Hi everyone! I am wondering what is the best way to initiate a conversation with girls. Cuz I found out that usual "Hi! Where are you from/ What are you studying?" question don't really get them interested. They will just reply one or two words and that's all.
People say that you should focus on her if you want to keep the conversation going, eg. talk about things related to her instead of me. But I found out that if I keep asking her questions like "where are you from, what did you do today, what's your plan for tomorrow?", the conversation will be boring and she will lose interest, as it sounds like an "interview". Not to mention she will keep replying by using one or two words only. I will slowly become nervous if she doesn't reply enthusiastically even though I have taken interest in her.
Lastly, I don't get it. Some guys are way quieter than me, and they usually didn't initiate conservation with girls. If a quiet guys and me sit with other girls, I found that sometimes some girls tend to want to talk to them than me. This really puzzled my mind, how can a guys who put in the effort in taking interest to know the girls get a cold response from them, while they tend to talk to some quiet guys?
By the way, the "girls" here refers to girls in general. I have talked to a lot of girls, and have noticed this kind of pattern is consistent anywhere.
People say that you should focus on her if you want to keep the conversation going, eg. talk about things related to her instead of me. But I found out that if I keep asking her questions like "where are you from, what did you do today, what's your plan for tomorrow?", the conversation will be boring and she will lose interest, as it sounds like an "interview". Not to mention she will keep replying by using one or two words only. I will slowly become nervous if she doesn't reply enthusiastically even though I have taken interest in her.
Lastly, I don't get it. Some guys are way quieter than me, and they usually didn't initiate conservation with girls. If a quiet guys and me sit with other girls, I found that sometimes some girls tend to want to talk to them than me. This really puzzled my mind, how can a guys who put in the effort in taking interest to know the girls get a cold response from them, while they tend to talk to some quiet guys?
By the way, the "girls" here refers to girls in general. I have talked to a lot of girls, and have noticed this kind of pattern is consistent anywhere.
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