I'm the same way. I was actually diagnosed with Aspergers recently if that makes a difference.
Suuuuper socially anxious...
But, I work in sales. I've cold-called numbers without names and set appointments... met with multi-millionaires... and closed hundreds of thousands in deals across several industries in the past year. Having said that... I'm still a spazz and I have crazy social anxiety.
The thing is... there is no secret. You have to force yourself into it and not give a f**k about the outcome. Focus on taking action and make a point out of affirming that you have nothing to lose.
Once you start making progress your confidence builds and a positive feedback loop is engaged. Then it's just a matter of making sure you stay in practice.
I also used to run pickup quite a bit. (As in pickup artist.)
I've dated women I've met running cold approach pickup... just ... "Oh she's beautiful... let me go talk to her." and a week later we're seeing each other.
I went out the other night and barely had the confidence to talk to anyone. I danced with one girl... and got rejected by 9 or 10.... you have to be okay failing... you're after results... you don't care about looking cool.... and when you do you can't beat yourself up.... you have to be on your own team.
As crazy as it sounds... just about any pickup/ game program will help you overcome social anxiety. RSD. Todd V. etc.
Just make sure to be polite about it and don't take it too seriously.
Also, sales books/ material... "How To Win Friends and Influence People," etc.
Suuuuper socially anxious...
But, I work in sales. I've cold-called numbers without names and set appointments... met with multi-millionaires... and closed hundreds of thousands in deals across several industries in the past year. Having said that... I'm still a spazz and I have crazy social anxiety.
The thing is... there is no secret. You have to force yourself into it and not give a f**k about the outcome. Focus on taking action and make a point out of affirming that you have nothing to lose.
Once you start making progress your confidence builds and a positive feedback loop is engaged. Then it's just a matter of making sure you stay in practice.
I also used to run pickup quite a bit. (As in pickup artist.)
I've dated women I've met running cold approach pickup... just ... "Oh she's beautiful... let me go talk to her." and a week later we're seeing each other.
I went out the other night and barely had the confidence to talk to anyone. I danced with one girl... and got rejected by 9 or 10.... you have to be okay failing... you're after results... you don't care about looking cool.... and when you do you can't beat yourself up.... you have to be on your own team.
As crazy as it sounds... just about any pickup/ game program will help you overcome social anxiety. RSD. Todd V. etc.
Just make sure to be polite about it and don't take it too seriously.
Also, sales books/ material... "How To Win Friends and Influence People," etc.
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