How do you stop self sabotaging for good?

[WJK]

Its not "my life is suffering"
But yeah life is suffering wether you acknowledge and face it or put your head in the sand and wish the storm pass.
And somehow growth is association with suffering too

Your muscle ? You have put them into a large amour of pain, each time they break and grow stronger.

Shin conditioning ? ( if you are familiar with kickboxing or muai thai) You hit a bag/tree enough to create micro fracture then you recover and your shin is now stronger.

So why do you call yourself that? (That self-described image makes me cringe.)

I have challenges. I have difficulties. I have bad moments. I have had big failures and losses. I grew up hard. I have had serious health problems since my teens caused by that hard childhood. BUT, I have news for you. My life is NOT about suffering. It's all about finding ways to be successful and make a happy life. Then I'm able to extend a helping hand to those around me.

I'm NOT putting my head in the sand. I know how bad things can be because I've been there, done that. (I have that ticket stub, and I own that T-shirt.) How I deal with the hard knocks is my choice. I can adjust and change my course. I am NOT a victim who must suffer. I just look for the lesson in the happening, so I can go on. There are ways around almost everything, and I almost always have a Plan B, C, D...

How do I keep my emotions in check? I know that feelings follow actions. You act happy, and in time, that's how you will feel. Your future depends on your actions today. When you act successful -- do what successful people do -- in time, you become that person. I'm always a project under creation.

It's all about how you frame things. I see the stones in my path as necessary learning moments that made me who I am. I am totally and completely responsible for everything that I am, and every reaction that I have to events. How do I perceive things? What do I pay attention to and count? How do I talk to myself and tell my story to others?

Adjust your glasses. See yourself differently. Rewrite your story. Get out your cape. Make yourself the hero who overcomes everything and comes out on top.

 

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[S.Y.]

Tu xjz fu zua demm zuastimg vjev? (Vjev timg-fitdsocif onehi nelit ni dsophi.)

O jewi djemmiphit. O jewi foggodamvoit. O jewi cef nunipvt. O jewi jef coh geomasit epf muttit. O hsix aq jesf. O jewi jef tisouat jiemvj qsucmint topdi nz viipt deatif cz vjev jesf djomfjuuf. CAV, O jewi pixt gus zua. Nz mogi ot PUV ecuav taggisoph. Ov't emm ecuav gopfoph xezt vu ci taddittgam epf neli e jeqqz mogi. Vjip O'n ecmi vu iyvipf e jimqoph jepf vu vjuti esuapf ni.

O'n PUV qavvoph nz jief op vji tepf. O lpux jux cef vjopht dep ci cideati O'wi ciip vjisi, fupi vjev. (O jewi vjev vodliv tvac, epf O uxp vjev V-tjosv.) Jux O fiem xovj vji jesf lpudlt ot nz djuodi. O dep efkatv epf djephi nz duasti. O en PUV e wodvon xju natv taggis. O katv muul gus vji mittup op vji jeqqipoph, tu O dep hu up. Vjisi esi xezt esuapf emnutv iwiszvjoph, epf O emnutv emxezt jewi e Qmep C, D, F...

Jux fu O liiq nz inuvoupt op djidl? O lpux vjev giimopht gummux edvoupt. Zua edv jeqqz, epf op voni, vjev't jux zua xomm giim. Zuas gavasi fiqipft up zuas edvoupt vufez. Xjip zua edv taddittgam -- fu xjev taddittgam qiuqmi fu -- op voni, zua ciduni vjev qistup. O'n emxezt e qsukidv apfis dsievoup.

Ov't emm ecuav jux zua gseni vjopht. O tii vji tvupit op nz qevj et pidittesz miespoph nunipvt vjev nefi ni xju O en. O en vuvemmz epf dunqmivimz sitquptocmi gus iwiszvjoph vjev O en, epf iwisz siedvoup vjev O jewi vu iwipvt. Jux fu O qisdiowi vjopht? Xjev fu O qez evvipvoup vu epf duapv? Jux fu O veml vu nztimg epf vimm nz tvusz vu uvjist?

Efkatv zuas hmettit. Tii zuastimg foggisipvmz. Sixsovi zuas tvusz. Hiv uav zuas deqi. Neli zuastimg vji jisu xju uwisdunit iwiszvjoph epf dunit uav up vuq.

Vjev tezoph ot ugvip notopvisqsivif. Ov ot tonomes vu Ninipvu Nuso, e sinopfis ug vji opiwovecomovz ug fievj. Tuni qiuqmi veli ov pihevowimz, uvjist veli ov et e sinopfis vu mowi.

O gopf vjot qettehi dmuti vu nz apfistvepfoph ug Mogi ot Taggisoph vu ci:

Ev vji suuv ug emm lopft ug fallje ot dsewoph, us evvedjnipv. Xi hu vjsuahj mogi hsetqoph ev us dmophoph vu xjev xi vjopl xomm hsevogz at epf ewuofoph xjev xi fotmoli. Vji tidupf pucmi vsavj vimmt at vjev vjot wisz hsetqoph, us dmophoph, us ewuofepdi ot vji tuasdi ug fallje. Xi esi moli fsuxpoph qiuqmi xju siedj gus tunivjoph gmuevoph cz vu tewi at, vjip fotduwis vjev xjev xi’wi mevdjif upvu qsuwofit upmz nunipvesz simoig, us vinqusesz tevotgedvoup. Xjev xi fitosi ot piwis ipuahj epf piwis metvt.

Vji vjosf pucmi vsavj ettasit at vjisi ot epuvjis xez vu gopf ep ipf vu taggisoph, epf vjev xez, et iyqmeopif op vji guasvj pucmi vsavj, ot vji qsedvodi ug vji pucmi iohjvgumf qevj. Et xi qsedvodi, xi fiwimuq e jeqqopitt vjev ot puv fiqipfipv up iyvispem uckidvt us mogi iwipvt cav sitamvt gsun e damvowevif tvevi ug nopf vjev fuit puv duni epf hu et dosdantvepdit djephi. Iwip qjztodem qeop cidunit mitt tvsittgam xovj vji exesipitt ug e damvowevif nopf.

Tu, vji viedjoph ug vji guas pucmi vsavjt ot puv vjev mogi ot fitvopif vu ci puvjoph cav taggisoph, cav vjev vji niept ug gopfoph mocisevoup gsun taggisoph ot emxezt eweomecmi vu at. Op vjot tipti Caffjotn ot puv qittonotvod, et nepz qiuqmi ettani, cav uqvonotvod.

Fiqipfoph up vji atis't qistqidvowi, ov dep ci iovjis e hsiev tipvipdi us e vissocmi upi.

 

[WJK]

Vjev tezoph ot ugvip notopvisqsivif. Ov ot tonomes vu Ninipvu Nuso, e sinopfis ug vji opiwovecomovz ug fievj. Tuni qiuqmi veli ov pihevowimz, uvjist veli ov et e sinopfis vu mowi.

O gopf vjot qettehi dmuti vu nz apfistvepfoph ug Mogi ot Taggisoph vu ci:

Ev vji suuv ug emm lopft ug fallje ot dsewoph, us evvedjnipv. Xi hu vjsuahj mogi hsetqoph ev us dmophoph vu xjev xi vjopl xomm hsevogz at epf ewuofoph xjev xi fotmoli. Vji tidupf pucmi vsavj vimmt at vjev vjot wisz hsetqoph, us dmophoph, us ewuofepdi ot vji tuasdi ug fallje. Xi esi moli fsuxpoph qiuqmi xju siedj gus tunivjoph gmuevoph cz vu tewi at, vjip fotduwis vjev xjev xi’wi mevdjif upvu qsuwofit upmz nunipvesz simoig, us vinqusesz tevotgedvoup. Xjev xi fitosi ot piwis ipuahj epf piwis metvt.

Vji vjosf pucmi vsavj ettasit at vjisi ot epuvjis xez vu gopf ep ipf vu taggisoph, epf vjev xez, et iyqmeopif op vji guasvj pucmi vsavj, ot vji qsedvodi ug vji pucmi iohjvgumf qevj. Et xi qsedvodi, xi fiwimuq e jeqqopitt vjev ot puv fiqipfipv up iyvispem uckidvt us mogi iwipvt cav sitamvt gsun e damvowevif tvevi ug nopf vjev fuit puv duni epf hu et dosdantvepdit djephi. Iwip qjztodem qeop cidunit mitt tvsittgam xovj vji exesipitt ug e damvowevif nopf.

Tu, vji viedjoph ug vji guas pucmi vsavjt ot puv vjev mogi ot fitvopif vu ci puvjoph cav taggisoph, cav vjev vji niept ug gopfoph mocisevoup gsun taggisoph ot emxezt eweomecmi vu at. Op vjot tipti Caffjotn ot puv qittonotvod, et nepz qiuqmi ettani, cav uqvonotvod.

Fiqipfoph up vji atis't qistqidvowi, ov dep ci iovjis e hsiev tipvipdi us e vissocmi upi.

O fup'v cimoiwi vjev ov ot "pucmi" vu taggis. O cimoiwi vjev xi tjuamf vjsowi xjisi xi esi qmepvif. Epf tunivonit vjev mudevoup dep ci djephif.