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I took on the housework and cooking, and I'm the only one working while he goes through all of this. Even when he's mean to me or loses his temper, I don't take it personally because I've been there before and it is a terrifying thing to not be able to control overhwelming emotions and racing thoughts.
You can actually encourage him to help you. People that feel helpless can become suddenly motivated when they see that they're needed. Ask him to help you with little chores. And then reward him for stepping up to your calls for action. Thank him and congratulate him for having courage. Say these things to him in the present tense. Allow his mind to adopt a mindset that he IS worthy, that he IS needed, and that he has a role to play in all of this.
It can also help to learn from other people's story. Find stories of other people that were once down but managed to overcome their weaknesses. Show him that there IS a path towards recovery, that there are people that had far worse situations and managed to come out on top. This too, should give him further courage to keep fighting.
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