One of the biggest questions I had while reading UNSCRIPTED and TMF was, "How do I get motivated if I haven't had a 'F*ck This Event'?" Do I really have to hit rock bottom before I can start climbing upward?
Hell if I know, but maybe I have an answer for those who haven't experienced a genuine F*ck This Event.
First, though, let me tell you about the Tony Robbins "Dickens Process". If you've ever read one of his books (especially Awaken the Giant Within) or been to one of his events (e.g. Unleash the Power Within), you may have heard of this or experienced it. Basically, you're manufacturing an FTE through a scripted process.
The Dickens Process is based on Charles Dickens' story of the life-changing transformation of Ebenezer Scrooge in A Christmas Carol. In the story, a selfish, miserly Scrooge is forced by three ghosts to fully experience the impact of his actions in the past, the present, and the future. Horrified by what he sees, including the loss of his fiance, the death of Tiny Tim, and his own unsung death, he is immediately and permanently transformed into a loving, generous man.
The Dickens Process takes you through the same experience by asking questions that force you to examine the impact of your own limiting beliefs and actions in the past, present, and predictable future. The end result is that you experience an epiphany that motivates you long-term. Rather than go through the whole process, I'll just link to it here:
The Dickens Process
Based on the Dickens Process, I believe that you can manufacture your own F*ck This Event. You don't have to wait for one event where things suck so bad that you finally say, "F*ck this." The trick is that whatever you do, you have to feel it deeply, viscerally, in your bones. Emotion is the catalyst for action. And as Fastlaners, control over our emotions is a necessity.
So, how do you manufacture your own FTE, without having one superlatively crappy life event? Group a bunch of lowercase "F*ck this" events or emotions into one amalgamated uppercase "F*ck This" list (FTL). Let their combined emotional weight take the place of one single FTE.
A few days ago, I was feeling like crap because my fledgling business was not going as planned. Basically, I wasn't getting an immediate response from my first trial client, and was hinging my emotions on one event instead of a process. I've given up in the past when I've felt like that, and I don't want to do that this time. So, rather than go through the Dickens Process, I made a FTL that I can read through each day, that will serve as my surrogate FTE.
What does an FTL look like? Well, here's mine...excuse the excessive French, that's just how it came out:
The reasons why I must become a Fastlane entrepreneur:
"F*ck This Shit, I won't take it any longer."
What does your F*ck This List look like?
Hell if I know, but maybe I have an answer for those who haven't experienced a genuine F*ck This Event.
First, though, let me tell you about the Tony Robbins "Dickens Process". If you've ever read one of his books (especially Awaken the Giant Within) or been to one of his events (e.g. Unleash the Power Within), you may have heard of this or experienced it. Basically, you're manufacturing an FTE through a scripted process.
The Dickens Process is based on Charles Dickens' story of the life-changing transformation of Ebenezer Scrooge in A Christmas Carol. In the story, a selfish, miserly Scrooge is forced by three ghosts to fully experience the impact of his actions in the past, the present, and the future. Horrified by what he sees, including the loss of his fiance, the death of Tiny Tim, and his own unsung death, he is immediately and permanently transformed into a loving, generous man.
The Dickens Process takes you through the same experience by asking questions that force you to examine the impact of your own limiting beliefs and actions in the past, present, and predictable future. The end result is that you experience an epiphany that motivates you long-term. Rather than go through the whole process, I'll just link to it here:
The Dickens Process
Based on the Dickens Process, I believe that you can manufacture your own F*ck This Event. You don't have to wait for one event where things suck so bad that you finally say, "F*ck this." The trick is that whatever you do, you have to feel it deeply, viscerally, in your bones. Emotion is the catalyst for action. And as Fastlaners, control over our emotions is a necessity.
So, how do you manufacture your own FTE, without having one superlatively crappy life event? Group a bunch of lowercase "F*ck this" events or emotions into one amalgamated uppercase "F*ck This" list (FTL). Let their combined emotional weight take the place of one single FTE.
A few days ago, I was feeling like crap because my fledgling business was not going as planned. Basically, I wasn't getting an immediate response from my first trial client, and was hinging my emotions on one event instead of a process. I've given up in the past when I've felt like that, and I don't want to do that this time. So, rather than go through the Dickens Process, I made a FTL that I can read through each day, that will serve as my surrogate FTE.
What does an FTL look like? Well, here's mine...excuse the excessive French, that's just how it came out:
The reasons why I must become a Fastlane entrepreneur:
- Giving up on my dreams for years - F*ck this shit
- Worrying about losing my job that I hate - F*ck this shit
- Not being able to buy the things we want and need without worrying about money - F*ck this shit
- Feeling so tired at the end of the day that I just want to lay down - F*ck this shit
- Knowing that I'm being a bad example to my kids - F*ck this shit
- Feeling like I'm falling into the same "failed entrepreneur" trap my dad did - F*ck this shit
- Feeling like a loser because each job is worse than the last - F*ck this shit
- Watching our lifestyle decline each month - F*ck this shit
- Knowing that we're just one bad month from being broke - F*ck this shit
- Feeling like a phony - F*ck this shit
- Being ashamed of the car that I drive because I can't afford better - F*ck this shit
- Making constant excuses for why things are okay the way they are...even though I know they're not - F*ck this shit
- Spending time inside a cubicle on a perfect spring day - F*ck this shit
- Wearing shoes with holes in the bottoms because I can't afford new shoes - F*ck this shit
- Having to accept my father-in-law's handouts and feeling like a loser - F*ck this shit
- Relying on the kindness of others to make our lives work - F*ck this shit
- Feeling hopeless - F*ck this shit
- Feeling less free as I get older, instead of more free - F*ck this shit
- Looking back at my dreams and hating myself for not achieving them - F*ck this shit
- Feeling more and more desperate as I try each new business venture - F*ck this shit
- Looking at our draining bank accounts and having to push down the feelings of panic - F*ck this shit
- Holding off on buying things because we can't afford them - F*ck this shit
- Driving two 18+ year old cars because we can't afford anything newer - F*ck this shit
- Doing repairs on the house and cars myself because we can't afford to pay for it - F*ck this shit
- Relying on the government for money and a job - F*ck this shit
- Dressing like a bum because I can't buy nicer clothes - F*ck this shit
- Feeling bad about the money I spend on myself because it takes away from my family - F*ck this shit
- Being embarassed that I'm trying yet another way to make money after failing so many times - F*ck this shit
- Knowing that we'll never be able to retire if nothing changes - F*ck this shit
- Being afraid of the future - F*ck this shit
- Being ashamed of myself for not living up to my potential - F*ck this shit
- Looking at the older people that I work with, and knowing that's what I'll look like if this continues - F*ck this shit
- Asking permission to go to the bathroom, take a break, leave early, come in late, or take a day off - F*ck this shit
- Working with people I don't like, and pretending to like them even though they're not very nice - F*ck this shit
- Skipping the things we used to love doing because we can't afford them (like the local theme park) - F*ck this shit
- My wife having to work at a crappy job just to make ends meet - F*ck this shit
"F*ck This Shit, I won't take it any longer."
What does your F*ck This List look like?
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