So its been about 2 months since I discovered MJ and after going 'all in' on the forum when I had joined not so long ago, only just having read TMF , I realised I was out of my depth and had better go read Unscripted .
Via audible, I have about an hour left. It's taken me 6 weeks to digest through and I am pretty certain I am going to have to listen again. To my point, everyone was right. You HAVE to read it to understand being here (and not just to understand the jargon/short words).
So here is where I'm at.
I was prompted by Mj via his Instagram story to read a post by someone (sorry I can't seem to find it via my MacBook) regarding the science behind mindsets and lots of other relative info.
I read the first paragraph and thought - 'oh, amazing' another one thats discovered their ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) - as the first part about growing up and appearing to be failing at life but being super clever was the reason I stumbled across my own diagnosis of ADHD. However, it wasn't and it was more a 'personality themed explanation'. A very good one but too detailed for my brain to read the lot (unless I was the person writing it).
Read about ADHD -here
It came to me, the reminders that some of the most successful people in the entrepreneurial space are believed to have had ADHD. After some thought, and at previous moments in the past 5 years, (when I discovered my ADHD), that is it possible that all those that seek something more in life and have those twinges to go against the 'grain' have ADHD themselves?
I have brushed the thought off as - course not, its a neurological disorder. I have my beliefs about childhood trauma, no matter the severance, that it can potentially cause ADHD traits as an adult, but that another story.
The more I listen to US, the more I think - this is how I've been thinking for so long. Questioning why the hell people seek the scripted lifestyle.
I'm no angel. My actions only came after the birth of my first child in 2012 and even from there, the lessons learnt are still being learnt today.
I feel somewhat bothered by the fact that I had to experience a s**t ton of trauma from domestic violence, to grooming, to homelessness, redundancy after redundancy and job hopping, that those choices I made back then were the wrong ones. I try not to live by mistakes and learn from them but I can't help feeling robbed by a 'system' that back then, I felt I never had a choice to avoid.
I once thought I was failing at life by not going to University or doing 'all the things' expected. Last one from friend group to have kids, only person without a mortgage or new car. In hindsight my child has helped my go towards 'unscripted ' life. I left that life behind, ended all the relationships (friends) I thought for years were true, moved area and started again. Albeit not too far away but still, I started from scratch.
I now live frugally in many ways. I don't have a mortgage or any debt. No finance car BUT as Mj states in US, children are going to take their toll on the launch to my unscripted life. As a child that grew with nothing, it was something I never wanted for them, so, yes, they get things, but I am the parent at school that everyone 'hates'. I give my time to the school for free, I help where I can, I know the circles of parents, I share my honest and occasionally brutal opinions about the fact I don't mind how my children score academically as they will not be part of the system.
I stand out. I always have. I have very few friends, but they are real ones.
So - after many thoughts throughout the listening of US, I have this feeling like - I don't want to be rich. I do want a home that I can make my own without having to leave it and see money go down the pan AGAIN (the perks of renting..) but I feel like I want to be Unscripted yet steady? Am I making any sense?!
Last night I went for a walk in the rain and took in the feeling of raindrops on my face and really cherished my freedom. A freedom that crappy covid is trying to remove from us all, but I continue to deny it.
After multiple business that I've tried to launch in every sector going, I now see this picture of income without time. I keep hearing in my head - MJs reasoning - don't exchange time for money - its not a business , however, I am still working it out, how I can scale , start or grow my 2 so called 'businesses (more like jobs) that I have now because stopping them would require me to work - like I say - I have the kids.
I guess the point to this very long almost blog post type topic is -
Do we all have a bit of ADHD within us?
Are we all the ones that stand out from the crowd?
Can we be unscripted but not rich?
If you got this far - well done
Via audible, I have about an hour left. It's taken me 6 weeks to digest through and I am pretty certain I am going to have to listen again. To my point, everyone was right. You HAVE to read it to understand being here (and not just to understand the jargon/short words).
So here is where I'm at.
I was prompted by Mj via his Instagram story to read a post by someone (sorry I can't seem to find it via my MacBook) regarding the science behind mindsets and lots of other relative info.
I read the first paragraph and thought - 'oh, amazing' another one thats discovered their ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) - as the first part about growing up and appearing to be failing at life but being super clever was the reason I stumbled across my own diagnosis of ADHD. However, it wasn't and it was more a 'personality themed explanation'. A very good one but too detailed for my brain to read the lot (unless I was the person writing it).
Read about ADHD -here
It came to me, the reminders that some of the most successful people in the entrepreneurial space are believed to have had ADHD. After some thought, and at previous moments in the past 5 years, (when I discovered my ADHD), that is it possible that all those that seek something more in life and have those twinges to go against the 'grain' have ADHD themselves?
I have brushed the thought off as - course not, its a neurological disorder. I have my beliefs about childhood trauma, no matter the severance, that it can potentially cause ADHD traits as an adult, but that another story.
The more I listen to US, the more I think - this is how I've been thinking for so long. Questioning why the hell people seek the scripted lifestyle.
I'm no angel. My actions only came after the birth of my first child in 2012 and even from there, the lessons learnt are still being learnt today.
I feel somewhat bothered by the fact that I had to experience a s**t ton of trauma from domestic violence, to grooming, to homelessness, redundancy after redundancy and job hopping, that those choices I made back then were the wrong ones. I try not to live by mistakes and learn from them but I can't help feeling robbed by a 'system' that back then, I felt I never had a choice to avoid.
I once thought I was failing at life by not going to University or doing 'all the things' expected. Last one from friend group to have kids, only person without a mortgage or new car. In hindsight my child has helped my go towards 'unscripted ' life. I left that life behind, ended all the relationships (friends) I thought for years were true, moved area and started again. Albeit not too far away but still, I started from scratch.
I now live frugally in many ways. I don't have a mortgage or any debt. No finance car BUT as Mj states in US, children are going to take their toll on the launch to my unscripted life. As a child that grew with nothing, it was something I never wanted for them, so, yes, they get things, but I am the parent at school that everyone 'hates'. I give my time to the school for free, I help where I can, I know the circles of parents, I share my honest and occasionally brutal opinions about the fact I don't mind how my children score academically as they will not be part of the system.
I stand out. I always have. I have very few friends, but they are real ones.
So - after many thoughts throughout the listening of US, I have this feeling like - I don't want to be rich. I do want a home that I can make my own without having to leave it and see money go down the pan AGAIN (the perks of renting..) but I feel like I want to be Unscripted yet steady? Am I making any sense?!
Last night I went for a walk in the rain and took in the feeling of raindrops on my face and really cherished my freedom. A freedom that crappy covid is trying to remove from us all, but I continue to deny it.
After multiple business that I've tried to launch in every sector going, I now see this picture of income without time. I keep hearing in my head - MJs reasoning - don't exchange time for money - its not a business , however, I am still working it out, how I can scale , start or grow my 2 so called 'businesses (more like jobs) that I have now because stopping them would require me to work - like I say - I have the kids.
I guess the point to this very long almost blog post type topic is -
Do we all have a bit of ADHD within us?
Are we all the ones that stand out from the crowd?
Can we be unscripted but not rich?
If you got this far - well done
Dislike ads? Become a Fastlane member:
Subscribe today and surround yourself with winners and millionaire mentors, not those broke friends who only want to drink beer and play video games. :-)
Membership Required: Upgrade to Expose Nearly 1,000,000 Posts
Ready to Unleash the Millionaire Entrepreneur in You?
Become a member of the Fastlane Forum, the private community founded by best-selling author and multi-millionaire entrepreneur MJ DeMarco. Since 2007, MJ DeMarco has poured his heart and soul into the Fastlane Forum, helping entrepreneurs reclaim their time, win their financial freedom, and live their best life.
With more than 39,000 posts packed with insights, strategies, and advice, you’re not just a member—you’re stepping into MJ’s inner-circle, a place where you’ll never be left alone.
Become a member and gain immediate access to...
- Active Community: Ever join a community only to find it DEAD? Not at Fastlane! As you can see from our home page, life-changing content is posted dozens of times daily.
- Exclusive Insights: Direct access to MJ DeMarco’s daily contributions and wisdom.
- Powerful Networking Opportunities: Connect with a diverse group of successful entrepreneurs who can offer mentorship, collaboration, and opportunities.
- Proven Strategies: Learn from the best in the business, with actionable advice and strategies that can accelerate your success.
"You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with the most..."
Who are you surrounding yourself with? Surround yourself with millionaire success. Join Fastlane today!
Join Today
