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Fapped and porned twice yesterday.
Day 0 again..
Day 0 again..
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Free registration at the forum removes this block.Hey brother,@mguerra, do you think SWISH works in overcoming your fear. Eg: repeat a certain feared thought in the head (i.e. “I have cancer” or “My gf will reject me”). Make the thought gloomy and vivid, and fade away with the SWISH technique being replaced by the intended results. I've heard it works wonders when it comes "life situations" like speaking to strangers / approaching girls. Any thoughts?
I realised that most of our biggest obstacle is our own discipline, if we are able to improve small steps daily, we’d reach somewhere.
My 2021 resolution is
1) learn GSD (Get Shit Done) better
2) learn to reinforce good habits
3) write diary
I’ve been brutally honest in writing, on average once a week, for over a year.Add to discipline, our ego. And you have 95% of our obstacles.
#3 will change your life if you turn it into a reflection journal and stay brutally honest.
Welcome to the challenge!I'm in this challenge.
My addictions are No Porn, No Fap and less than 2 hrs Screen time
Day 1 --
No Fap (Yes)
Without PORN there is no point in Fap.
No Porn (Yes)
Had the Urge to watch videos but Resisted IT.
Less Phone (Yes)
Using less phone didn't affect my life and I felt like I am feeling less dependant on my phone.
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I am considering to add other habits which are Waking up early and Meditation for 30 mins a day.
One thing I can tell you about giving up a bad habit is to replace it with a good one. You were wasting your life on stuff that meant nothing in the long run. Now you want to change your life. Your mind is still not focused. You're still drifting like a boat without a keel. It sounds like you need to work on that issue. What habit can you create that can replace your drift? How can you track yourself and your activities better?I still have a huge personal problem of not following up with important things, major procrastination and forgetfulness, but it has improved because of this new habit. I wonder how I can do a daily personal challenge for this. Any suggestions?
Each night make a list of the most important 3 things that you must do the next day. Layout what you need to complete those 3 things and put your to-do list next to those items. Then visualize yourself doing each of them efficiently and effectively. WHEN you simply do the most important 3 things everyday, you'll be amazed at your progress. This goes for your workdays and your leisure days too. It's a daily habit like brushing your teeth.No Porn / No Fap
Day 0 again, lasted for 29 days from 11 Dec to 9 Jan. The "improvement" was that I didn't end up in a two day fapathon like I sometimes do when I break.
Meditation
10 - 15 mins day as always. Just sit and things to help 1) chill 2) imagine a light between your temples 3) breath in imaginary growing light and breath our weaker light. I won't sweat it if my mind wander, which happens all the time.
Early Bird
I was waking up 6+ to 7 and it kinda went back to 7 + again after my girl move in with me. I am looking at waking up as early as possible again in 2021.
Less Phone
As most of us are office workers, phone is very connected to what most of us do. My suggestion to you is to set 15/30/60 minutes interval alarm clock so that we can concentrate on work, before flipping back to phone - which is also work but very disctracting kind - like sales reply. For me it was very tough to no look at the phone for 15 minutes when I was doing things I need to concentrate but procrastinate.
Re-emphasising my 2021 resolution is
1) learn GSD (Get Shit Done) better
2) learn to reinforce good habits (reinforcing no nose picking) @WJK said it right, it helps 100x if you can replace your old bad habit with a new one.
3) write diary
Each night make a list of the most important 3 things that you must do the next day. Layout what you need to complete those 3 things and put your to-do list next to those items. Then visualize yourself doing each of them efficiently and effectively. WHEN you simply do the most important 3 things everyday, you'll be amazed at your progress. This goes for your workdays and your leisure days too. It's a daily habit like brushing your teeth.
Don't forget to keep a copy of that to-do list, and any notes that you make, in your daily log notes (diary). It's easy to forget what you did and when you did it. And when you get discouraged -- and you will have those days -- you can open your log and see your steady progress.
Why just 3 things on your list? Most people make lists that go on forever. And they get discouraged when they can't mark them all off. Furthermore, they cringe when they see that endless list unrolling. I figure that I can always add an extra chore WHEN I get my 3 things done for the day - if I want to or can do more. And I do the most important, or the one I hate the most, first thing in the morning. When that one is done, the rest of the day is smooth sailing.
My 3 things don't have to be mind-boggling huge. They can be baby steps to a bigger goal. The whole exercise to move forward each day rather than waiting for the right moment or mood.
Tomorrow and Monday are my days off from my office. I know we'll be going out of town on business during those days. But, tonight before I leave, I'll lay out the paperwork for my next working day and put my list of 3 on my whiteboard above my desk. I won't have to think about how my day will start on Tuesday. It's all decided and ready for me to go to work. I hope this helps...
No Porn / No Fap
Day 0 again, lasted for 29 days from 11 Dec to 9 Jan. The "improvement" was that I didn't end up in a two day fapathon like I sometimes do when I break.
Less Phone
As most of us are office workers, phone is very connected to what most of us do. My suggestion to you is to set 15/30/60 minutes interval alarm clock so that we can concentrate on work, before flipping back to phone - which is also work but very disctracting kind - like sales reply. For me it was very tough to no look at the phone for 15 minutes when I was doing things I need to concentrate but procrastinate.
Re-emphasising my 2021 resolution is
1) learn GSD (Get Shit Done) better
2) learn to reinforce good habits (reinforcing no nose picking) @WJK said it right, it helps 100x if you can replace your old bad habit with a new one.
3) write diary
An Advice that I want from you guys is How do you deal with PORN.
Put your list in front of your face where you can't miss it. Put it where you can't ignore it. I have a whiteboard above my desk in my office. I put a line through items that are completed. Then I erase the lined-out items at the end of the day and make my new list for the next day. I use the space around my list to make myself notes and prompts. I have asked myself the same question all day long -- What can I do at this moment to further my goal?Thank you @WJK, definitely work in progress for me, one of the best thing that happened to me during this horrid covid times is finding FLF, and attempting to do the GSD "Get Shit Done" daily challenge. Just three things, nothing more. I'll be very honest that I failed more than half of the time, and they are times I don't review my GSD list for two weeks, but even with this partial GSD achievement, I've seen a leap in myself.
Even with 2019 and 2020 hitting 30 or 40 days of nofap, I still struggle, like yesterday. Now it's back to basics, My challenge is noporn/nofap till 6th February the weekend, 21 days.
My death knell is Twitter. I got over Facebook, Instagram, YouTube bla bla but stopped working for me with Twitter. I think I spend like one two hours a day on it.
I totally forgot about my diary habit in 2021, for me, it doesn't need to be daily even, just once every few days.
First weekend went well, now for the second and third. Till 6th February.
Spending a huge amount of time on Twitter. Works requires but I think it's mainly my isssue.
Still didn't write any this whole week.
For yoga, this week went good where I practiced in every day except for one time, so this habit has been consistent in 2021, and also 2020 through out.
Its been 45 days since my last post, sadly fapping and porn has relapsed, I didn’t count but I’d say about 5 faps. The most recent was today and yesterday. It’s still far better than two years ago when it’s almost daily, but also far from my prior discipline.
My goal will be to get back to the 21 days abstinence soon, slowly but surely.
No Fap for 7 days so far, and counting.
I've also been able to meditate 10 - 15 mins calmly lately, with less jittery.
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