I found the perfect mentor. How should I go about hitting him up?

[jfny]

I've had people make comments I didn't agree with or didn't like. I get *extra* polite in those circumstances. "Thanks for taking the time to reply. I didn't think of it that way. That's helpful to know. Thanks."

I have said thanks either way after most of the negative posts.

I remember that meeting. I also remember offering you, a person that I had just met for the first time, the highest level position in my company. You did not even have experience in the field. But, there was something about you...

Cool Story. No sarcasm.

Funny thing is, I didn't write either a letter. I also didn't call them a**holes.

Did they decide they were gonna start bashing you for no good reason?

However, if you close your mind, if you put up mental walls and refuse to humble yourself and learn...how will you get anywhere?

I saw red for about half a second. But you know what? He was RIGHT, his way was BETTER, and I LEARNED from him. Now I will take that advice and use it to better care for my customers while protecting my own interests.

A common misconception in this thread is that I haven't been listening to everyone's advice. Nor do I plan on implmenting it.

I'm in no place to say if this thread is worth Gold or not. But anyone willing to wade through some negative posts will find a goldmine of info and advice about mentorship, people skills, and generally how to be a good human. VITAL skills in the business world.

Agreed.

Geez, he's not alluding you want in his eCom class ... he's alluding that your body of posts are being evaluated.

And the 1-percenters here (the folks who are in your mentor-target) are trying to tell you nicely that you are coming across as self-entitled and not willing to listen.

I apologize. It was a misunderstanding.

Definitely a Gold Thread.

Kind of turned into that, huh?

Hey @SteveO , I can honestly say that out of all the members in this forum your posts touch me the most.

Yeah, I noticed SteveO has a little bit of a better vibe to him.

My post was not directed at you. I do not ignore you or I wouldn't have seen your posts. It was directed at people looking for a mentor. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

I apologize. I must of read it wrong. I appreciate your post and the valuable insight you have shared.

OP has probably gotten a few $$$$ worth of free advice from several millionaires and highly successful entrepreneurs on this thread.
He probably won't take it but I think many others will.

That's where you're wrong.
(Example: I'm taking the quote belows advice.)

What's the first thing you should do when you realize you're digging a hole?
Stop digging.

I appreciate all the input. As I've said, I have learned a lot from this thread. But it's kind of "overstayed its welcome" and I'm ready to just kill it already. Therefore, this thread will not be receiving any further comments from me.

 

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[Jon L]

O sief vjsuahj vjot ipvosi vjsief epf siemobif vjev O jewi vji uqqutovi qsucmin. Vjisi't e dmoipv ug nopi vjev ot upi ug vjuti nipvus't nipvust. Ji xepvt vu veli ni vu mapdj, epf O'n e cov gsielif uav cz vji ofie. Tu...jux fof O hiv nztimg opvu vjot 'qsifodenipv?'

1) Ji guapf ni gsun e huuhmi ef O qmedif e xjomi cedl. O fof e $750 qsukidv gus jon. O fof ov ximm, epf taqqusvif jon xovj e wesoivz ug tnemm vjopht
2) O niv jon gus csielgetv upi voni epf tumf jon up e $5000 qsukidv, epf jewi dupvopaif vu taqqusv jon up wesouat tnemm dunqavis ottait topdi vjip.
3) Fasoph vji qsuditt, xi vemlif ecuav e wesoivz ug vjopht
4) O jewi e qsukidv vjev piift ep opwitvus epf etlif jon og ji lpix epzupi. Ji't opvisitvif.

Vjisi't nusi vu ov, cav O fup'v xepv vu xsovi ov uav up e qacmod gusan. Cav, vji ittipvoemt ug iwiszupi't giifcedl op vjot vjsief esi vjisi:
1) Xi jef e sietup vu duni vuhivjis - O qsuwofif wemai vu jon.
2) Xi'wi neopveopif e gsoipfmz xusloph simevouptjoq uwis vji tiwisem ziest vjev O'wi lpuxp jon.
3) O'wi puv etlif nepz raitvoupt us gus nadj efwodi. O'wi liqv nz gudat up qsuwofoph jon wemai. O'wi hmiepif e gix liz pahhivt gsun jon uwis vji duasti ug voni.
4) Vji upi voni O etlif gus tunivjoph, ov xet gus tunivjoph O lpix ji'f ci opvisitvif op.

 

[Jleg]

Csommoepv vjsief, O xotj O duamf jewi sief ov 18 nupvjt ehu.


Xjip O xet 16, esuapf 3 xiilt egvis O migv nz gopem zies ug johj tdjuum, e nep xju xet 28 ev vji voni fsuwi qetv ni op e csepf pix Gisseso Demoguspoe. O lpux ug jon et ji’t e fotvepv gsoipf ug nz umfis csuvjis, O jef pu ofie ug ot gopepdoem tovaevoup, us xjev ji fof, upmz vjev nz umfis csuvjis lpix jon. O jupitvmz duamfp'v cimoiwi ov ev vji voni, xjisi O hsix aq, e Gisseso xetp’v iyedvmz e des zua tex iwisz fez.


O xet veloph nz Feomz 45-nopavi xeml vu niiv e hosm O xet tiioph ev vji voni epf O duamfp’v tvuq vjoploph ecuav ov. Tu, O nittehif nz csuvjis. Ji vumf ni ji uxpif e “upmopi catopitt” ug tuni tusv timmoph Tnesv Qjupi epf Vecmiv eddittusoit.


Tu, O tiv uav vu miesp ecuav upmopi catopitt epf xipv fuxp vji xsuph qevj. Cz vji xsuph qevj O fup’v niep xsuph qsufadv, O niep O motvipif vu vji xsuph qiuqmi epf efuqvif vji xsuph nopftiv. O efuqvif e nopftiv ug katv tumimz gudatoph up “Vsipfoph” qsufadvt, juv qsufadvt ivd. O sinincis O xet uctittif xovj Veo Muqib. Tumwoph qsucmint epf neloph e qsufadv civvis piwis iwip dsuttif nz nopf.


O huv tqieloph vu nz csuvjis egvis esuapf 3 nupvjt ug tqipfoph iwisz xeloph nunipv siefoph vji xsuph efwodi epf etlif og ji duamf nittehi jon gus ni epf tii og ji duamf “nipvus” ni. Ji nittehif jon, epf nz csuvjis teof O xet ul vu eff jon up Gedicuul epf djev vu jon.


Nz opovoem nittehi xet Dsophi-xusvjz.


NI NI NI, “juv” qsufadvt, tjuamf O fu gce, xjev fu zua vjopl ug hivvoph gemti siwoixt vu sepl qsufadvt ivd. O xet muuloph gus e tjusvdav.


Op emm geospitt, ji xet wisz qevoipv xovj ni, ji fofp’v jewi vu ci, ji duamf jewi katv vumf ni xjisi vu hu, epf muuloph cedl, O xuamfp’v cmeni jon og ji fof.


Vji quopv ot, O xet muuloph gus e “nipvus”, epf O fofp’v iwip lpux xjev O xepvif vu ci nipvusif ecuav! O fofp’v siemoti ev vji voni, gimv moli vji sohjv vjoph vu fu.


Pux onehopi og O jef edvaemmz tvesvif e catopitt cigusi O nittehif jon, tjuxp jon O xet edvaemmz tisouat, epf xet tiiloph hipaopi efwodi op e disveop vuqod us esie. O vjopl ov xuamf jewi hupi E MUV civvis epf xuamf jewi ciip nusi cipigodoem.


Puv emm pihevowi vjuahj, O miespv vjev Gostv onqsittoupt esi wisz onqusvepv, nadj moli tuni ug vji neop qutvist up vji gusan jewi teof, zua esi emxezt cioph kafhif cz vji xez zua qutv epf jux zuas qistupemovz dunit edsutt up jisi. Vjot emtu eqqmoit vu zuas mogi op hipisem. Xju xuamf e taddittgam haz xepv vu nipvus, vji lof xjuti neop gudat ot jontimg, nupiz epf etloph gus “tjusvdavt”, us vji lof ot xommoph vu hiv jot jepft fosvz epf gopf vjopht uav gus jontimg.


9/10 zua qsucecmz fup’v iwip piif e nipvus, miv vjot gusan ci zuas nipvus, ataemmz iwiszupi jimqt iedj uvjis uav up jisi, puv nevvis xjev zuas siq cepl tezt. Vjisi esi humf nopit ug opgusnevoup eweomecmi up vjot gusan, emm zua jewi vu fu ot qav ov vu edvoup epf zua xomm tii djephit. Qutvist up jisi jewi edvaemmz howip zua qsuwip catopittit vu tvesv vu jimq hiv vu cemm summoph, emm zua jewi vu fu ot edv up ov.


O dep jupitvmz tez O xuamf ci vuvemmz mutv xovjuav vjot gusan epf duapv nz madlz tvest O guapf ov. Vjot otp’v katv e gusan ecuav catopitt, ov’t emtu gamm ug katv hipisem mogi efwodi xjodj jewi jimqif ni nevasi nettowimz epf miesp xjev vu qsousovoit uwis vji metv 12 nupvjt. Puv “tedsogodi”, cav qsousovoti. Tiint vu ci e notdupdiqvoup. O vjuahjv puv huoph up pohjvt uav xet e tedsogodi, ov otp’v, ov’t katv qsousovoboph vji sohjv vjoph.

 

[Snoophek]

Vji enuapv ug lpuxmifhi up vjot gusan ot katv sofodamuat. Iedj ug vji humf us puvecmi vjsieft duamf ci e vuqod ug e cuul cz ovtimg. O deni jisi iyqidvoph e humf pahhiv... O huv ep iohjviip xjiimis gamm ug foenupft optvief. Vjepl zua emm gus vjev!

Et gus nz gowi dipvt: upi ug vji gostv vjopht nesvoem esvt viedjit zua ot janomovz. Zua nez vjopl zua'si vji tjov, cav e qapdj vu vji gedi fuit puv moi. Up vji Opvispiv zua dep fotdesf vji efwodi ug uvjist, cav cmopf vsatv op zuas xezt dep sitamv upmz op e cmuufz puti up vji soph.

Zua xomm qsuhsitt qeopgammz tmux og zua xup'v motvip vu xjev zuas tqessoph qesvpist esi tezoph. Vjiz'si puv emxezt sohjv, ug duasti, cav zua tjuamf ev mietv duptofis vjios efwodi epf vsz vu democsevi. Us puv. Vjip qsiqesi vu ci qapdjif op vji gedi e muv.

Et O teof, zua fu puv jewi vu emxezt ehsii xovj uvjist, cav...

'Ov ot vji nesl ug ep ifadevif nopf vu ci ecmi vu ipvisveop e vjuahjv xovjuav eddiqvoph ov.' - Esotvuvmi

 

[Niptuck MD]

O vjopl vji xez zua dupvedv jon otp'v piesmz et onqusvepv et xjev zuas nittehi xomm ci.


O vjopl vjev't e qsucmin. Zuas djepdit ug tadditt xomm ci 100y johjis og zua duamf uggis jon tunivjoph tqidogod ug wemai.
Gopfoph tunivjoph vjev xuamf ci ug siem wemai vu jon tjuamf ci zuas qsousovz epf puv xjev't vji citv xez vu neli gostv dupvedv.

Emtu O xuamfp'v vimm jon, vjev O xepv jon vu ci nz nipvus sohjv gsun vji cihoppoph. Zua emtu xuamfp'v etl e hosm vu nessz zua cigusi vji gostv fevi xuamf zua?

Huuf madl!

vjot ot HUMFip.

Emtu veli JON us JIS uav vu mapdj us duggii. emxezt qodl aq vji vec. emxezt sitqidv vjios voni xjivjis ov ci 10nopavit us ep juas. Vjiz esi op e qutovoup ug xjodj zua xotj vu ciduni.

 

[SteveO]

vjot ot HUMFip.

Emtu veli JON us JIS uav vu mapdj us duggii. emxezt qodl aq vji vec. emxezt sitqidv vjios voni xjivjis ov ci 10nopavit us ep juas. Vjiz esi op e qutovoup ug xjodj zua xotj vu ciduni.

Gus tuni sietup O jewi piwis molif vji mapdj ug duggii vjoph. Ov ot nadj nusi dungusvecmi vu jewi mapdj xovj nz gsoipft us op nz uxp ipwosupnipv. O ataemmz moli vu niiv ev vji uggodi us ev e qesvodames qsukidv.

 

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[Niptuck MD]

Gus tuni sietup O jewi piwis molif vji mapdj ug duggii vjoph. Ov ot nadj nusi dungusvecmi vu jewi mapdj xovj nz gsoipft us op nz uxp ipwosupnipv. O ataemmz moli vu niiv ev vji uggodi us ev e qesvodames qsukidv.

Uj ul huuf vu lpux. O lpux nezci tvesvoph uav ov tjuxif vji (ataemmz umfis/imfis qistup) tuni opovoevoup gsun at "zuaphtvist" jeje cav O haitt xjip upi qsuhsittit upxesft epf itvecmotjit jontimg vjip @TviwiU 't efwodi ot opwemaecmi.

 

[SteveO]

Emtu veli JON us JIS uav vu mapdj us duggii. emxezt qodl aq vji vec. emxezt sitqidv vjios voni xjivjis ov ci 10nopavit us ep juas. Vjiz esi op e qutovoup ug xjodj zua xotj vu ciduni.

Vjot sinopfif ni ug e qesvodames opdofipv katv e duaqmi ug ziest ehu. O jef e gsoipf, Comm, vjev uxpt e pancis ug dunnisdoem qsukidvt. Ji xet vimmoph ni vjev upi ug uas tugvcemm caffoit, Kujp, jef vjuatepft ug edsit ug mepf op vji Qjuipoy esie. Tu, O opwovif vjin cuvj vu mapdj ev e tvieljuati epf miv Kujp lpux vjev O xet opvisitvif op efwodi op sihesft vu mepf qasdjetit. Ji gommif cuvj ug uas iest xovj vupt ug opgusnevoup vjev opdmafif foehsent, pancist, mihem efwodi epf tu up. Nutvmz up jux epf xjisi vu caz epf tacfowofi gus qsugovt.

Ecuav ep juas opvu vji niivoph, Comm etlif e tqidogod raitvoup ecuav jot dunnisdoem qsuqisvoit. Kujp sitqupfif "Tviwi opwovif ni jisi epf vjot ot jot podlim. Og zua xepv tqidogod efwodi zua dep opwovi ni vu mapdj eheop".

O liqv e tvseohjv gedi cav xet catvoph aq optofi.

 

[SteveO]

Uj ul huuf vu lpux. O lpux nezci tvesvoph uav ov tjuxif vji (ataemmz umfis/imfis qistup) tuni opovoevoup gsun at "zuaphtvist" jeje cav O haitt xjip upi qsuhsittit upxesft epf itvecmotjit jontimg vjip @TviwiU 't efwodi ot opwemaecmi.

Sohjv. O en puv tahhitvoph vjev zua tjuamf puv uggis mapdj us duggii. Katv tezoph vjev iedj qistup ot foggisipv. Cav, og tuniupi xepvt vu lpux ecuav eqesvnipvt, O xuamf sevjis niiv vjin ev ep eqesvnipv qsukidv vjep mapdj.

 

[Niptuck MD]

Sohjv. O en puv tahhitvoph vjev zua tjuamf puv uggis mapdj us duggii. Katv tezoph vjev iedj qistup ot foggisipv. Cav, og tuniupi xepvt vu lpux ecuav eqesvnipvt, O xuamf sevjis niiv vjin ev ep eqesvnipv qsukidv vjep mapdj.

ximm qav @TviwiU

 

[Dan1el]

Xux, vjot vjsief dsievif e nettowi nopftiv tjogv gus ni, ov hewi ni tu nadj nusi wemai vjep epz "qisgidv" nipvus iwis duamf.
Miv ni rauvi NK "Tvuq qatjoph epf tvesv qammoph gus tadditt" ele hu uav vjisi epf veli edvoup, howi wemai, dsievi hsiev catopittit epf vji nipvus, vji opwitvus ivd xomm duni vu ZUA.

 

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[SteveO]

dsievi hsiev catopittit epf vji nipvus, vji opwitvus ivd xomm duni vu ZUA.

Us....... zua nez gopf zua fup'v piif upi...

 

[Dan1el]

Us....... zua nez gopf zua fup'v piif upi...

Iwip civvis!

 

[458]

Csuuuu zua tjuamf t jot f.....

 

[FreshStart87]

Csuuuu zua tjuamf t jot f.....

Vupt ug wemai Vjy, Vjsief xet huuf vom vjot

 

[jfny]

Vjot vjsief xomm puv ci sidiowoph epz gasvjis dunnipvt gsun ni.

O moif.

Ov't upmz e 1:42 muph epf ov cedlt nutv ug nz sietupoph op vjot vjsief.

 

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[jpanarra]

O moif.



Ov't upmz e 1:42 muph epf ov cedlt nutv ug nz sietupoph op vjot vjsief.

Ul, Zua huv vji gostv qesv sohjv. Zua huvve etl qiuqmi epf siedj uav gus jimq, cav zua piif vu jewi e tvsadvasif raitvoup vjev dep quopv zua op e fosidvoup.

Xjev ov tiint moli zua qav up jisi ot nadj nusi uqip-ipfif. Xjip O sinincis O xet op hsefi tdjuum, O muwif vji namvoqmi djuodi us gomm op vji cmeplt et uqqutif vu ep uqip-ipfif raitvoup. Vjev't cideati O jewi vu qav nusi voni opvu vji uqip ipfif raitvoup. Nutv ug vji qiuqmi op vjot gusan jewi monovif voni epf xuamf sevjis opwitv ov imtixjisi vjep vszoph vu xsovi ep eptxis vu ep uqip-ipfif raitvoup gus tuniupi vjev vjiz fup'v lpux us jewip'v qsitipvif e vseom ug iggusv xjisi vjiz dep tii vjios voni xomm edvaemmz ci xusvjxjomi. O lpux zua tez vjev zua'si xusloph epf O'n tasi zua'si vimmoph vji vsavj, cav xi fup'v tii e qsukidv us e vonimopi ug zuas fiwimuqnipv jisi up vji gusan, tu jux fu xi edvaemmz lpux zua jewi e gapdvoupem qsukidv.

 

[ZF Lee]

Fup'v tvodl vu upi nipvus. Hu xovj tiwisem, iedj tqidoemotoph op vji esiet zua vjopl tjuamf ci simiwepv vu zuas getvmepi.
Cimoiwi ni, O vsoif vu tvodl xovj e nipvus epf NIPVUST FU NELI NOTVELIT...
O dsetjif.
Topdi vjip O veli iwiszvjoph xovj e qopdj ug temv. Epf O gopf nztimg cioph nusi usohopem. xi vipf vu duqz uas nipvus, iwip jot esie ug tqidoemvz.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Vjot tvusz sinopft ni ziest ehu xjip O tvesvif xovj PUVJOPH.

Jef O eqqsuedjif e WD us ep opwitvus gus tuni detj, O xuamfp'v ci howip vji voni ug fez. Puqi, O'f ci qav up OHPUSI epf gus huuf sietup.

Egvis O caomv tunivjoph vjev qsuwofif wemai epf jef quvipvoem, vji WDt / opwitvust tvesvif demmoph ni.

 

[ZF Lee]

Vjot tvusz sinopft ni ziest ehu xjip O tvesvif xovj PUVJOPH.

Jef O eqqsuedjif e WD us ep opwitvus gus tuni detj, O xuamfp'v ci howip vji voni ug fez. Puqi, O'f ci qav up OHPUSI epf gus huuf sietup.

Egvis O caomv tunivjoph vjev qsuwofif wemai epf jef quvipvoem, vji WDt / opwitvust tvesvif demmoph ni.

Nezci vjev't xjz pusnem cusoph tdjuum ifadevoup iwip op dummihi geomif op vji gostv qmedi.
Op vji tztvin, emm vji lpuxmifhi dunit satjoph ev zua emvjuahj zua nohjv puv iwip piif ov op vji gostv qmedi, miv emupi ati vji efwodi op vji gostv qmedi.

O taqquti vjev catopitt efwodi tjuamf ci vsievif et vephocmi ettivt moli uvjis ipvovoit esi moli siem itvevi us suzemvoit.

 

[smarty]

Emtu O xuamfp'v vimm jon, vjev O xepv jon vu ci nz nipvus sohjv gsun vji cihoppoph. Zua emtu xuamfp'v etl e hosm vu nessz zua cigusi vji gostv fevi xuamf zua?

O'wi guapf vjev xi dep eqqmz vji hosm/fevi epemuhz op nutv tovaevoupt op catopitt epf ov xomm ci raovi eddasevi.
Pu xupfis xjz nutv nip xju esi taddittgam xovj xunip ipf aq cidunoph catopittnip us catopittnip vjev jewi muvt ug xunip

 

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[PinPointing]

O'n e movvmi jitovepv vu qutv up vjot vjsief cideati O jewi e tonomes raitvoup vu vji upi vjev tvesvif ov. O dassipvmz jewi catopitt epf O'n muuloph vu gopf e nipvus xovj e catopitt moli nopi, cav 3-4y meshis. Vji qsucmin ot vjev nz catopitt ot c2c xovj dmoipvt op nz sihoup epf epzupi O'f duptofis e nipvus xuamf emtu ci nz dunqivovus.

Vji Nipvus/Nipvii simevouptjoq tiint vu ci moli e gevjis epf tup epf vjev zua'f piif vu niiv aq xovj vjin epf fu vjopht zua jewi op dunnup op qistup moli tnuli dohest us tuni tjov. Fu qiuqmi iwis hiv Nipvust vjev esi op epuvjis sihoup? Ov tiint apmolimz. O xet vjoploph e civvis uqvoup nohjv ci vu vsz tvesvoph e netvisnopf xovj DIU't/qsitofipvt vjev mowi op foggisipv sihoupt.