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Give yourself permission to grieve.
Move towards it, not away. Sit with it awhile and realize that you’re grieving all the what if’s and could have beens.
You’re grieving his future as well as your loss.
Grief is weird.. it’s like a phantom hole in your side that comes and goes depending on the minute and all the while it’s bleeding and you’re stuck wondering if the floor is more slippier today than yesterday..
Yes. The floor is a mess. You’re not a total disaster though because you’re busy walking around feeling (not being numb) this wretched pain.. and now that I’ve pointed it out, this awfulness, you might feel guilty that you do feel it because it reminds you that he doesn’t and that hurts even more.
Grief is awful. It’s ok to feel awful.
Our culture tells you you get a week but you’re still going to be hurting for a long time. It will hit you randomly and intensely and it will make no sense and the best thing to do?
Thank God or the universe that you had someone so special because your brother was a gift. I’m so so sorry for your loss.
Someday, someone you barely know will be wretched and hurting because they’ll be grieving a brother.. and then you’ll be able to write words of comfort and cry your eyes out while doing so.. and it still won’t make the hole any smaller...but you’ll realize that it’s more bearable because you’ll have gotten bigger.
May you cry clean. Don’t beat yourself up over the floor.
Move towards it, not away. Sit with it awhile and realize that you’re grieving all the what if’s and could have beens.
You’re grieving his future as well as your loss.
Grief is weird.. it’s like a phantom hole in your side that comes and goes depending on the minute and all the while it’s bleeding and you’re stuck wondering if the floor is more slippier today than yesterday..
Yes. The floor is a mess. You’re not a total disaster though because you’re busy walking around feeling (not being numb) this wretched pain.. and now that I’ve pointed it out, this awfulness, you might feel guilty that you do feel it because it reminds you that he doesn’t and that hurts even more.
Grief is awful. It’s ok to feel awful.
Our culture tells you you get a week but you’re still going to be hurting for a long time. It will hit you randomly and intensely and it will make no sense and the best thing to do?
Thank God or the universe that you had someone so special because your brother was a gift. I’m so so sorry for your loss.
Someday, someone you barely know will be wretched and hurting because they’ll be grieving a brother.. and then you’ll be able to write words of comfort and cry your eyes out while doing so.. and it still won’t make the hole any smaller...but you’ll realize that it’s more bearable because you’ll have gotten bigger.
May you cry clean. Don’t beat yourself up over the floor.
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