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Do you want to be successful?

Want to swim in a pool of money while sipping scotch?

Want to have amazing relationships with people?

Want to work on what you want where you want and when you want to?

Well, guess what? Literally every other person on the planet wants that.

You are by no means special for wanting these things just like everybody else. But what separates you from those who have all of it already is not luck or smarts or impeccable business acumen.

What separates you from them is they realise that they DON'T matter. And you think that you do.

Really. You don't f*king matter when it comes to not just business but literally every other thing in the universe. People ever since they were kids have been brought up with the idea that they are the centre of the universe. You cry, and the whole room comes to your service. You demand shit and there are at least two people who are ready to give it to you.

Flash news, the world doesn't revolve around you that way. No one gives a shit about you. Every other person has been brought up the same f*king way.

So other people only EXPECT shit from you. They neither want to give nor are they inclined to serve you.

All they care about is what you can give them. @MJ DeMarco really goes into detail on this topic. But I also want to share with you my take on how this works and how you can use it to your advantage.

The best way you can make money is by making other people more money.

This is an iron clad rule in business and in life in general.

The best way to get anything is to give other people more of the same thing or something else.

That is why I think that starting a business because you want to be your own boss is utter foolishness.

You hate your boss? Try having to manage 10 crappy clients who want to suck the soul out of you while paying as little as possible.

No one works for themselves.

Literally, no one works for themselves. Ones who only truly work for themselves are miserable people you find in your everyday life in your surroundings. These kind of people only try to take, take and take from others. Because they believe that they are entitled to that shit. And that gets them nowhere in life. They become so miserable, they start hating life, hating world and condemn everything to damnation.

Everyone who is even remotely successful works for someone else.

You think your boss is the ultimate 'boss'? Guess how many bosses he has? All of his clients/customers are his bosses. And imagine what would happen if all of them fire him a.k.a stop buying from him. He would go bankrupt in puff!

You think you can be your own boss after starting your business? Wait till you know who pays your bills. In fact I you can argue that having a boss is better than not having one, because if you f*k up you get instant feedback from your boss (by the way of calling to his office in a somber tone). But if you have 'no boss', then if you f*k up, there's no way for you to get feedback. If you are lucky, you'd have to search through the pile of complaints. But if you are not, then you'll be rewarded with absolute silence.

I am writing all of this to show you how insignificant you are. No one gives a f*k about you. All they care about is what you can give them.

In fact this also applies to you. Imagine someone only wanting to take stuff from you and not give anything in return (Like the crappy clients we discussed earlier). Yeah, you won't be very pleased too.

What? That's so depressing Raju. Should I just give up my dreams and just sacrifice my life for someone else?

Oh f*k no. We are entrepreneurs. We are problem solvers. Now this problem has been presented to us. We want to escape bondage and create the life we want.

So what do we do?

We use this fact to our advantage.

We know people only care about themselves. So if we can acquire skills and design solutions to fulfil THEIR dreams, you can fulfil yours too.

Focus on making THEIR dreams and aspirations come true. F*k your dreams for a while, and focus on others. This will keep compounding and pay hefty dividends into the future.

Who the f*k on earth is passionate about cleaning other people's shit? But there are people in this world who have made millions doing just that (waste water treatment).

There are many such examples across all industries (steel manufacturing, plastic imports and exports, cloth manufacturing). No one is born with dreams to keep hammering on steel or to sit at a sewing machine making cloth. But people have made and are making millions from doing these mundane things.

The path of Entrepreneurship is not sexy. And it is definitely NOT about you. It's all about what you can do to OTHER people.

You can apply this to many other aspects of life. Have a crappy job that barely gives you enough money to pay your bills? Have a job that make you curse the world out loud on what an injustice it has done to you? In that case think of how much value you are giving your current employer. If you can give them 10x more, you can bet your a$$ they will pay you 10x more. If they won't somebody else will.

So don't EVER complain about not having money, or a good job, or a life that you want WITHOUT introspecting about what you are giving to other people.

As @Andy Black says, focus on helping people. This way you can easily shift your perspective from ME to OTHER. This way you can honestly look at yourself and ask yourself if you are putting in enough value into the world to get the outcome that you are looking for.

Here I am including the infamous open letter by Bill Gates to high school and college graduates. I think these rules hit the point home about this topic and life in general.

Bill Gates 11 Rules They Won’t Teach You In School


Rule 1: Life is not fair — get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

In short, F*ck YOU, focus on others.
 
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Do you want to be successful?

Want to swim in a pool of money while sipping scotch?

Want to have amazing relationships with people?

Want to work on what you want where you want and when you want to?

Well, guess what? Literally every other person on the planet wants that.

You are by no means special for wanting these things just like everybody else. But what separates you from those who have all of it already is not luck or smarts or impeccable business acumen.

What separates you from them is they realise that they DON'T matter. And you think that you do.

Really. You don't f*king matter when it comes to not just business but literally every other thing in the universe. People ever since they were kids have been brought up with the idea that they are the centre of the universe. You cry, and the whole room comes to your service. You demand shit and there are at least two people who are ready to give it to you.

Flash news, the world doesn't revolve around you that way. No one gives a shit about you. Every other person has been brought up the same f*king way.

So other people only EXPECT shit from you. They neither want to give nor are they inclined to serve you.

All they care about is what you can give them. @MJ DeMarco really goes into detail on this topic. But I also want to share with you my take on how this works and how you can use it to your advantage.

The best way you can make money is by making other people more money.

This is an iron clad rule in business and in life in general.

The best way to get anything is to give other people more of the same thing or something else.

That is why I think that starting a business because you want to be your own boss is utter foolishness.

You hate your boss? Try having to manage 10 crappy clients who want to suck the soul out of you while paying as little as possible.

No one works for themselves.

Literally, no one works for themselves. Ones who only truly work for themselves are miserable people you find in your everyday life in your surroundings. These kind of people only try to take, take and take from others. Because they believe that they are entitled to that shit. And that gets them nowhere in life. They become so miserable, they start hating life, hating world and condemn everything to damnation.

Everyone who is even remotely successful works for someone else.

You think your boss is the ultimate 'boss'? Guess how many bosses he has? All of his clients/customers are his bosses. And imagine what would happen if all of them fire him a.k.a stop buying from him. He would go bankrupt in puff!

You think you can be your own boss after starting your business? Wait till you know who pays your bills. In fact I you can argue that having a boss is better than not having one, because if you f*k up you get instant feedback from your boss (by the way of calling to his office in a somber tone). But if you have 'no boss', then if you f*k up, there's no way for you to get feedback. If you are lucky, you'd have to search through the pile of complaints. But if you are not, then you'll be rewarded with absolute silence.

I am writing all of this to show you how insignificant you are. No one gives a f*k about you. All they care about is what you can give them.

In fact this also applies to you. Imagine someone only wanting to take stuff from you and not give anything in return (Like the crappy clients we discussed earlier). Yeah, you won't be very pleased too.

What? That's so depressing Raju. Should I just give up my dreams and just sacrifice my life for someone else?

Oh f*k no. We are entrepreneurs. We are problem solvers. Now this problem has been presented to us. We want to escape bondage and create the life we want.

So what do we do?

We use this fact to our advantage.

We know people only care about themselves. So if we can acquire skills and design solutions to fulfil THEIR dreams, you can fulfil yours too.

Focus on making THEIR dreams and aspirations come true. F*k your dreams for a while, and focus on others. This will keep compounding and pay hefty dividends into the future.

Who the f*k on earth is passionate about cleaning other people's shit? But there are people in this world who have made millions doing just that (waste water treatment).

There are many such examples across all industries (steel manufacturing, plastic imports and exports, cloth manufacturing). No one is born with dreams to keep hammering on steel or to sit at a sewing machine making cloth. But people have made and are making millions from doing these mundane things.

The path of Entrepreneurship is not sexy. And it is definitely NOT about you. It's all about what you can do to OTHER people.

You can apply this to many other aspects of life. Have a crappy job that barely gives you enough money to pay your bills? Have a job that make you curse the world out loud on what an injustice it has done to you? In that case think of how much value you are giving your current employer. If you can give them 10x more, you can bet your a$$ they will pay you 10x more. If they won't somebody else will.

So don't EVER complain about not having money, or a good job, or a life that you want WITHOUT introspecting about what you are giving to other people.

As @Andy Black says, focus on helping people. This way you can easily shift your perspective from ME to OTHER. This way you can honestly look at yourself and ask yourself if you are putting in enough value into the world to get the outcome that you are looking for.

Here I am including the infamous open letter by Bill Gates to high school and college graduates. I think these rules hit the point home about this topic and life in general.

Bill Gates 11 Rules They Won’t Teach You In School


Rule 1: Life is not fair — get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

In short, F*ck YOU, focus on others.
Ha. Nicely written.


Two great lines I like:

"Money is proof you helped your fellow man." (MJ DeMarco)

"You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.” (Zig Ziglar)


The most popular radio station in the world is WiiFM - What's In It For Me.

The market doesn't gaf about you, only what you can do for it.
 

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Solid thread.

Learning the difference between cause and effect.
Providing value and putting a price tag on it is the cause. Success is the effect.

That's where the "law of attraction" people get it all wrong.
Visualizing your bullshit Ferrari dream-life is not conducive to actually achieving it. There is no cause and effect relationship between the two.

Success will happen as a consequence of generating value, selling it properly, and having exceptional strategic and management skills - managing your life, your emotions, your money, your resources.

If you want the fruit, focus on taking care of the tree. Fruit will happen.
 

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Ha. Nicely written.
Thank you Andy. Being my first thread, I was not expecting much. :happy:
Two great lines I like:

"Money is proof you helped your fellow man." (MJ DeMarco)

"You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.” (Zig Ziglar)


The most popular radio station in the world is WiiFM - What's In It For Me.

The market doesn't gaf about you, only what you can do for it.
Yes. This is absolutely true.
 
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Solid thread.

Learning the difference between cause and effect.
Providing value and putting a price tag on it is the cause. Success is the effect.

That's where the "law of attraction" people get it all wrong.
Visualizing your bullshit Ferrari dream-life is not conducive to actually achieving it. There is no cause and effect relationship between the two.

Success will happen as a consequence of generating value, selling it properly, and having exceptional strategic and management skills - managing your life, your emotions, your money, your resources.

If you want the fruit, focus on taking care of the tree. Fruit will happen.
I really like the last line. Perfect analogy.
 

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If you want the fruit, focus on taking care of the tree. Fruit will happen.
Similar to MJ's advice of using a tin of tuna if you want to catch a cat.
 

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Great thread.

Ziglar and Tracy saved me from making the blunder of dropping out of work.

They advise that one provides more value and grows in speciality. Something like specialised labour.

One learns and builds some connections. One gains some valuable qualities.

And sometimes it is foundational work. In my country it may mean pick ax digging trenches.

Then came the thread on quiet quitters.

The world doesn't give a damn about my feelings, aspirations etc.
 
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Visualizing your bullshit Ferrari dream-life is not conducive to actually achieving it. There is no cause and effect relationship between the two.

:rofl: This is great^

Real business is a plus to the world. You aren’t taking, you are giving. If you make a business out of taking, you end up on the news like SBF, Holmes, Belfort, Madoff.

If you get investors, you are providing an opportunity they chose over other opportunities.

If you hire employees, you are providing a job that they chose over other jobs.

If you are partnering up with other companies, again, you are providing an opportunity to them, that no one else did.

When your customers show up with money to buy what your company produces, they are choosing your company over all alternative products and services.

That’s a LOT of giving more than everyone else. It’s capitalism in its purest form. At the core of every good venture is a better value proposition.
 
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Upgraded to GOLD, very much sums up my philosophy.
 
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Do you want to be successful?

Want to swim in a pool of money while sipping scotch?

Want to have amazing relationships with people?

Want to work on what you want where you want and when you want to?

Well, guess what? Literally every other person on the planet wants that.

You are by no means special for wanting these things just like everybody else. But what separates you from those who have all of it already is not luck or smarts or impeccable business acumen.

What separates you from them is they realise that they DON'T matter. And you think that you do.

Really. You don't f*king matter when it comes to not just business but literally every other thing in the universe. People ever since they were kids have been brought up with the idea that they are the centre of the universe. You cry, and the whole room comes to your service. You demand shit and there are at least two people who are ready to give it to you.

Flash news, the world doesn't revolve around you that way. No one gives a shit about you. Every other person has been brought up the same f*king way.

So other people only EXPECT shit from you. They neither want to give nor are they inclined to serve you.

All they care about is what you can give them. @MJ DeMarco really goes into detail on this topic. But I also want to share with you my take on how this works and how you can use it to your advantage.

The best way you can make money is by making other people more money.

This is an iron clad rule in business and in life in general.

The best way to get anything is to give other people more of the same thing or something else.

That is why I think that starting a business because you want to be your own boss is utter foolishness.

You hate your boss? Try having to manage 10 crappy clients who want to suck the soul out of you while paying as little as possible.

No one works for themselves.

Literally, no one works for themselves. Ones who only truly work for themselves are miserable people you find in your everyday life in your surroundings. These kind of people only try to take, take and take from others. Because they believe that they are entitled to that shit. And that gets them nowhere in life. They become so miserable, they start hating life, hating world and condemn everything to damnation.

Everyone who is even remotely successful works for someone else.

You think your boss is the ultimate 'boss'? Guess how many bosses he has? All of his clients/customers are his bosses. And imagine what would happen if all of them fire him a.k.a stop buying from him. He would go bankrupt in puff!

You think you can be your own boss after starting your business? Wait till you know who pays your bills. In fact I you can argue that having a boss is better than not having one, because if you f*k up you get instant feedback from your boss (by the way of calling to his office in a somber tone). But if you have 'no boss', then if you f*k up, there's no way for you to get feedback. If you are lucky, you'd have to search through the pile of complaints. But if you are not, then you'll be rewarded with absolute silence.

I am writing all of this to show you how insignificant you are. No one gives a f*k about you. All they care about is what you can give them.

In fact this also applies to you. Imagine someone only wanting to take stuff from you and not give anything in return (Like the crappy clients we discussed earlier). Yeah, you won't be very pleased too.

What? That's so depressing Raju. Should I just give up my dreams and just sacrifice my life for someone else?

Oh f*k no. We are entrepreneurs. We are problem solvers. Now this problem has been presented to us. We want to escape bondage and create the life we want.

So what do we do?

We use this fact to our advantage.

We know people only care about themselves. So if we can acquire skills and design solutions to fulfil THEIR dreams, you can fulfil yours too.

Focus on making THEIR dreams and aspirations come true. F*k your dreams for a while, and focus on others. This will keep compounding and pay hefty dividends into the future.

Who the f*k on earth is passionate about cleaning other people's shit? But there are people in this world who have made millions doing just that (waste water treatment).

There are many such examples across all industries (steel manufacturing, plastic imports and exports, cloth manufacturing). No one is born with dreams to keep hammering on steel or to sit at a sewing machine making cloth. But people have made and are making millions from doing these mundane things.

The path of Entrepreneurship is not sexy. And it is definitely NOT about you. It's all about what you can do to OTHER people.

You can apply this to many other aspects of life. Have a crappy job that barely gives you enough money to pay your bills? Have a job that make you curse the world out loud on what an injustice it has done to you? In that case think of how much value you are giving your current employer. If you can give them 10x more, you can bet your a$$ they will pay you 10x more. If they won't somebody else will.

So don't EVER complain about not having money, or a good job, or a life that you want WITHOUT introspecting about what you are giving to other people.

As @Andy Black says, focus on helping people. This way you can easily shift your perspective from ME to OTHER. This way you can honestly look at yourself and ask yourself if you are putting in enough value into the world to get the outcome that you are looking for.

Here I am including the infamous open letter by Bill Gates to high school and college graduates. I think these rules hit the point home about this topic and life in general.

Bill Gates 11 Rules They Won’t Teach You In School

Rule 1:
Life is not fair — get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

In short, F*ck YOU, focus on others.
I think there is some nuances revolving this and I generally think helping others is a good habit and the right value that will eventually help you grow faster and reach greater height.

But in a business setting it is very specific about helping people in a way that is commercially viable for you.

You could have a helpful personality and the nicest guy in the neighborhood but still struggling to make ends meet as a freelancer.

I have seen millionaires who are far away from being nice or helpful, but because they are so good at what they do they make a good living out of it in their business. But likely this scarcity mindset and minding their own business only could be hindering them from achieving more.
 
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For me as a not native English speaker, a bit hard to read thread.

But in the end I knew, why MJ upgraded it to GOLD. TOP!
 

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Well I can relate I had to go from self centered entitled wannabe to actually grind my way up and put aside my misplaced pride.

It is not easy but I learned to make sacrifices and I know now that this is where the real pride reside, thank to TMF and TFF who help me grow.
 

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Reminds me of the book and movie "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck". Good read and movie by the way!
 

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Do you want to be successful?

Want to swim in a pool of money while sipping scotch?

Want to have amazing relationships with people?

Want to work on what you want where you want and when you want to?

Well, guess what? Literally every other person on the planet wants that.

You are by no means special for wanting these things just like everybody else. But what separates you from those who have all of it already is not luck or smarts or impeccable business acumen.

What separates you from them is they realise that they DON'T matter. And you think that you do.

Really. You don't f*king matter when it comes to not just business but literally every other thing in the universe. People ever since they were kids have been brought up with the idea that they are the centre of the universe. You cry, and the whole room comes to your service. You demand shit and there are at least two people who are ready to give it to you.

Flash news, the world doesn't revolve around you that way. No one gives a shit about you. Every other person has been brought up the same f*king way.

So other people only EXPECT shit from you. They neither want to give nor are they inclined to serve you.

All they care about is what you can give them. @MJ DeMarco really goes into detail on this topic. But I also want to share with you my take on how this works and how you can use it to your advantage.

The best way you can make money is by making other people more money.

This is an iron clad rule in business and in life in general.

The best way to get anything is to give other people more of the same thing or something else.

That is why I think that starting a business because you want to be your own boss is utter foolishness.

You hate your boss? Try having to manage 10 crappy clients who want to suck the soul out of you while paying as little as possible.

No one works for themselves.

Literally, no one works for themselves. Ones who only truly work for themselves are miserable people you find in your everyday life in your surroundings. These kind of people only try to take, take and take from others. Because they believe that they are entitled to that shit. And that gets them nowhere in life. They become so miserable, they start hating life, hating world and condemn everything to damnation.

Everyone who is even remotely successful works for someone else.

You think your boss is the ultimate 'boss'? Guess how many bosses he has? All of his clients/customers are his bosses. And imagine what would happen if all of them fire him a.k.a stop buying from him. He would go bankrupt in puff!

You think you can be your own boss after starting your business? Wait till you know who pays your bills. In fact I you can argue that having a boss is better than not having one, because if you f*k up you get instant feedback from your boss (by the way of calling to his office in a somber tone). But if you have 'no boss', then if you f*k up, there's no way for you to get feedback. If you are lucky, you'd have to search through the pile of complaints. But if you are not, then you'll be rewarded with absolute silence.

I am writing all of this to show you how insignificant you are. No one gives a f*k about you. All they care about is what you can give them.

In fact this also applies to you. Imagine someone only wanting to take stuff from you and not give anything in return (Like the crappy clients we discussed earlier). Yeah, you won't be very pleased too.

What? That's so depressing Raju. Should I just give up my dreams and just sacrifice my life for someone else?

Oh f*k no. We are entrepreneurs. We are problem solvers. Now this problem has been presented to us. We want to escape bondage and create the life we want.

So what do we do?

We use this fact to our advantage.

We know people only care about themselves. So if we can acquire skills and design solutions to fulfil THEIR dreams, you can fulfil yours too.

Focus on making THEIR dreams and aspirations come true. F*k your dreams for a while, and focus on others. This will keep compounding and pay hefty dividends into the future.

Who the f*k on earth is passionate about cleaning other people's shit? But there are people in this world who have made millions doing just that (waste water treatment).

There are many such examples across all industries (steel manufacturing, plastic imports and exports, cloth manufacturing). No one is born with dreams to keep hammering on steel or to sit at a sewing machine making cloth. But people have made and are making millions from doing these mundane things.

The path of Entrepreneurship is not sexy. And it is definitely NOT about you. It's all about what you can do to OTHER people.

You can apply this to many other aspects of life. Have a crappy job that barely gives you enough money to pay your bills? Have a job that make you curse the world out loud on what an injustice it has done to you? In that case think of how much value you are giving your current employer. If you can give them 10x more, you can bet your a$$ they will pay you 10x more. If they won't somebody else will.

So don't EVER complain about not having money, or a good job, or a life that you want WITHOUT introspecting about what you are giving to other people.

As @Andy Black says, focus on helping people. This way you can easily shift your perspective from ME to OTHER. This way you can honestly look at yourself and ask yourself if you are putting in enough value into the world to get the outcome that you are looking for.

Here I am including the infamous open letter by Bill Gates to high school and college graduates. I think these rules hit the point home about this topic and life in general.

Bill Gates 11 Rules They Won’t Teach You In School

Rule 1:
Life is not fair — get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

In short, F*ck YOU, focus on others.
Just Created my account right away to appreciate this golden post.
I have been lurking for a while, but looks like I gotta be active & help others!

Focus on others!
 

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