh there's the intersection where I got into an accident...
...Oh there's my old best friend's house before he cheated with my girlfriend...
...Oh this is the route to my old job that I hated...
…Oh there’s the McDonalds I used to work at…
…Oh here’s the shitty weather that I can’t stand…
…Oh there’s my old neighborhood where my parents were divorced…
...Oh I hate shopping at that grocery story where I always run into my X-girlfriend...
...Oh there's that local park where the neighborhood bully beat me up...
Folks, STOP KIDDING YOURSELF.
There is nothing stopping you from moving. I moved to Arizona with $900 in my bank account. I realize that those with family, things are more complicated, but it's not rocket science. It's a matter of importance and prioritization.
Do you want to own a business? Or do you want a safe and secure job that keeps you mildly entertained for 50 years?
Making big decisions like this is on par with the big decision to become an entrepreneur.
You only live once. Yes, happiness is largely a choice. However, you can make choices that make the choice to be happy, much easier.
Make happiness a priority. Make choices that make happiness more likely.
Another way of looking at it... if you grew up in a home with a lot of bad memories, what the hell would you choose to stay there? Why do you want to be reminded of bad times? And if your city/home does a good job at reminding you of unhappiness, PACK YOUR DAMN BAGS and MOVE.
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