Ages and Stages

[CaptainAmerica]

Three separate engagements this week, one stupid bias.

I just turned 50. Like all 'milestone' birthdays, it brings the whackadoos out of the woodwork. I'm supposed to act my age - this hasn't been a problem since they said it 10 years ago. Not only am I supposed to ACT my age, I'm supposed to be in a certain STAGE of my life. Which is a lovely sentiment, but just doesn't hold water.

Let's pretend no one knows how old I am:
I graduated college in 2009, and bought my first house in 2011. I've had 2 jobs in my career. I hope to get married within 3 years. I've just started on my entrepreneurial journey. I turned down my trainer's offer to prep me for a bodybuilding competition, because I don't have time.
Now how old am I?

See? I'm 31. Except that I look like a nice middle-aged lady, and the cognitive dissonance really, really bugs some people.

So what? What's this got to do with the Fastlane? Lots!

No one outside our brains knows what we're capable of. It doesn't matter what we look like; we're under no obligation to perform like trained seals to what other people think. We don't have to buy in to narratives that don't work for us, and we don't have to listen to people who want to pull us back in to the crab bucket. The standard 'everyone does it' bias is a great filter - if someone pulls that noise, they're not going to get any more of my time.

 

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[GeorgiaHustle]

No one outside our brains knows what we're capable of. It doesn't matter what we look like; we're under no obligation to perform like trained seals to what other people think. We don't have to buy in to narratives that don't work for us, and we don't have to listen to people who want to pull us back in to the crab bucket. The standard 'everyone does it' bias is a great filter - if someone pulls that noise, they're not going to get any more of my time.

Thank You for fleshing this out. You are exactly right, too many people observe life and others under a "cookie cut lens".

 

[BlakeIC]

Thank You for fleshing this out. You are exactly right, too many people observe life and others under a "cookie cut lens".

The part you bolded, i was thinking about the same exact thing an hour ago while I was doing cardio (60 minutes straight!)

 

[Alxander]

Funny, Gary Vee just made a video "So You Just Turned 50"

 

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[Tapp001]

Three separate engagements this week, one stupid bias.

I just turned 50. Like all 'milestone' birthdays, it brings the whackadoos out of the woodwork. I'm supposed to act my age - this hasn't been a problem since they said it 10 years ago. Not only am I supposed to ACT my age, I'm supposed to be in a certain STAGE of my life. Which is a lovely sentiment, but just doesn't hold water.

Let's pretend no one knows how old I am:
I graduated college in 2009, and bought my first house in 2011. I've had 2 jobs in my career. I hope to get married within 3 years. I've just started on my entrepreneurial journey. I turned down my trainer's offer to prep me for a bodybuilding competition, because I don't have time.
Now how old am I?

See? I'm 31. Except that I look like a nice middle-aged lady, and the cognitive dissonance really, really bugs some people.

So what? What's this got to do with the Fastlane? Lots!

No one outside our brains knows what we're capable of. It doesn't matter what we look like; we're under no obligation to perform like trained seals to what other people think. We don't have to buy in to narratives that don't work for us, and we don't have to listen to people who want to pull us back in to the crab bucket. The standard 'everyone does it' bias is a great filter - if someone pulls that noise, they're not going to get any more of my time.

"I'm not a kid anymore. I don't have time. I'm set in my ways."

You just annihilated those excuses, and a million like them.

 

[matteblack]

Three separate engagements this week, one stupid bias.

I just turned 50. Like all 'milestone' birthdays, it brings the whackadoos out of the woodwork. I'm supposed to act my age - this hasn't been a problem since they said it 10 years ago. Not only am I supposed to ACT my age, I'm supposed to be in a certain STAGE of my life. Which is a lovely sentiment, but just doesn't hold water.

Let's pretend no one knows how old I am:
I graduated college in 2009, and bought my first house in 2011. I've had 2 jobs in my career. I hope to get married within 3 years. I've just started on my entrepreneurial journey. I turned down my trainer's offer to prep me for a bodybuilding competition, because I don't have time.
Now how old am I?

See? I'm 31. Except that I look like a nice middle-aged lady, and the cognitive dissonance really, really bugs some people.

So what? What's this got to do with the Fastlane? Lots!

No one outside our brains knows what we're capable of. It doesn't matter what we look like; we're under no obligation to perform like trained seals to what other people think. We don't have to buy in to narratives that don't work for us, and we don't have to listen to people who want to pull us back in to the crab bucket. The standard 'everyone does it' bias is a great filter - if someone pulls that noise, they're not going to get any more of my time.

Bump

 

[Kevin88660]

There are many dimensions to this age argument.

On one hand, you are always young if you are healthy. How much time do you have in life is really more related to your biological age defined by health markers rather than your passport age defined by date of birth.

There is no basis for comparison if you are playing different games. If you are running your own business there is no milestone for promotion, pay raise, and the need to egoistically prove that you are "earning more than your peers of the same age".

Age is a useful proxy used by people who are playing the same traditional game, where there is a strong correlation between progress and time input.

 

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