Sometimes. But what I have figured out is that when feeling like this is comes down to two reasons. One is, losing weight/building wealth/success is based on a warped motivation. You have to ask yourself, are your choices and actions coming from you or based on society's idea of wealth/happiness/value/self-worth? I think when some people decide to better their life they do it partly for themselves because it is good but there are still society's influences in their head. In other words, there is some need for validation lingering in your mind and so your choices about bettering your life are not fully controlled by you. You are not in control of your contentment nor the idea of your personal happiness.
The other is, the dumb idea that you need to chase things. The problem with most people is they have this nagging idea in their head that certain things need to be a certain way in order to be happy and fulfilled. They worry that if they do not have everything they are somehow not complete or happy. It is basically a comparison to other people. People look at their lives and their age and believe they need to be/do/act/possess a certain thing in order to be happy. Again, this is society's influence once again. The truth is, you don't need to have certain things, or just because you are 29/36/49 years old you SHOULD be at a certain stage in your life. I think the number one reason people are unhappy is they perceive falsely how their life SHOULD BE based on comparing their lives to others. In other words, they treat life like a grocery list of things that need to be done by a certain age, rather than focusing on contentment and having control of their life and choices. Life is not some rigid path that must be followed perfectly. That is a bullshit idea in your head.
The mistake people make is they feel like they can't enjoy life or be happy UNTIL they possess something or achieve a certain goal or they have more than everyone. Did you know you can enjoy life and be happy RIGHT NOW? You don't need to wait on happiness or contentment. You don't have to run through life waiting for that moment to be happy and then be old and still not happy because you never understood this. In other words, you are chasing the event. You are treating happiness and fulfullment like an event and not a process. Therefore, you can't live in the present and be happy.
The other is, the dumb idea that you need to chase things. The problem with most people is they have this nagging idea in their head that certain things need to be a certain way in order to be happy and fulfilled. They worry that if they do not have everything they are somehow not complete or happy. It is basically a comparison to other people. People look at their lives and their age and believe they need to be/do/act/possess a certain thing in order to be happy. Again, this is society's influence once again. The truth is, you don't need to have certain things, or just because you are 29/36/49 years old you SHOULD be at a certain stage in your life. I think the number one reason people are unhappy is they perceive falsely how their life SHOULD BE based on comparing their lives to others. In other words, they treat life like a grocery list of things that need to be done by a certain age, rather than focusing on contentment and having control of their life and choices. Life is not some rigid path that must be followed perfectly. That is a bullshit idea in your head.
The mistake people make is they feel like they can't enjoy life or be happy UNTIL they possess something or achieve a certain goal or they have more than everyone. Did you know you can enjoy life and be happy RIGHT NOW? You don't need to wait on happiness or contentment. You don't have to run through life waiting for that moment to be happy and then be old and still not happy because you never understood this. In other words, you are chasing the event. You are treating happiness and fulfullment like an event and not a process. Therefore, you can't live in the present and be happy.
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