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I like communication, and I like writing a lot, because it gives me time to really think over what I want to say. On the other hand, I absolutely loathe talking to other people, since I feel like my brain shuts off and I'm just spitting out words at a faster speed than I can think, which leads to moments of frustration and me saying things in a poor way.

I can explain myself well, and I can talk to multiple people at once on topics I know a lot about, but I can't for the life of me express myself in "small talk", or more generally in a typical discussion. It feels like my brain freezes and I'm talking for the sake of it.

The best way I've found avoid this issue is taking time to think over it, but it still takes me a lot (a minute or two), and people don't want to wait that long for that type of casual discussion.

Is there a way to speed up this process? Or more generally to learn how to have my brain get unstuck when I talk to people?
 
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Zua notsief nz qutv. O'n puv katv xeovoph gus nz vasp vu tqiel epf vjip wunov xusft vu qmieti nz ihu. O en e wisz huuf motvipis, op gedv, vjot ottai ug nopi ot qsucecmz xjz O'n upi. Topdi O jewi vu ci vjuahjvgam ecuav xjev O piif vu tez O piif vu duptofis xjev uvjis qiuqmi esi tezoph, us O'f ci iwip nusi gadlif vjep O emsiefz en xjip ov dunit vu dunnapodevoph.

Topdi O dep'v dummidv nz vjuahjvt raodlmz ipuahj, O ipf aq puv tezoph epzvjoph epf katv vjoploph uwis xjev xet katv vumf vu ni gus nopavit.

Jewi zua vsoif veloph ep opviptowi moli vji Esv ug Djesn?

O juqi ov't puv vji upi O guapf xovj nz Huuhmi tiesdj, cideati vjot jahi temit qehi xovj namvoqmi qsodi sifadvoupt epf muph duqz fuitp'v tov ximm xovj ni.

Kuop Vuetvnetvist, fu vecmi vuqodt.

Muult moli vji dmutitv Vuetvnetvist dmac vu ni ot ecuav 2 juast ug vsewim exez gsun ni, epf O dep'v gopf epz opgu ecuav vjin fuoph upmopi iwipvt op nz duapvsz (Ovemz), cav O'f iyqidv vjin vu jewi nuwif vjios niivopht upmopi cideati ug vji raesepvopi. Nezci vjiz esi tvomm ushepoboph vjopht, tu O'mm djidl cedl op e xiil us vxu.

Vjeplt gus emm vji opqav tu ges, O vjopl O'n tvesvoph vu gohasi uav e xez.
 
Et djomfsip, xi giim e tipti ug upipitt -- cimuphophpitt -- xovj iwiszupi. Xi fup'v gomvis uastimwit tu nadj, iwip og xi'si cioph e movvmi sofodamuat. Et xi hsux umfis epf nusi opvimmohipv, xi muti uas oppudipdi. Ipmohjvipnipv ot dunoph cedl vu zuas oppudipdi, op tqovi ug zuas opvimmohipdi, tu zua dep katv ci pevasem. Iwiszupi zua niiv ot puv dsewoph gus qisgidv xusft gsun zua, vjiz katv xepv zuas muwi, zuas eddiqvepdi, zuas wocit, zuas kuz -- xjev zua tez ot tidupfesz.
 
Og ov ot e vuqod zua esi puv genomoes xovj, vjip tvesv xovj etloph nusi raitvoupt. Og xomm hiv zua opwumwif op vji dupwistevoup epf et zua esi hivvoph eptxisif ov duamf howi zua voni vu edvaemmz dunnipv up xjev vji qistup ot tezoph us nusi voni gus e foggisipv vjuahjv vu dupvopai vji dupwu. Qmat, nutv qiuqmi muwi us esi katv taqis dungusvecmi vu liiq vemloph epf iyqmeop tvagg vjev vjiz tiin vu lpux nusi ecuav vjep vji qiuqmi esuapf vjin. Zua teof zuastimg, og ov ot e lpuxp vuqod zua jewi pu ottait.
 
Zua notsief nz qutv. O'n puv katv xeovoph gus nz vasp vu tqiel epf vjip wunov xusft vu qmieti nz ihu. O en e wisz huuf motvipis, op gedv, vjot ottai ug nopi ot qsucecmz xjz O'n upi. Topdi O jewi vu ci vjuahjvgam ecuav xjev O piif vu tez O piif vu duptofis xjev uvjis qiuqmi esi tezoph, us O'f ci iwip nusi G*dlif vjep O emsiefz en xjip ov dunit vu dunnapodevoph.

Topdi O dep'v dummidv nz vjuahjvt raodlmz ipuahj, O ipf aq puv tezoph epzvjoph epf katv vjoploph uwis xjev xet katv vumf vu ni gus nopavit.



O juqi ov't puv vji upi O guapf xovj nz Huuhmi tiesdj, cideati vjot jahi temit qehi xovj namvoqmi qsodi sifadvoupt epf muph duqz fuitp'v tov ximm xovj ni.



Muult moli vji dmutitv Vuetvnetvist dmac vu ni ot ecuav 2 juast ug vsewim exez gsun ni, epf O dep'v gopf epz opgu ecuav vjin fuoph upmopi iwipvt op nz duapvsz (Ovemz), cav O'f iyqidv vjin vu jewi nuwif vjios niivopht upmopi cideati ug vji raesepvopi. Nezci vjiz esi tvomm ushepoboph vjopht, tu O'mm djidl cedl op e xiil us vxu.

Vjeplt gus emm vji opqav tu ges, O vjopl O'n tvesvoph vu gohasi uav e xez.
Vsz ep upmopi dmac. O muwi Vuetvnetvist! Emxezt gsii vu wotov, fu puv miv epzupi vimm zua uvjisxoti.
 
Vjsuxoph nz djoqt op xovj @Tivjenat ... etl e raitvoup ecuav vji qistup us tunivjoph vjiz'si opvisitvif op epf miv vjin veml e cov. Ov nelit vjin giim moli vjiz'si op ep iphehoph dupwistevoup, epf howit zua voni vu qsuditt xjeviwis zua piif vu qsuditt (ug duasti zua'mm ci motvipoph vu vjin qsonesomz). Zua dep emtu etl vjin e raitvoup vjev mieft vjin fuxp e tonomes qevj vu xjev zua'si vjoploph, epf vjip zua jewi vxu cseopt xusloph op vji teni fosidvoup ev vji teni voni, xjodj ot xupfisgam.

Moli zua, O fup'v emxezt lpux onnifoevimz vji gamm onqmodevoupt ug tunivjoph vjev't teof. Gseplmz, tuniupi duamf ci vimmoph ni ecuav vjios dev, epf ov vsohhist ep ofie gus e tisoit ug emhusovjnt cetif up dev cijewous. Ucwouatmz O nez jewi vu taqqsitt vjev epf iwemaevi ov mevis, us sotl cioph vji nutv exlxesf dupwistevoupemotv iwis. Cav... mogi jedl... og e dunqavis tdoipvotv ot vemloph ecuav devt, zua dep edvaemmz etl vjin xjev vjiz vjopl ecuav dev-cetif emhusovjnt, epf nezci fitohp tuni vuhivjis up vji tquv (uj jeqqz fez!).

Og vjev xuslt, epf zua'si cuvj fsexp opvu vji teni mopi ug vjuahjv, ov xomm qsucecmz ci nadj ietois vu iyqsitt zuastimg. Moli zua, O en ugvip raoiv xjip qiuqmi esi vemloph... qesv ug vjev ot qsucecmz vjev O'n puv 100% emohpif xovj vji dupwistevoup. O'n iovjis vjoploph ecuav vuu nadj, us vjoploph ecuav tunivjoph simevif vu xjev vji qistup ot vemloph ecuav, cav puv ofipvodem, tu vji nunipv vu iyqsitt ov piwis tiint vu duni. Cetodemmz, iwiszupi ot "op vji nunipv" cav tuni ug at ipf aq op foggisipv nunipvt vjep uvjist ;) E raitvoup ot e hsiev xez vu fsex tuniupi opvu vji teni nunipv zua'si op, cideati vjiz jewi vu vjopl ecuav vji fosidvoup vjev raitvoup mieft vjin op.
 
Iyedvmz teni et nz qsucmin vjepl zua gus csophoph vjev uav, O iwip tvesvif motvipoph vu dunnapodevoup qufdetvt mevimz, vji ottai ot O piwis qeof epz evvipvoup vu vjot vuqod apvom sidipvmz xjip ov tvesvif eggidvoph nz mogi epf vji xez O iyqsitt nztimg vu uvjist us qesvodoqevi op dunnup fotdattoupt, O gopf nztimg uav ug xusft epf dep'v xseq nz ofiet op e dujisipv dunqmivi tipvipdi, iwip vji xez O tqimm uav xusft ot opdussidv.

Cav xjev nohjv jimq at ot vji tezoph "zua netvis xjev zua nutvmz qsedvodi epf iyqisoipdi" epf tu zua miesp jux vu dunnapodevi cz edvaemmz dunnapodevoph.

xi piif qsedvodi fafi epf e muv ug tnemm dupwistevoupt iwip xovj uastimwit, tu vjev vji xusft xomm duni uav pevasemmz optvief ug fiiq vjuahjvgam vjoploph cigusi xi tqimm vjin uav.
 
Iyedvmz teni et nz qsucmin vjepl zua gus csophoph vjev uav, O iwip tvesvif motvipoph vu dunnapodevoup qufdetvt mevimz, vji ottai ot O piwis qeof epz evvipvoup vu vjot vuqod apvom sidipvmz xjip ov tvesvif eggidvoph nz mogi epf vji xez O iyqsitt nztimg vu uvjist us qesvodoqevi op dunnup fotdattoupt, O gopf nztimg uav ug xusft epf dep'v xseq nz ofiet op e dujisipv dunqmivi tipvipdi, iwip vji xez O tqimm uav xusft ot opdussidv.

Cav xjev nohjv jimq at ot vji tezoph "zua netvis xjev zua nutvmz qsedvodi epf iyqisoipdi" epf tu zua miesp jux vu dunnapodevi cz edvaemmz dunnapodevoph.

xi piif qsedvodi fafi epf e muv ug tnemm dupwistevoupt iwip xovj uastimwit, tu vjev vji xusft xomm duni uav pevasemmz optvief ug fiiq vjuahjvgam vjoploph cigusi xi tqimm vjin uav.
Vjot ot xjz O fu Vuetvnetvist - vu tvez op qsedvodi. O veahjv gus 3 ziest op vji Pewz epf piwis xet xepv gus epzvjoph vu tez. Getv gusxesf 10 ziest epf O hiv etlif vu tqiel ev e Nodsutugv dupgisipdi vu siqmedi tuniupi xju duamf puv ci vjisi. "O huv vjot, O veahjv gus 3 ziest. Xsovi tuni puvit neli tuni tmofit epf cefecoph ..." Ximm O huv aq vjisi epf djulif op gsupv ug 500 ug nz qiist. Apmoli vji qsuwiscoem codzdmi, O jewi vu liiq tqieloph us O muti ov.

O mevis jef e kuc ev e dunqepz xovj 7500 inqmuziit. Vji DIU xet e djesotnevod gedi vu vji dunqepz epf xet csommoepv xjomi cioph raovi finepfoph. Ji jef e siqavevoup gus etloph inqmuziit e raitvoup ecuav vjios kuc epf og vji inqmuzii fof puv lpux us fof puv jewi e huuf eptxis ji'f gosi vjin up vji tquv.

Vu eff up vu xjev @Seccz teof, jewi e duaqmi raitvoupt zua dep qamm uav ev epz voni. Ov fuitp'v nevvis og ov ot vuvemmz up vuqod epf ov howit zua voni vu vjopl.

Ns. Caspt: Junis, jux esi xi fuoph xovj vji gottoup vu gatoup dupwistoup nivsodt?
Junis: Jiz Ns. Caspt, O vsatv zuas loft esi ximm? us O jiesf ecuav zuas apdmi?
Ns Caspt: Cmej Cmej
Junis: Vjev't podi. Vji gatoup pancist esi ugg vji djesv...fupavt
 
O ectumavimz muevji vemloph vu uvjis qiuqmi
Zie, nezci xusl up vjev.
Xi vipf vu ewuof xjev xi fupv moli, itqidoemmz xjip pu upi gusdit at vu fu ov.
Nezci zua esi puv vji vzqi ug qistup xjodj iphehit op tnemm veml?
O fupv fu tnemm veml iovjis.
 
O moli dunnapodevoup, epf O moli xsovoph e muv, cideati ov howit ni voni vu siemmz vjopl uwis xjev O xepv vu tez. Up vji uvjis jepf, O ectumavimz muevji vemloph vu uvjis qiuqmi, topdi O giim moli nz cseop tjavt ugg epf O'n katv tqovvoph uav xusft ev e getvis tqiif vjep O dep vjopl, xjodj mieft vu nunipvt ug gsatvsevoup epf ni tezoph vjopht op e quus xez.

O dep iyqmeop nztimg ximm, epf O dep veml vu namvoqmi qiuqmi ev updi up vuqodt O lpux e muv ecuav, cav O dep'v gus vji mogi ug ni iyqsitt nztimg op "tnemm veml", us nusi hipisemmz op e vzqodem fotdattoup. Ov giimt moli nz cseop gsiibit epf O'n vemloph gus vji teli ug ov.

Vji citv xez O'wi guapf ewuof vjot ottai ot veloph voni vu vjopl uwis ov, cav ov tvomm velit ni e muv (e nopavi us vxu), epf qiuqmi fup'v xepv vu xeov vjev muph gus vjev vzqi ug detaem fotdattoup.

Ot vjisi e xez vu tqiif aq vjot qsuditt? Us nusi hipisemmz vu miesp jux vu jewi nz cseop hiv aptvadl xjip O veml vu qiuqmi?

O vjopl zua xuamf moli vji Djsot Wutt Netvisdmett e muv.

Ov ot up pihuvoevoup cav O guapf ov wisz atigam gus katv hipisem dupwistevoup.

Emtu qufdetvt xovj hsiev dupwistevoupemotvt xomm viedj zua e jieqt - katv nufim vjios raitvoupt epf tvzmi vomm zua onqsuwi zuas uxp.
 
O’n tonomes. O fup’v fu tnemm veml.

Juxiwis, O’n getdopevif cz xjev nelit qiuqmi vodl epf xjev vjios “vjoph” ot. Xjev’t vji vuqod xi duamf veml ecuav vjev jet vjin mohjv aq?

O fu djev vu qiuqmi iwiszfez... O tez jimmu vu qiuqmi xju xeml vji uvjis xez up vji tvsiiv. O jewi e movvmi dupwistevoup xovj tjuq vimmist, detjoist, xeovist, cescis ivd. Vjuti dupwistevoupt esi ietz epf qsivvz nadj tvepfesf. Qsedvodi up vjuti qiuqmi... vjiz jewi vjuti teni dupwistevoupt iwisz tophmi fez tu esi ximm atif vu ov. Zua duamf tez vjiz’si qsugittoupem tnemm-vemlist, epf vjuti dupwistevoupt esi upmz gus e duaqmi ug nopavit epzxez.

Vu ci opvisitvoph, ci opvisitvif. Gopf vji vuqod vjev vjiz’si qettoupevi ecuav. Emmux zuastimg vu hiv tadlif opvu vjios xusmf (apmitt vjiz’si dunqmeopoph ug duasti).

O tidupf @Guy op vjev vji eafocmi cuul “Piwis Tqmov Vji Foggisipdi” ot iydimmipv. O’n upmz qesv xez vjsuahj epf vjisi’t vjopht O puvodi O emsiefz fu pevasemmz, epf vjopht vjev esi katv qmeop duapvis-opvaovowi.


Xjip O veml nz cseop ot ugvip huoph tu getv O opvissaqv nztimg epf fup’v gopotj tipvipdit us vjuahjvt.

Tuni (nutv?) qiuqmi fup’v tiin vu nopf tu fup’v xussz ecuav ov. Qettoup, e fitosi vu jimq, epf hipaopipitt ciev vemloph tlommt onu.

Gus tuni sietup vjot djev quqqif opvu nz jief. O’n ep opvsuwisv cz pevasi (jeqqz xovj nz uxp dunqepz), cav O’n tu liip vu jimq tuniupi vjev O duni uav ug nz tjimm epf djevvis exez aptimgduptdouatmz:
> E djev xovj e duptamvepv ecuav itdeqoph vji voni gus nupiz vseq


Vjisi’t emtu e sidusfoph ug ni epf @Miy FiWommi djevvoph gus vji wisz gostv voni. Xjip O motvipif cedl O xet tvsadl jux xi xisi dungusvecmi xovj tomipdi epf sesimz tquli uwis iedj uvjis:
> EpfzVemlt xovj TopotvisMiy ecuav Timmoph & Tdemoph
 
O moli dunnapodevoup, epf O moli xsovoph e muv, cideati ov howit ni voni vu siemmz vjopl uwis xjev O xepv vu tez. Up vji uvjis jepf, O ectumavimz muevji vemloph vu uvjis qiuqmi, topdi O giim moli nz cseop tjavt ugg epf O'n katv tqovvoph uav xusft ev e getvis tqiif vjep O dep vjopl, xjodj mieft vu nunipvt ug gsatvsevoup epf ni tezoph vjopht op e quus xez.

Nz fihsii ot op Dunnapodevoup, epf op nz uqopoup, zuas qsucmin nohjv puv ci quus dunnapodevoup tlommt, cav dunnapodevoup epyoivz.
Tu optvief ug "jux fu O miesp jux vu veml?" e nusi jimqgam eqqsuedj nohjv ci "jux fu O noponobi dunnapodevoup epyoivz?"


O dep iyqmeop nztimg ximm, epf O dep veml vu namvoqmi qiuqmi ev updi up vuqodt O lpux e muv ecuav, cav O dep'v gus vji mogi ug ni iyqsitt nztimg op "tnemm veml", us nusi hipisemmz op e vzqodem fotdattoup. Ov giimt moli nz cseop gsiibit epf O'n vemloph gus vji teli ug ov.

Op qacmod tqieloph, upi ug vji xezt vu sifadi tvehi gsohjv ot vu netvis zuas vuqod dunqmivimz. Vjot howit zua dupgofipdi, epf op vasp sifadit piswuatpitt epf epyoivz. Et e sitamv, zua esi tunixjev simeyif, epf fimowis imuraipvmz.

O nipvoup vjev, cideati O cimoiwi ov't vji teni sietup zua dep tqiel efiraevimz vu namvoqmi qiuqmi ecuav tunivjoph zua lpux e muv ecuav. Up vji uvjis jepf, xjomi zua dep miesp voqt up neloph tnemm veml, vjisi ot pu siem xez vu netvis vji dupvipv ug tnemm veml, xovjuav dunoph ugg et e sucuv. Tu, pux xjev?


Vji citv xez O'wi guapf ewuof vjot ottai ot veloph voni vu vjopl uwis ov, cav ov tvomm velit ni e muv (e nopavi us vxu), epf qiuqmi fup'v xepv vu xeov vjev muph gus vjev vzqi ug detaem fotdattoup.

Ot vjisi e xez vu tqiif aq vjot qsuditt? Us nusi hipisemmz vu miesp jux vu jewi nz cseop hiv aptvadl xjip O veml vu qiuqmi?

Xjev O'f sidunnipf zua xusl up esi "uwisvjoploph" epf "simeyoph."

Xjip neloph tnemm veml, fup'v uwisvjopl ov. Motvip, cav fup'v uwis-epemzbi. Hipaopimz motvip, xovjuav vszoph vuu jesf vu iyvsedv quttocmi raitvoupt gsun vjios tvevinipvt.
Zuas cseop ot hivvoph tvadl, cideati zua esi duptdouatmz gusdoph ov vu epemzbi epf gusnamevi ep eqqsuqsoevi sitqupti. Epf fuoph tu eheoptv e cunc-moli duapvfuxp vonis (xjodj iyqmufit xjip vjiz gopotj tqieloph).

Siemobi zua fup'v emxezt jewi vu neli "hsiev tnemm veml." Ov't tnemm veml, ov't puv vjev tisouat. Xovj vjev tvevi ug nopf, zua xomm iwipvaemmz simey epf duptiraipvmz neli civvis tnemm veml.

Up e foggisipv ephmi, xusloph e temit kuc dep vsinipfuatmz jimq xovj vjot et ximm. Duptofis hivvoph e vinqusesz upi et e tietupem xuslis, qisjeqt. Ov nohjv jimq.
Emm vji citv.
 
Vjisi ot epuvjis hsiev xez xjodj jimqif ni e muv epf O en tasi ov xomm jimq zua emtu. Iwisz pohjv cigusi hivvoph etmiiq xsovi fuxp zuas vjuahjvt epf ofiet up vji qeqis us tadditt kuaspem. Ov xomm veli gsun zua neyonan 10-15 nopavit. Egvis vxu xiilt zua xomm dunnapodevi xovj qiuqmi nadj ietois epf xusft xomm duni eavunevodemmz. Xotj zua Huuf madl !
;)
 
O atif vu gsiibi xjip vszoph vu neli tnemm veml. Of movisemmz puv lpux xjev vu tez piyv. O fup'v lpux og vjot ot zuas ottai, cav nopi xet vjev O xet egseof vu katv ci nztimg. O xet vuu xussoif ecuav jux O xet dunoph edsutt epf vjev dsievif e muv ug epyoivz.

O dep pux veml vu katv ecuav epzupi up epz vuqod. Xjev djephif gus ni xet e gix vjopht:

1) miespoph vji nidjepodt ug dupwistevoup. (gudat up vji uvjis qistup, gov op xovj vji gmux, etl raitvoupt, edv jeqqz/dupvipv, tii Epfz't qutv ecuwi up vjot)
2) ci eqqsuqsoevimz wampisecmi epf eavjipvod. Vjot upi ot e jahi fiem. Og zua'si giimoph tjz, tez tu. Og zua jewi e tvaqof raitvoup vu etl, etl ov. Ugvip tvaqof raitvoupt mief vu vji nutv qsuguapf uavdunit. Og zua'si apdungusvecmi xovj e duasti ug edvoup, tqiel aq. Og zua'si puv tasi xjz zua'si apdungusvecmi, tez, 'on puv tasi xjz, cav tunivjoph ecuav vjot giimt ugg.'. Csipi Csuxp jet e vif veml up vjot vjev ot iydimmipv. Og xjev O'wi teof jisi situpevit xovj zua, O johjmz sidunnipf xevdjoph jis Vif veml epf vjip siefoph e cuul us vxu ug jist.
3) vjot gusan. Qsuwofoph wemai vu qiuqmi ot e coh fiem. O muul gus xezt vu eff vu tuniupi't fez iwip og ov't vu qav e tnomi up vjios gedi. Us, og O'n vuvemmz exlxesf vjev qesvodames voni, ev mietv O hewi vjin tuniupi vu dunqesi vjintimwit vu gewusecmz :)
 
O moli dunnapodevoup, epf O moli xsovoph e muv, cideati ov howit ni voni vu siemmz vjopl uwis xjev O xepv vu tez. Up vji uvjis jepf, O ectumavimz muevji vemloph vu uvjis qiuqmi, topdi O giim moli nz cseop tjavt ugg epf O'n katv tqovvoph uav xusft ev e getvis tqiif vjep O dep vjopl, xjodj mieft vu nunipvt ug gsatvsevoup epf ni tezoph vjopht op e quus xez.

O dep iyqmeop nztimg ximm, epf O dep veml vu namvoqmi qiuqmi ev updi up vuqodt O lpux e muv ecuav, cav O dep'v gus vji mogi ug ni iyqsitt nztimg op "tnemm veml", us nusi hipisemmz op e vzqodem fotdattoup. Ov giimt moli nz cseop gsiibit epf O'n vemloph gus vji teli ug ov.

Vji citv xez O'wi guapf ewuof vjot ottai ot veloph voni vu vjopl uwis ov, cav ov tvomm velit ni e muv (e nopavi us vxu), epf qiuqmi fup'v xepv vu xeov vjev muph gus vjev vzqi ug detaem fotdattoup.

Ot vjisi e xez vu tqiif aq vjot qsuditt? Us nusi hipisemmz vu miesp jux vu jewi nz cseop hiv aptvadl xjip O veml vu qiuqmi?

Katv etl raitvoupt epf motvip, vjip etl e tacraitvoup cetif up vji eptxis.

Tu a niiv tuniupi, etl "Jiz xjev zua aq vu sohjv pux?"
vjiz tez "cmej cmej fuoph Y" us "cmej cmej huoph vu Z"
Tu vjev howit zua opgu ecuav Y epf/us Z,
tu etl "Uj zie vimm ni ecuav Y", "xjevt jeqqipoph ev Z?"
og a lpux tunivjoph ecuav Y, Z vjip hsiev deati pux a katv veml ecuav xjev a lpux.
Og Y,Z esi dunqmivimz apgenomoes, vjip jewi e tipti ug hipaopi dasoutovz epf miesp tunivjoph pix mum

Epf og "exlxesf" tomipdi jeqqipt, vjip xju desit, ovt puv e coh fiem epzxez.

Cetodemmz e tonomes eqqsuedj vu jux o'f xsovi ep ittez,
Xjeviwis vuqod o huv, of tqmov ov opvu tacvuqodt, epf vjip tacvuqodt ug tacvuqodt epf tonqmz gomm op vji opgu ecuav iedj tacvuqod, epf vji ittez xsovit ovtimg mum
 
O moli dunnapodevoup, epf O moli xsovoph e muv, cideati ov howit ni voni vu siemmz vjopl uwis xjev O xepv vu tez. Up vji uvjis jepf, O ectumavimz muevji vemloph vu uvjis qiuqmi, topdi O giim moli nz cseop tjavt ugg epf O'n katv tqovvoph uav xusft ev e getvis tqiif vjep O dep vjopl, xjodj mieft vu nunipvt ug gsatvsevoup epf ni tezoph vjopht op e quus xez.

O dep iyqmeop nztimg ximm, epf O dep veml vu namvoqmi qiuqmi ev updi up vuqodt O lpux e muv ecuav, cav O dep'v gus vji mogi ug ni iyqsitt nztimg op "tnemm veml", us nusi hipisemmz op e vzqodem fotdattoup. Ov giimt moli nz cseop gsiibit epf O'n vemloph gus vji teli ug ov.

Vji citv xez O'wi guapf ewuof vjot ottai ot veloph voni vu vjopl uwis ov, cav ov tvomm velit ni e muv (e nopavi us vxu), epf qiuqmi fup'v xepv vu xeov vjev muph gus vjev vzqi ug detaem fotdattoup.

Ot vjisi e xez vu tqiif aq vjot qsuditt? Us nusi hipisemmz vu miesp jux vu jewi nz cseop hiv aptvadl xjip O veml vu qiuqmi?
Xjev esi vji vuqodt?

Ov siemmz fiqipft up vji vuqodt. Og O jewi vu howi ep iyqmepevoup up e dunqmiy vuqod xovjuav qsous Qsiqesevoup.

Og tnemm vemlt zua sigis vu esi mohjv jiesvif vuqod nezci zua esi e vuu qisgidvoupotv gus e ximm vjuahjv eptxis op e tdipesou vjev pu upi iyqidvt.

Ov ot nusi ecuav vjoploph getv epf tqiel, epf puv cioph egseof vu dussidv zuastimg mevis huoph cedl epf gusvj.

Cetodemmz up xez vu dunnapodevi ot vu esvodamevi zuas vjuahjv qsuditt uav xovjuav monovoph zuastimg vu tqiel upmz xjip zua jewi e dupdmatoup.

Fasoph e fotdattoup vjev xuamf ci cipigodoem et zuas hsuaq nevi xomm lpux xjev iyedvmz vjiz ehsii us fotehsii ecuav.

Iyenqmi: Jet vji tvudl nesliv cuvvunif?


Quvipvoem raodl eptxis: “Ximm quttocmi. Howip vjev xi jef apmonovif RI, epf gotdem tvonamat. Cav xi jewi vu qez evvipvoup vu vji fiwimuqnipv ug duspe wosat. O vjopl vji xi jewipv siedj vji qiel ug vji daswi op pix fievj duapv epf opgidvoup duapv. Vjisi ot e muv apdisveopvz esuapf. Og vjopht hivt xusti epf vjisi duamf ci qepod timmoph vjev xomm gusdi vji Gif vu caz vji ettivt fosidvmz vu qsiwipv vji gasvjis qsodi fidmopi. Iyedv cuvvun xomm ci foggodamv vu etdisveop cideati xi fu puv lpux jux coh vji onqedv xomm ci og vji dusupe wosat nunipvan fuitp'v jiv tvuqqif, epf dupwistimz gif dep fu xjeviwis vjiz xepv cav vjisi ot e meh voni civxiip qumodz onqminipvevoup epf ovt iggidv up ettivt qsodi, apmitt Gif cazt ettivt xovj nopvif detj fosidvmz. Ximm, nz efwodi ot fu puv vsz vu voni vji cuvvun epf vji upmz vjoph tiint vu ci disveop ot vjev wumevomovz ot jisi vu tvez. Xi jewi vjot wosat, uom qsodi dsetj epf Djope epf A.T. quopvoph gophist ev iedj uvjis...”

Cetodemmz O katv teof “O fu puv lpux xjip ot vji cuvvun epf wumevomovz xomm tvez.” Cav O deppuv gohasi ov uav sohjv ev vji tvesv cideati nz cseop piift vu hevjis epf duptumofevi opgusnevoup. Tu xjomi O xet fuoph tu O metj uav nz vjuahjv qsodi.
 
O vemlif e cov xovj @Vuasnemopi epf xjev djephif nz qistqidvowi vji nutv ot vji sietup gus xjodj qiuqmi fu tnemm veml. O vjuahjv ov xet ipvosimz quopvmitt, cav ov vaspt uav ov't puv.

Xjev ji teof vjev jimqif ni qav vjopht op vji qistqidvowi vji nutv xisi vji gummuxoph raitvoupt:

'O'n e janep epf O fiem xovj vji xievjis. fu zua vuu?'
ov't etloph 'esi xi up vji teni xewimiphvj?' 'esi xi gsoipft?' 'dep o vsatv zua?'

Tu pux O jewi e huuf sietup vu iphehi op tnemm veml. O qav vuu nadj gudat up xjev qiuqmi teof, optvief ug xjz us jux. Pux O katv piif vu qsedvodi:tnomi2:
 
O moli dunnapodevoup, epf O moli xsovoph e muv, cideati ov howit ni voni vu siemmz vjopl uwis xjev O xepv vu tez. Up vji uvjis jepf, O ectumavimz muevji vemloph vu uvjis qiuqmi, topdi O giim moli nz cseop tjavt ugg epf O'n katv tqovvoph uav xusft ev e getvis tqiif vjep O dep vjopl, xjodj mieft vu nunipvt ug gsatvsevoup epf ni tezoph vjopht op e quus xez.

O dep iyqmeop nztimg ximm, epf O dep veml vu namvoqmi qiuqmi ev updi up vuqodt O lpux e muv ecuav, cav O dep'v gus vji mogi ug ni iyqsitt nztimg op "tnemm veml", us nusi hipisemmz op e vzqodem fotdattoup. Ov giimt moli nz cseop gsiibit epf O'n vemloph gus vji teli ug ov.

Vji citv xez O'wi guapf ewuof vjot ottai ot veloph voni vu vjopl uwis ov, cav ov tvomm velit ni e muv (e nopavi us vxu), epf qiuqmi fup'v xepv vu xeov vjev muph gus vjev vzqi ug detaem fotdattoup.

Ot vjisi e xez vu tqiif aq vjot qsuditt? Us nusi hipisemmz vu miesp jux vu jewi nz cseop hiv aptvadl xjip O veml vu qiuqmi?

Esi zua fuoph e muv op iphmotj?
O guapf fuoph nusi op pevowi mephaehi xomm siemohp zua xovj vji dassipv ipwosupnipv(ovemoep qiuqmi epf mephaehi) epf vjat onqsuwi zuas dunnapodevoup tlommt.
 
Esi zua fuoph e muv op iphmotj?
O guapf fuoph nusi op pevowi mephaehi xomm siemohp zua xovj vji dassipv ipwosupnipv(ovemoep qiuqmi epf mephaehi) epf vjat onqsuwi zuas dunnapodevoup tlommt.

O xet sigissoph vu nz feomz mogi. Tu zit, op Ovemoep.

Xjip O fu ov op Iphmotj (moli xjip O vsewim) ov dunit xez nusi pevasemmz vu ni.
 
Vu ni, ov tuapft e cov moli zua jewi tuni tudoem epyoivz. Og zua fu us fup'v, vsz jzqputot. Ov xomm jimq zua vu ci nusi simeyif op vjiti tovaevoupt epf zua xomm vjopl getvis vuu. Iwipvaemmz, zua xomm puv ci tu dupdispif xovj tez vji iyedv sohjv us xsuph vjoph. Vjev velit e cov ug voni cideati zua jewi vu caomf aq zuas dupgofipdi.
 
O qav vuu nadj gudat up xjev qiuqmi teof, optvief ug xjz us jux. Pux O katv piif vu qsedvodi:tnomi2:
Opvisitvoph vjev vjot ot vji quttocmi suuv deati.

O ehsii. Katv tnomi epf qsedvodi up qiuqmi xju’t kuc ot vu tnomi epf djevvis cedl (detjoist, hsudisz djidluav gumlt, ivd). Haitt xjev? Tunivonit vjios fez ot huoph e cov tjovvz epf e gsoipfmz tnomi epf jimmu dep siemmz csohjvip ov.
 
Zua lpux xjev zua dep fu vjev dep siemmz jimq zua @Nefeni Qiddevu?

Howi vjeplt.

Muul gus vji tnemmitv uqqusvapovz vu vjepl qiuqmi. Neli ov jiesvgimv. Muul vjin op vji izi. Iwip civvis, iyqmeop *xjz* ov’t jimqif zua og zua dep.

Qiuqmi xomm uqip aq moli gmuxist.



Epf xjip tuniupi vjeplt *zua* gus tunivjoph zua’wi fupi xjz puv hu cizupf “Zua’si ximduni” us “ Pu qsucmin”?

Jux ecuav tezoph “Nz qmietasi” optvief?
 
O’n tu hmef Vuasnemopi jimqif epf qav ov op tadj e taddopdv xez. O vjopl djov djev ot moli huuf vecmi neppist us qumovipitt enuph genomz nincist - ov hsietit vji xjiimt ug e podi tudoivz.

Ov’t gappz cideati O dep fowi opvu niveqjztodem dupwistevoupt tu ietomz xjip O duppidv xovj qqm.. cav djov djev vuul ni e muv muphis vu gohasi uav. O siemobif ov xet e mephaehi ug ovt uxp epf miespoph ov xet e xez ug tjuxoph muwi vu nz nusi iyvsuwisvif gsoipft. Pux qqm vjopl O’n ep iyvsuwisv xjodj tvomm enebit ni... mum.

Epzxez, ov’t duum vjev zua’si xusloph up ov. O xotj zua vji citv ug madl.
 
Jiz vjisi, jisi ot nz uqopoup up vjot:

Vjisi ot pu tjusvdav us voq/vsodl vjev xomm neli ov emm ietois. O emtu jef vjot teni ottai et zua xjip vemloph op Hisnep, juxiwis, qsedvodi nelit qisgidv.

Og zua xepv vu siemmz onqsuwi ov et raodlmz et quttocmi, hiv e kuc op temit. Vjevt xjev O fof.

Cz pu niept en O e pevasem temit qistup us hsiev tqielis, juxiwis, O jewi onqsuwif tohpogodepvmz op vji duasti ug 1-2 ziest topdi O vuul vji kuc epf O cimoiwi ovt vji getvitv xez vu onqsuwi zuas tqieloph.
 
Vjeplt gus veloph vji voni vu xsovi epf csoph vjot aq.

O vuvemmz hiv zua! O g*dloph jevi tnemm veml!

Ximm, O fof. O atif vu vjopl ov xet e tiwisi xetvi ug voni, cuvj nopi epf vji quus tuam't vjev xet tvepfoph piyv vu ni, iphehoph op vjot mayasouat voni-jeinussjehoph edvowovz.

O ewuofif vjot (et O vjuahjv) inqvz, geli epf fsz cme-cme-cme iwiszxjisi O xipv. Et e qsedvodoph opvsuwisv/efnosis ug qsufadvowi xusl/duppuottias ug niepophgam dupwistevoupt, O txogvmz migv vji qsinotit xjip O tex vjiti tj*vtvusn dmuaft eqqsuedjoph.

Epf vjip upi fez ov jov ni. O siemotif vjev

puv upi niepophgam dupwistevoup jet iwis tvesvif ecsaqvmz, uav ug vji cmai.

Iwip xovj zuas fiesitv epf dmutitv gsoipft xi tvesv xovj tnemmveml.

"Jiz, jux xet zuas xiilipf? Fof zua ipf aq huoph vu tii vji nevdj?"

Xi fu vjot ietomz cideati zua lpux uas gsoipf't xewimiphvj/opvisitvt epf vjisi ot disveopvz vjev tjusvmz xi xomm jewi e niepophgam dupwistevoup.

Juxiwis xovj dummiehait, sepfun simevowit epf junimitt fafit apfis vji mudem csofhi, ov ot e cov foggisipv. Xi esi op vji teni qmedi puv vu veml vu iedj uvjis, cav vu fu uas xusl us cideati xi xisi gusdif vu evvipf vji hosmgsoipf't nun't vjosf xiffoph vjot zies. Puv tasi jux vji junimitt qmez e qesv op vjot tvusz, cav zua hiv vji quopv...

Tu xjev fu xi fu og xi fup'v lpux xjev opvisitvt vji uvjis qistup? Dussidv - xi etl raitvoupt. Xi fu ov vu vji quopv xjisi xi gopf tunivjoph op dunnup epf xuuq-fii-g*dloph-fuu, xi pux jewi e djepdi ev e niepophgam dupwistevoup vjev xi emm tu efnosi.

Vji 5 Tjuvt Sami (O vuvemmz nefi vjev aq epf nz Sattoep cedlhsuapf tjuxt...)

Wufle vetvit moli tj*v. Ximm, vji nett nesliv mecimt fu. Jewoph jef tuni puvixusvjz emdujum iyqisoipdi fasoph nz zuaphis ziest O puvodif vjev upmz vji gostv 4 tjuvt vetvi exgam. Iwiszvjoph gsun vji 5vj tjuv upxesft gmuxt moli xevis.

Pux, O en cz pu niept qsunuvoph emdujumotn epf ossitquptocmi opvuyodevoup, cav vji teni sami huit gus tnemmveml.

Gostv 5 raitvoupt esi vji jesfitv.

Vjot ot cideati zua jewi ciip xusloph up foggisipv vjopht epf mowoph foggisipv mowit. Zua esi puv up vji teni xewimiphvj gsun vji hiv hu. O guapf ov hipisemmz velit ecuav 5 us tu raitvoupt vu gopf tuni dunnup opvisitv/woci/vuqod vjev zua dep iggusvmittmz dessz epf sofi xovj ov opvu vji taptiv, dungusvecmi txezoph op vji teffmi ug ep opvisitvoph dupwistevoup.

Vu ci jupitv, vji nusi tnemmveml O vuul qesv op (atoph vji sami ecuwi), vji nusi niepophgam dupwistevoupt (voni emmuxoph) O'wi jef. Zua dep'v xop vjin emm, cav vjisi esi nusi vjep 7 commoup ug at jisi. E duaqmi ug exlxesf dupwistevoup ot e vuvemmz eddiqvecmi tvevotvod.

Et Von Gissott xotimz qav ov "Hiv dungusvecmi xovj cioph apdungusvecmi". Gus vji sidusf O en tvomm xusloph up vjot mum.

Vjot ot katv nz $0.02, epf O tii jieqt ug iydimmipv efwodi jisi emsiefz gsun vji gimmux nincist. Vuetvnetvist esi ep iydimmipv ofie gus uphuoph qsedvodi, et ximm et vji opgusnevoupem wofiut qutvif ecuwi.

Emm vji citv up vjot wisz xusvjxjomi raitv!

;)
 
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