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Tools and resources?! <br />
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No. Go out and do it. <br />
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Toastmasters...anywhere you get experience public speaking. <br />
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Just do it. The best mindset shifts come after you have reference experiences of taking action...and realizing you won't die when you do it enough. <br />
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I dare you to screw up.<br />
I dare you to choke on your words.<br />
I dare you to get nervous speaking in front of people. <br />
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Mess up. Talk about something embarrassing, go unprepared, screw up. <u>Hope</u> people laugh at you.<br />
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Because only when this happens, you will realize that it's not really a big deal, all this fear was only some thoughts that floated into your head, and that you'll still be alive after you do it.<br />
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I used to be scared to record my YouTube videos in front of other people. I would hike, bike, or drive to places where nobody was around to set up my tripod just to hope that nobody would find me.<br />
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Then I hiked to the top of devil's bridge in Sedona, AZ with three...er two and a half... other members of this forum <span class="smilie smilie--emoji" title="Big Grin :D" data-smilie="8" data-shortname=":D">😀</span>. And we recorded right on one of the major tourist hiking destinations there. At least 30 people were behind the camera when I was recording. <br />
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I was nervous recording in front of people for the first time, I couldn't think of my words. <br />
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Then I just did it.<br />
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...and about 20 seconds into it, some words just spilled out of my mouth which was not only me saying the 'wrong thing'..it was perhaps <b>the most embarrassing thing I could have said at the time</b>. 100x "worse" than my worst fear from public speaking.<br />
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People stopped their conversations, turned their heads, and everyone was laughing at what I just said...including myself. <br />
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Eventually the people went on with their days, I recorded one of my best videos to that point, and now i'm not scared to record in front of other people at all any more.<br />
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The reason? I said something 100x worse than my worst fear..and I still lived. So after that, the old 'hard stuff' is now easy.<br />
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And actually, when I came back to Phoenix, a few weeks later, I ran into one of the people who heard me mess up....and they forgot who I was. Didn't even recognize me. She was too busy thinking about all those BS thoughts in her own head to even notice the fears and negative self-talk that other people go through.<br />
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Like Reebok....Just do it.
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Thanks for this post. I just need to go and do it!!!!!<br />
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My slow lane job requires me to occasionally testify in court. The first few times I had to do it I was so nervous it was ridiculous. Beat red, sweating, shaking, etc. It wasn't until I sat in on a court session and watched it from beginning to end that I realized it's no big deal. People are more worried about themselves than anything else. It was one big joke really. Now when I testify I get up there and kill it. Lawyers got nothing on me.<br />
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Your story about taking the video in public reminded me of that. I need to carry these things over into my public speaking. Thanks for the help. <br />
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