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I was fortunately never a 'blackpiller' in this way; I've been reading 'positive' books since my Dad introduced me to self-help at age 12. So my overall outlook on life is essentially grounded in spiritual/ self-improvement literature. I am infinitely grateful for this lucky start.I think it would make a most interesting thread for those who have gone through this and busted out the other end to share the experience. What allowed them to find a way out? What changed? I recognize that is a deeply personal place that many would rightly want to keep private.
That last sentence really hit the spot. Rep+!I agree 100%.
If there was one thing I could change about my childhood, I would want MORE struggle, MORE challenges, MORE competitiveness. My parents never pushed me to join a sport/club, or to get a car/job. They raised me to be a cupcake.
I suffer from a disease called average...still searching for a cure...
Thanks so much!That last sentence really hit the spot. Rep+!
Speaking of cupcakes...
An FB confessions page on my old high school just popped out.
I generally don't mind a consumer reviews page of sorts, when students want to share about how the school worked for them, but instead, I saw posts filled with Sidewalkish crap.
Boy-girl relationships, passing the blame to teachers, hate this, hate that, this program is stupid...
I just couldn't believe the kids had time to mess up, or complain about that shit.
Back in high school, if I wasn't trying to get good grades, I was going for clubs, uniform groups or working at my writing skills. There was always plenty to do every week, instead of sinking in negativity and passing the buck.
I thought I should leave some bread crumbs on that page, like Vig and the others do here, but I figured out that the folks there would not appreciate it.
Well said rogue. It's easy for those of us that have NOT gone through such a dark time to just say, "get off your lazy a$$ and make something happen." I'm grateful that my eyes were opened to the challenges faced by those in dark places. I remind myself every day, there, but by the grace of God, go I.I sympathize with the guy in the OP. No hate from me. That guy was me in another life.
I know it's easy for us to say "but why don't they just realize that they can change and go build the next billion dollar company?"
They don't see it that way.
I'm glad that I found MJ's books because they were a big part in my coming to accept that the future can be yours if you work for it.
But I had to come to those books ready to hear the message. If I'd come to them just a few years earlier, I'd have responded to MJ's message in the same way that some of our local skeptics have responded to Tony Robbins.
Coming back to this thread. This is HIS view. Life isn’t that bad. Even if it is the same old day, it’s your perspective. There are plenty of farmers in the empty fields who are satisfied and content. The fact that we live in a modern society expecting a life like iron man tony stark is what makes us depressed. If you challenge me to be happy in Antarctica with the knowledge to survive and eat, I can guarantee I can.Just found this Picture on Reddit - So many People out there that feel stuck and think they dont have control over own lives. this makes me sad.
This is a huge part of incel culture: glorification of victim hood and blaming everyone for how their life is going. I get the sense that these same kind of individuals have been coddled by their parents, and expect life to take care of them the same way. As if just because food magically appeared to them, why shouldn't a job or a hot spouse. People who want change will find it MJ, and your book is an avenue for how to take those steps.Most of the folks that like and agree with this meme are the same folks that say my books (and my message) are a scam.
They aren't interested in change, they're interested in confirming their victim identity through shared communal misery.
But the answers are out there. And it's why I keep writing.
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Exactly the same problem here, I bought TMF for my cousin and highly recommended it to him and told him that it won't affect me if you don't read the book because I've already read it, and you will be the one missing out on a goldmine of information. He hasn't even started reading it. He saw me on this forum and making my cold-calling script, and the first thing he said was,I recommended TFM to several of my friends, even went out of my way to personally give a copy to one of them.
None of them bothered opening it yet, despite seeing the kind of changes I went through after reading it and everyone commending me for it.
Maybe once they see my millions and tell me for the millionth time how lucky I was, and me reminding them of the book, they might actually read it.
This is what I keep coming back to, it's pure victimhood/slave thinking, as I point out constantly, it's not their fault, it's the fault of the parent. These guys simply didn't face enough adversity in life as children, when I point this out to them, they come back with wanting to place blame, but it's too late for that. They equate adversity with , "I saw the whole financial world was bullshit, my parents got their house taken away", if you didn't have to fix it, it's not adversity. Simply put they are mental cupcakes. I just lost a very close family member male in his 20s to this type of shit, he didn't get to experience the same mental hardening I had from the parents, yet the expectations where the same or even higher for him. It's like sending people to war without weapons, it's insane, then they turn to this incel shit, or an even bigger problem: drugs, when they can't meet the expectations set by themselves with the help of society.This is a huge part of incel culture: glorification of victim hood and blaming everyone for how their life is going. I get the sense that these same kind of individuals have been coddled by their parents, and expect life to take care of them the same way. As if just because food magically appeared to them, why shouldn't a job or a hot spouse. People who want change will find it MJ, and your book is an avenue for how to take those steps.
In life, sometimes one experiences the "dark nights of the soul" and it's very hard to snap out of it. It could take few days or even few years...and I've seen people who never able to!...Just found this Picture on Reddit - So many People out there that feel stuck and think they dont have control over own lives. this makes me sad.
Here's one from earlier in the thread—and it really caught my attention.I think it would make a most interesting thread for those who have gone through this and busted out the other end to share the experience. What allowed them to find a way out? What changed? I recognize that is a deeply personal place that many would rightly want to keep private.
Hold on, I'm super intrigued. @Brian Suh - How'd you get your soul intact and firm again?My goal is to make a book discussing how depression isn’t a brain chemical imbalance but it’s bexause your literal god damn soul is being pulled apart by society and outside influences. Once you have your soul intact and firm, life is an endless adventure where your filled with gratitude and joy. I’ve been on two sides of the coin and it is the difference between swimming in a shallow pool with piss and poop and swimming in a clear turquoise water lake filled with surges of waves and currents that makes it a blast to swim while challenging and stimulating. Life is all about perspective.
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