Andy Black
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Try letting people know beforehand how long you've got or can stay for.I'm a freshman in college, so I'm still in the early stages of learning to navigate adult relationships, platonic and romantic. My achilles heel lately, when it comes to my productivity and time management at least, is not being able to leave social settings and/or being unable to say no. I have developed a lot of good friendships, and I find that it is hard for me to say no to someone I enjoy being around, even if I have other things I should be doing (homework, work, gym, etc.) I keep people over too long, or stay out too late, because I get caught up in having fun and I don't know when I should call it quits. I also started dating a girl who lives in my apartment complex. We're getting past the honeymoon phase of "I want to see you every second of every day", but I still find myself hanging out with her almost every night. We like spending time together, and it's just really easy and convenient due to the living situation. I know I should kick her out earlier, but I lose track of time, and all of the sudden it's like midnight.
I just feel like I have a hard time deciding when end a social event, or when to decline altogether.
While the social connection is fantastic, and has made me much happier, I think it's time I start teaching myself how to balance it out with the rest of my life. It is starting to, slowly but surely, eat away at important areas of my life. What would your guys' advice be to start balancing everything out?
"Hey, I'd love to pop over. I'll have to head at 9pm though/if that's ok."
You may or may not give a reason. Either way try not to be apologetic.
Try that and see if it helps.