Lol, this turned into a long post.
- What are your major milestones? What makes you proud?
Turning my life around. This time last year I had got myself in a pickle, overweight, drinking every day, taking antidepressants, fresh out of a breakup and single, semi-homeless, in essence, my life sucked. I made the decision to change, built a vision and got to it. Within 3 months I lost 3 stone and I’m now in the best shape of my life. Stopped the antidepressants. I stopped drinking entirely, didn’t find it difficult and thoroughly enjoyed the process. I found mentors, took courses and engaged with online communities.
I took back control and decided that I needed to remove the negative inputs, so I left the UK in January and spent 5 months living in Nepal and Turkey while working remotely.
I spent time working hard on the early stages of setting up a business (noted below).
I started making content for the first time, sharing my story and getting great feedback.
I helped others stop drinking.
More recently I have met a new girlfriend, and am in the best relationship I have ever been in.
- Major setbacks? What could have gone better but didn’t?
Mindset. Mindset. Mindset. I know some above have said mindset is not necessarily important, however, I have to disagree, in my case anyway. Applying the Fastway way of thinking is applying the Fastlane mindset (be that beliefs or processes), so it feels odd to me to think it's not important. I can't read the linked post as I'm not in
INSIDERS yet, but will make sure to check it when I am.
But anyway, in my situation, I didn’t take the action I needed because I had a terrible worldview when it came to money, and receiving this from other people. I didn’t believe in my ability, even though I got great feedback and results. I still felt loyal to a job system that takes a lot and gives little in return and was terrified of packing in it and relying on myself.
I did a lot of work on this, and made excellent strides, but when I returned to the UK and started spending time in the old circles. People sneered when I talked about entrepreneurship and trying to leave the traditional job world. Negative thinking started to surround me again. To combat this I have been reducing my time with certain friends, left toxic WhatsApp groups and started finding people on a similar mission online again. For the past few months I’ve reviewed a plan every morning and night. My mindset is transformed, I now know it's not if I’ll get there, it's when. And now taking the action is (often) easy.
I worked hard on setting up a stop-drinking alcohol business, after taking a loan out to pay for a business coach. Even though I secured my first high-ticket client, I gave up on this, mostly due to my mindset and struggling to work a highly demanding full-time job. My get-out-of-debt plan has landed me in more debt, the kind
@MJ DeMarco would call parasitic debt. I have to work my job to keep up with repayments, I can’t get out the debt because my job doesn’t pay enough, it’s a challenge forging a way out as the job takes a lot of energy and time. But… it’s not impossible.
My sister of 30 years old passed away suddenly. I am proud of the way I navigated this. I managed to not become entirely derailed and can support those around me. However, it’s for sure been the biggest thing I have gone through in life. And unfortunately, before this happened I had come to realise that although I love my family deeply, they can bring me down and have certain behaviors which impact my progress greatly. This period of grief has in many ways brought out the worst in some and I have needed to be extremely stoic when navigating this. I'm learning how to support those who need support, without taking on too much of their emotions.
And although the above are ‘setbacks’ they have been strong teachers. I am clear on my mission and I have absolute clarity that I need to work the fastlane.
- Major “completes”? Anything worthy of a solid check mark and “I did it!”
Got my first ever paid client outside of the 9-5 and showed myself that it is possible.
Reached out to someone I respected and asked them to mentor me.
I took back control of my health, mental and physical.
I organised events at the UN, as well as a workshop in Africa attended by people from 4 other African countries.
Recruited a group of successful people to test a coaching program starting in January.
- What you’d like for 2023!
Jan 1st - March 31st - complete focus on the mission.
Priorities
Match my salary through business, or work (probably sales) that is building on needed skills, so I can leave the 9-5 and go all in.
Decide on my niche. Either a stop drinking program or, get your health/well-being back.
Surround myself with successful people - finish Fastlane and join
INSIDERS - build current accountability group or find an established one to join. Find entrepreneurs locally.
Release 20 videos on youtube. Not focusing too much on quality. Just pumping them out, learning as I go and building momentum.
1% better every video.
Build a website that gets people on sales calls.
Make sales calls, be that for my business or someone elses.
Skills to build
Business mindset - finish Fastlane. Put a summary of key points up somewhere obvious, and review every day.
Networking and communication.
Copywriting - finish course. Make website and ‘irresistible offer’.
Sales - I have the knowledge, scripts and talent, I just need to do it more.
Coaching - future-focused.
Habits
Daily progress actions towards Fastlane, TBC.
Meditate 20 mins daily
Exercise 5 X per week - walk on days off
No caffeine (sadly coffee destroys my focus, weird I know)