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Roughly 2 weeks ago, I made a post on this forum about how I'd be recording my daily progress in there. I did that once, and it was all. I had no progress to write about, I was too lazy to learn anything new, about my business or anything else. I have tried meditation, working out, reading books, journaling,social media detox to no avail a few years ago, but that was just a distraction from the actual stuff that I had to do. I think about starting a new business, and fear cripples me. What if I am unable to do so? What if I become a workaholic(starting a new business) and my relationship with my wife, my mom, dad and other family members gets strained? What if I'm not able to go through it? What if..none of this works? I need urgency to start learning, but I don't have that. Laziness and procrastination take over everytime. I'm 30 years old and still unable to do anything by myself. I have no sense of responsibility. I have no sense of urgency. Everything's all foggy in my mind..everything seems to be a distraction from the things I am actually supposed to do. I don't understand what to do.
 

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It sounds like you're looking for a magic pill / a formula to suddenly get started.
There's no substitution to just starting. Baby steps, but be CONSISTENT.
If you can't do that - well, not everyone has to be working for themselves, and THAT IS OK. As long as you're happy.
If you're not happy and doing nothing about it, while being aware of the problem... well, I don't know what to tell you, to be honest.
 

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Going through your previous posts I saw some traits. You seem to care too much about other people's opinions. And you seem to devalue your own ability to solve new challenges. Both of these traits will make the fastlane switch much harder.

You have to let go of the "What ifs" and learn to control your doubts. That's easier said than done, and it will take time. I suggest reading this: Taming the mammoth.

Also, you write about the "things you're actually supposed to do". This is extremely vague. You need to define what you want to achieve. Make a very list of the top 3 things you want to achieve. For each achievement, write down why you want to achieve this, and the very first step you should take to achieve it. That will make the path clearer, and may guide you while you work on taming your inner mammoth.
 

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Roughly 2 weeks ago, I made a post on this forum about how I'd be recording my daily progress in there. I did that once, and it was all. I had no progress to write about, I was too lazy to learn anything new, about my business or anything else. I have tried meditation, working out, reading books, journaling,social media detox to no avail a few years ago, but that was just a distraction from the actual stuff that I had to do. I think about starting a new business, and fear cripples me. What if I am unable to do so? What if I become a workaholic(starting a new business) and my relationship with my wife, my mom, dad and other family members gets strained? What if I'm not able to go through it? What if..none of this works? I need urgency to start learning, but I don't have that. Laziness and procrastination take over everytime. I'm 30 years old and still unable to do anything by myself. I have no sense of responsibility. I have no sense of urgency. Everything's all foggy in my mind..everything seems to be a distraction from the things I am actually supposed to do. I don't understand what to do.
If you are so anxiety stricken, so overwhlemed by procrastination, so afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone, then maybe entrepreneurship is not for you.
To learn is to fail.
To progress you must do hard things consistently.
To create a business you have to disbalance your life for extended periods of time.
To gain freedom you have to fight for it.

You are NOT a fighter. You are a quiter and your fears rule you.
 

Einfamilienhaus

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Nobody waits for you and nobody expects something from you. Use that pain to make really growth or leave it.

I would also recommend you to leave in the first place all those "Feel good" platforms where people cheers themselves up by reading 20 minutes a day a book, meditate for 15 minutes or just write things up like: Today I woke up 15 minutes than usual!

This is not real grow in the perspective of having a real business. It is a facade to cover the own laziness up and feel good about yourself.

Business is all about fear, pain, high risks and the unknowing. If you can't handle those things, dont feel bad about it. Most people can't do it, a few tried and gave up and just a small percentage survives.

Be honest to yourself and ask yourself if this is the way you want to handle on the daily basis or not.

A successful business owner is also some sort of "masochist".
 

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Thanks for sharing. What are the things you are "supposed to do"? What do you do when procrastinating? Like browsing Facebook, watching TV, etc.
 

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“In life, you can either choose the merry-go-round or the rollercoaster.”
- Holstee Co.

You've chosen the Merry Go Round.

That's fine, most people do.
The world needs people like you to be productive, uninteresting, work in cubicles, stable family life, etc...
You keep things running - so the rest of us can try our hand at riding the most awesome and terrifying and potentially dangerous rollercoaster ride ever invented.

I for one thank you for your contribution to keep society stable while I play.
 

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Roughly 2 weeks ago, I made a post on this forum about how I'd be recording my daily progress in there. I did that once, and it was all. I had no progress to write about, I was too lazy to learn anything new, about my business or anything else. I have tried meditation, working out, reading books, journaling,social media detox to no avail a few years ago, but that was just a distraction from the actual stuff that I had to do. I think about starting a new business, and fear cripples me. What if I am unable to do so? What if I become a workaholic(starting a new business) and my relationship with my wife, my mom, dad and other family members gets strained? What if I'm not able to go through it? What if..none of this works? I need urgency to start learning, but I don't have that. Laziness and procrastination take over everytime. I'm 30 years old and still unable to do anything by myself. I have no sense of responsibility. I have no sense of urgency. Everything's all foggy in my mind..everything seems to be a distraction from the things I am actually supposed to do. I don't understand what to do.
Wake up and change YOUR life. If you keep doing the same thing you get the same results. Break your cycle and the rest will happen.
 

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I was in a similar boat as you for years and it wasn't until I got into therapy that I started getting my crap together in the past 2 years. If you can't afford therapy, there are non profits that give you heavily discounted sessions (OpenPath is awesome!) I still moments of crippling panic and anxiety, but it's all about how you manage it.

It's good that you're studying, meditating and all, but all of it means nothing unless you go out and do the work. I get that you're afraid of failure, but there's no shortcut around it if you want to succeed. Acknowledge your feelings, but just do it anyway.

Do you live with family? Because it's pretty easy to be complacent and have fears of abandoning them if you live with them.
 

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What if you spend the rest of your life being a miserable and unfulfilled peasant?
 

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Edit: had to scrap it all because it was some self antagonizing bullshit.

I'm kind of in the same boat. And telling you this...advice that I should be following. Should help.

Consistency is key

Discipline and focus are the tools of success

Your early in the proccess. Gary Vee would say,"having a fruits of labor conversation this early is ludacris." This is the time to build. You shouldn't be worrying. Just do!

Everything is going to be alright man, I totally relate. We're like 30. Not 60. We just need to work.

Goodluck ✌
 
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