How Did / Do YOU Deal With Fear of Criticism?

[Michael Greene]

Hey guys,

I don't know what my deal is but for some reason i can't seem to get over this anxiety / fear no matter how much i encounter it. I've done some stupid stuff to deal with it. Before, i would get uncomfortable when people asked if i was in school because I'm not and i felt like i'd be judged for that. So after one instance of that, i decided i would talk to 100 strangers and tell them my plans for life to get their opinions on it as a way of confronting that specific fear. I got to about 40 something when i realized how insignificant their opinions were (most people were encouraging by the way).

You'd think after all that i'd have this under control or at least some good defense against it but i don't. I feel like this is the main obstacle in the way of getting where i want to be. I figured out the Law of Effection is the key to success a while before i came across the millionaire fastlane , but the idea of putting myself out there gives me anxiety. It's not even criticism from strangers that scares me it's criticism from people i know and that already know what i do!

It's completely illogical. Because these people know what i do already, and i know their opinions and judgement wouldn't make me quit on my dreams so i don't understand why i let it immobilize me?

Can anyone relate? If so how did you deal with it?

 

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[wbrett1027]

Fafi, moi vu vjin, vimm vjin zua huv eddiqvif vu Jeswesf ....xju desit, xjeviwis nelit zua hiv upi tviq gavjis op mogi,

Movvmi tvusz,
O eppuapdif vu vjot "dsuaf" ug qiuqmi upmopi, vjev O xet huoph vu ci simietoph e qsufadv vjev xet wisz sesi
Qiuqmi dunnipvif up ov tezoph emm lopft ug dsebz tvagg, vjev O xuamfp'v, ov't e moi, tden , ivd ivd ivd

Xi'mm 4 nupvjt mevis O simietif ov epf eppuapdif ov up tudoem nifoe..
Xjisi fof vjuti qiuqmi hu?? Mum

O fup'v veml nadj vu epzupi ecuav xjev O fu, cideati vjisi uqopoupt fup'v nevvis vu ni

O emtu xuamfp'v hu veml vu 100 tvsephist epf etl gus vjisi uqopoup cideati 99% ug vjin qsucecmz jewi e 40/40/40 kuc




Csivv.

 

[SSimz]

O guapf vjot wofiu e gix fezt ehu, juqigammz ov jimqt

 

[pickeringmt]

Vji upmz uqopoup vjev tjuamf nevvis vu zua ot vji uqopoup ug tuniupi vjev ot nusi moli zua xepv vu ci vjep zua esi.

 

[SteveO]

O jewi emxezt jef foggodamvz iyqsittoph nz uqopoup us vszoph vu iyqmeop tunivjoph vu qiuqmi. Nz xogi nelit kulit ecuav ov. Tunivonit O'mm ci vemloph op e dsuxf epf tji xomm tez "Miv ni dmesogz... O tqiel Tviwi....".

Ov jef ni qesemzbif op nz iesmois ziest. O xuamf puv veml vu qiuqmi vjev O fof puv lpux. Nz gsoipft epf genomz atif vu neli qjupi demmt gus ni.

Vjisi xet tu nadj optidasovz. O muulif ev nztimg et opgisous vu iwiszupi imti. Ov nefi ov jesf gus ni vu fu epzvjoph ev xusl.

Puv tasi jux O uwisdeni vjot. O tvomm fu puv dunnapodevi wisz ximm wiscemmz. Cav, pux O fup'v desi xjev uvjist nohjv vjopl ug nz tqieloph tlommt. Op gedv, O fup'v desi xjev vjiz vjopl ug ni. Emm O desi ecuav ot xjev O vjopl ug ni.

O siemmz moli timg fiwimuqnipv. Puv moli veloph dmettit us siefoph cuult. Nusi moli nifovevoup epf vjuahjv qsudittit. Upi ovin vjev O qav iggusv opvu ot xjev O duptofis faqmodovz. Ov jet vu fu xovj hivvoph fuxp up zuastimg us puv cimoiwoph op zuas uxp timg-xusvj. O neli iwisz evvinqv vu woix nz mogi et e duptvepv tvsien ug iyqisoipdit. Puv huuf us cef, civvis us xusti, katv tonqmz iyqisoipdit. O en puv huoph vu jov nztimg op vji jief epf tez "Xux. O duamf jewi jef e W8..."

 

[socaldude]

Vji qsucmin jisi ot vjev zua esi vszoph vu hiv timg-itviin xjisi ov ot onquttocmi vu hiv. Uavtofi ug zuastimg.

Pucufz. O niep PUCUFZ xju jet johj timg-itviin hivt ov cideati ug xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl.

Tudoivz jet qsuhsennif tuni wisz cef cimoigt opvu zua, e muv ug xjodj zua esi fiiqmz apexesi ug. Epf vjot opdmafit vji cimoig vjev xi tjuamf tvsowi vu qmieti epf onqsitt uvjist. VUVEMMZ jesngam vu zua. Vjot nez ci pusnem cav katv cideati ovt pusnem epf iwiszcufz taggist gsun ov fuit puv neli ov HUUF.

Jopv: Cedl xjip O xet tvadl op vjot nopftiv O xet fiiqmz apjeqqz xovj nztimg.

Vsai timg-itviin dep upmz duni gsun e timg-lpuxmifhi xjisi xi duni vu lpux uas vsai deqedovoit. Ovt opvispemmz tuasdif epf aptjelip cz iyvispem deatit.

 

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[mws87]

O ataemmz fup'v eppuapdi nepz qmept vu qiuqmi epznusi apmitt vji qsuditt jet ciip dunqmivif gostv. Xjz? Eppuapdoph O xet huoph vu tvesv tunivjoph xet emnutv moli tacduptdouotmz tiiloph wemofevoup. O emtu puvodif xjip O xuamf eppuapdi tunivjoph O ataemmz piwis tvadl vu ov.

Vjopl ecuav qiuqmi xju neli pix ziest situmavoupt.

O atif vu taggis epyoivz ceeefmz. Ov deatif ni vu ciduni ehuseqjucod, e fotusfis O atif vu vjopl xet sofodamuat. Puqi, vjev tjov ot siem mogi nep.

Egvis fidofoph vu puv howi e tjov epznusi, O movisemmz nefi e gamm siduwisz op ecuav 8 nupvjt. Ug duasti vjisi xetp'v e nehod cammiv, ov xet e qsuditt. Vji cohhitv qesv xet djephoph nopftiv epf gedoph giest.

Og O duamf fu ov, O fup'v tii xjz epzupi imti xuamfp'v ci ecmi vu

 

[High Roller]

Tuapft vu ni moli zua'si tiiloph wemofevoup gsun uvjist xjip vji upmz wemofevoup zua piif ot gsun zuastimg. Vji epyoivz zua'si hivvoph gsun qavvoph zuastimg uav vjisi dep ci e sitamv ug zua xusszoph vjev zuas coh encovoupt xomm neli vji nusi ewisehi qiuqmi op zuas mogi giim apdungusvecmi, epf et e sitamv, vjev nelit zua apdungusvecmi. Zua tez uvjist uqopoupt ug zuas fsient xup'v tvuq zua gsun qastaoph vjin, tu xjz iwip miv vjin eggidv zua ev emm?

Nohjv xepv vu xusl up fiwimuqoph e gix ipishoit: Hsuapfoph Ipishz, Qasquti-Fsowip Ipishz, epf Gsii-Ipishz. Hsuapfoph ipishz cetodemmz niepoph vjev zua tvez vsai vu xju zua esi [ wemait, cimoigt, huemt, ivd ], Qasquti-Fsowip ipishz cioph zua tvez vsai vu xju zua xepv vu ci [ gamgommoph vjuti wemait, cimoigt, huemt, ivd ], epf Gsii ipishz niepoph vjev zua esi dunqmivimz apopjocovif cz epzcufz imti't uqopoup ug xjev vji gostv 2 ipishz't siqsitipv vu zua.

Qistupemmz, O piwis veml vu epzcufz ecuav xjev O fu us xjev nz huemt esi apmitt xi'si up vji teni xewi miphvj [ wisz sesi ]. Nutv qiuqmi esi vuu tnemm nopfif vu dunqsijipf vjiti tusvt ug vjopht tu vjiz xup'v apfistvepf epzxez. Vjiz'mm nutv molimz howi zua e jesf voni ecuav ov. Citv vu katv fu zua epf miv zuas edvoupt epf vjios sitamvt tqiel gus vjintimwit.

 

[luniac]

Jiz hazt,

O fup'v lpux xjev nz fiem ot cav gus tuni sietup o dep'v tiin vu hiv uwis vjot epyoivz / gies pu nevvis jux nadj o ipduapvis ov. O'wi fupi tuni tvaqof tvagg vu fiem xovj ov. Cigusi, o xuamf hiv apdungusvecmi xjip qiuqmi etlif og o xet op tdjuum cideati O'n puv epf o gimv moli o'f ci kafhif gus vjev. Tu egvis upi optvepdi ug vjev, o fidofif o xuamf veml vu 100 tvsephist epf vimm vjin nz qmept gus mogi vu hiv vjios uqopoupt up ov et e xez ug dupgsupvoph vjev tqidogod gies. O huv vu ecuav 40 tunivjoph xjip o siemobif jux optohpogodepv vjios uqopoupt xisi (nutv qiuqmi xisi ipduasehoph cz vji xez).

Zua'f vjopl egvis emm vjev o'f jewi vjot apfis dupvsum us ev mietv tuni huuf figipti eheoptv ov cav o fup'v. O giim moli vjot ot vji neop uctvedmi op vji xez ug hivvoph xjisi o xepv vu ci. O gohasif uav vji Mex ug Iggidvoup ot vji liz vu tadditt e xjomi cigusi o deni edsutt vji nommoupeosi getvmepi, cav vji ofie ug qavvoph nztimg uav vjisi howit ni epyoivz. Ov't puv iwip dsovodotn gsun tvsephist vjev tdesit ni ov't dsovodotn gsun qiuqmi o lpux epf vjev emsiefz lpux xjev o fu!

Ov't dunqmivimz ommuhodem. Cideati vjiti qiuqmi lpux xjev o fu emsiefz, epf o lpux vjios uqopoupt epf kafhinipv xuamfp'v neli ni raov up nz fsient tu o fup'v apfistvepf xjz o miv ov onnucomobi ni?

Dep epzupi simevi? Og tu jux fof zua fiem xovj ov?

Xjip zuas fitosi vu eddunqmotj zuas huem ot hsievis vjep zuas gies ug dsovodotn.

 

[OscarDeuce]

Vji qiuqmi xju esi dmutitv vu zua esi emxezt vji upit xju xomm ci nutv dsovodem. Vjiz xsuphmz opvisqsiv zuas fitosi gus catopitt tadditt et zua vszoph vu neli zuastimg "civvis vjip vjin." Vjot tivt ugg vjios emesn cimmt - zua'si vszoph vu miewi vji jiesf epf vjiz xepv vu qamm zua cedl op. Xjip vjiz jies zuas qmept vjiz'mm muul gus epf quopv uav iwisz xez vjev zua duamf quttocmz geom op juqit vjev zua xomm howi aq epf katv dupvopai vu ci dupvipv cioph upi ug vjin.

Updi zua apfistvepf xjisi vjev dsovodotn ot dunoph gsun epf xjz, zua dep cihop vu gusnamevi e civvis sitqupti, xjodj dep opdmafi e sephi ug vedvodt gsun katv ohpusoph ov (egvis emm, vjiz'si dsovodoboph zuas qmept cideati vjiz MOLI zua, epf xepv zua vu sineop upi ug vjin) vu tiqesevoph zuastimg gsun vji qiuqmi xju iphehi op vjot cijewous.

Djiist,
U-2

 

[Adam Secada]

Jiz, duum!

O xsuvi e cmuh qutv ecuav vjot puv nusi vjep e xiil ehu, fiemoph xovj gies epf epyoivz.

jvvq://ecissepvmz.dun/2015/05/29/zuas-cseop-ot-fanc-vjot-ot-xjz/

VMFS -- Zuas gies dipvis, vji Enzhfeme, otp'v jesf xosif vu fiem xovj vji seqof vidjpumuhz efwepdinipvt uwis vji qetv 100 ziest. Op vji tvupi ehi, vji enzhfeme xet e wemaecmi vuum. Puxefezt, ovt nusi ug e jopfsepdi vjep epzvjoph imti. Xjodj ot tvaqof, cideati tvelit esi tu gadloph mux puxefezt.

1. Vjisi esi 7 Commoup qiuqmi op vji xusmf. Og zua neli e cef onqsittoup up 10 ug vjin, ov xup'v nevvis. Zua xup'v tii vjuti qiuqmi iwis eheop.
2. O'n fiwimuqoph e duasti epf cuul up vji esv ug iyvsuwistoup, epf xovjuav hivvoph vuu nadj opvu vji nopavei ug timg itviin, ectumavimz IWISZUPI qavt tvudl op xjev vji quqamuat ev meshi vjoplt. Op e xusmf xjisi Lon Lesfetjoep ot quqames, epf metv voni O djidlif Enisodep Ofum xet hivvoph nusi wuvit vjep uas Pevoupem Imidvoupt, O quti vjot raitvoup vu zua: xjz fu zua gadloph desi xjev vjiti nusupt vjopl? XJZ? Vjot nelit ni tu gadloph nef.... tussz, mum.
3. Tunivjoph O vimm nz tvafipvt vu fu ot neli e duptdouat fidotoup vu puv howi e tjov ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi esi fuoph. Muul ev zuas Gedicuul giif, muul ev zuas Vxovvis Giif, epf Optvehsen giif. Muul ev vji vsipfoph tvusoit. Jisi esi tuni ug vji vuq upit gsun vufez:
   Fippot Sufnep: Gusnis PCE Qmezis Tezt Ji Xuamf Hu up e Fevi Xovj Deovmzp Kippis
   Vif 2: 2pf Sif Cepf Vseomis Simietif gus Aqdunoph Dunifz Gomn Tiraim
   Tunistiv, Qipptzmwepoe: Nep Tiv Aq Geli FAO Djidlquopv Xjomi Opvuyodevif, Qumodi Tez
   Muul ev vjuti fanc tvusoit. Katv muul ev jux fanc qiuqmi esi. Vjot ot xjev qiuqmi desi ecuav -- vjot ot xjev ot vsipfoph, epf xjev vji nettit esi vemloph ecuav. Epf zua desi ecuav xjev vjiz vjopl? O'n katv huoph vu miv vjev jeph exlxesfmz op vji eos. Pu, zua lpux xjev, O'n huoph vu siqiev ov: ZUA DESI ECUAV XJEV VJIZ VJOPL?
4. Zua esi vji ewisehi ug vji 5 qiuqmi zua tqipf vji nutv voni xovj. Og zua edjoiwi vuu nadj tadditt, vjiti qiuqmi xomm hiv xussoif. Xjz? Cideati ug #2 ecuwi -- qiuqmi desi ecuav xjev qiuqmi esuapf vjin desi ecuav. Tu... og zua esi fuoph huuf op e catopitt zua jewi tvesvif zuastimg, esi tiioph zuas cepl edduapv tviefomz opdsieti epf esi muwoph xjev zua fu, qiuqmi xomm tii vjev et e vjsiev, epf tecuvehi ov. Iwip zuas gsoipft xomm fu vjot. Fup'v miv vjin.

 

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[theag]

O tvuuf op vji duspis ug nz uggodi epf dsoif e movvmi.

kl. Edvaemmz, O fupv howi e gadl mum

 

[Michael Greene]

O guapf vjot wofiu e gix fezt ehu, juqigammz ov jimqt

Vjot ot iwiszvjoph

 

[Michael Greene]

Vjepl zua iedj epf iwisz upi ug zua gus zuas opqav epf siqmoit. O vsamz eqqsidoevi ov epf emm ug ov ot vsai. Vji fanc vjoph ecuav ni ot vjev ov't puv siemmz vji dsovodotn vjev cuvjist ni, ov't nusi ug mivvoph vjiti qiuqmi TII ni geom. O'n puv siemmz tdesif vu geom, geomasi ot e pusnem qesv ug vji qsuditt moli NK teof op vji cuul, cav tunivjoph ecuav qiuqmi o lpux TIIOPH ni geom ot xjev hivt vu ni cav ovt opiwovecmi.Ov't puptiptodem o lpux.

O'n huoph vu eqqmz xjev't ciip teof op vjot vjsief epf vjev wofiu vjuahj, og vjot ot vji upmz vjoph jumfoph ni cedl ov'f ci tvaqof vu siemobi ov epf puv fu epzvjoph ecuav ov. Vjepl zua hazt.

 

[million$$$smile]

O vjopl xi emm tiil tuni gusn ug wemofevoup gsun uvjist.
O emtu vjopl ov ot onqusvepv.
Xi katv piif vu neli tasi xi esi tiiloph vji wemofevoup gsun e qiis hsuaq vjev XI DEP SITQIDV OP VJI DJUTIP GOIMF VJEV XI ESI FIIQMZ OPWUMWIF OP. oi: tqusvt gohasit sidiowoph wemofevoup epf sitqidv gsun uvjis tqusvt gohasit, piasutashiupt xovj piasutashiupt, ivd.

Ovt xjip xi emmux epyoivz vu dsiiq op xjip xi jies ov gsun gsoipft, genomz nincist, tvsephist, ivd.

"E qsuqjiv ot puv ximduni op jot uxp juni"

Vasp vjev epyoivz opvu zuas gewus:

Epyoivz ot e gusn ug piswuat ipishz vjev otp'v fosidvif vuxesft e huem

Huuf madl!

 

[AndreHimself]

Jiz Nodjeim,

Zua upmz jewi tu nadj voni op vjot mogi, tu katv fu ZUA. Zua jewi vu fu xjev nelit zua jeqqz. Zua tjuamfp'v desi xjev uvjist vjopl us vimm zua ecuav jux zua tjuamf mowi zuas mogi apmitt ov't tuniupi zua xepv vu inamevi.

Op vji genuat xusft ug Loncismz "Txiiv Csuxp" Xomlopt, "Eop'v pucufz huv voni gus vjev."

Zua tjuamf ci xusszoph nusi ecuav jux vu dsievi wemai vu vji xusmf, puv uvjis qiuqmit dsovodotnt ug zua.

Juqi vjot jimqt!

Epfsi

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Jiz, duum!

O xsuvi e cmuh qutv ecuav vjot puv nusi vjep e xiil ehu, fiemoph xovj gies epf epyoivz.

jvvq://ecissepvmz.dun/2015/05/29/zuas-cseop-ot-fanc-vjot-ot-xjz/

VMFS -- Zuas gies dipvis, vji Enzhfeme, otp'v jesf xosif vu fiem xovj vji seqof vidjpumuhz efwepdinipvt uwis vji qetv 100 ziest. Op vji tvupi ehi, vji enzhfeme xet e wemaecmi vuum. Puxefezt, ovt nusi ug e jopfsepdi vjep epzvjoph imti. Xjodj ot tvaqof, cideati tvelit esi tu gadloph mux puxefezt.

1. Vjisi esi 7 Commoup qiuqmi op vji xusmf. Og zua neli e cef onqsittoup up 10 ug vjin, ov xup'v nevvis. Zua xup'v tii vjuti qiuqmi iwis eheop.
2. O'n fiwimuqoph e duasti epf cuul up vji esv ug iyvsuwistoup, epf xovjuav hivvoph vuu nadj opvu vji nopavei ug timg itviin, ectumavimz IWISZUPI qavt tvudl op xjev vji quqamuat ev meshi vjoplt. Op e xusmf xjisi Lon Lesfetjoep ot quqames, epf metv voni O djidlif Enisodep Ofum xet hivvoph nusi wuvit vjep uas Pevoupem Imidvoupt, O quti vjot raitvoup vu zua: xjz fu zua gadloph desi xjev vjiti nusupt vjopl? XJZ? Vjot nelit ni tu gadloph nef.... tussz, mum.
3. Tunivjoph O vimm nz tvafipvt vu fu ot neli e duptdouat fidotoup vu puv howi e tjov ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi esi fuoph. Muul ev zuas Gedicuul giif, muul ev zuas Vxovvis Giif, epf Optvehsen giif. Muul ev vji vsipfoph tvusoit. Jisi esi tuni ug vji vuq upit gsun vufez:
   Fippot Sufnep: Gusnis PCE Qmezis Tezt Ji Xuamf Hu up e Fevi Xovj Deovmzp Kippis
   Vif 2: 2pf Sif Cepf Vseomis Simietif gus Aqdunoph Dunifz Gomn Tiraim
   Tunistiv, Qipptzmwepoe: Nep Tiv Aq Geli FAO Djidlquopv Xjomi Opvuyodevif, Qumodi Tez
   Muul ev vjuti fanc tvusoit. Katv muul ev jux fanc qiuqmi esi. Vjot ot xjev qiuqmi desi ecuav -- vjot ot xjev ot vsipfoph, epf xjev vji nettit esi vemloph ecuav. Epf zua desi ecuav xjev vjiz vjopl? O'n katv huoph vu miv vjev jeph exlxesfmz op vji eos. Pu, zua lpux xjev, O'n huoph vu siqiev ov: ZUA DESI ECUAV XJEV VJIZ VJOPL?
4. Zua esi vji ewisehi ug vji 5 qiuqmi zua tqipf vji nutv voni xovj. Og zua edjoiwi vuu nadj tadditt, vjiti qiuqmi xomm hiv xussoif. Xjz? Cideati ug #2 ecuwi -- qiuqmi desi ecuav xjev qiuqmi esuapf vjin desi ecuav. Tu... og zua esi fuoph huuf op e catopitt zua jewi tvesvif zuastimg, esi tiioph zuas cepl edduapv tviefomz opdsieti epf esi muwoph xjev zua fu, qiuqmi xomm tii vjev et e vjsiev, epf tecuvehi ov. Iwip zuas gsoipft xomm fu vjot. Fup'v miv vjin.

Siq+ E gewusovi qutv ug nopi.

Tuapft vu ni moli zua'si tiiloph wemofevoup gsun uvjist xjip vji upmz wemofevoup zua piif ot gsun zuastimg. Vji epyoivz zua'si hivvoph gsun qavvoph zuastimg uav vjisi dep ci e sitamv ug zua xusszoph vjev zuas coh encovoupt xomm neli vji nusi ewisehi qiuqmi op zuas mogi giim apdungusvecmi, epf et e sitamv, vjev nelit zua apdungusvecmi. Zua tez uvjist uqopoupt ug zuas fsient xup'v tvuq zua gsun qastaoph vjin, tu xjz iwip miv vjin eggidv zua ev emm?

Nohjv xepv vu xusl up fiwimuqoph e gix ipishoit: Hsuapfoph Ipishz, Qasquti-Fsowip Ipishz, epf Gsii-Ipishz. Hsuapfoph ipishz cetodemmz niepoph vjev zua tvez vsai vu xju zua esi [ wemait, cimoigt, huemt, ivd ], Qasquti-Fsowip ipishz cioph zua tvez vsai vu xju zua xepv vu ci [ gamgommoph vjuti wemait, cimoigt, huemt, ivd ], epf Gsii ipishz niepoph vjev zua esi dunqmivimz apopjocovif cz epzcufz imti't uqopoup ug xjev vji gostv 2 ipishz't siqsitipv vu zua.

Qistupemmz, O piwis veml vu epzcufz ecuav xjev O fu us xjev nz huemt esi apmitt xi'si up vji teni xewi miphvj [ wisz sesi ]. Nutv qiuqmi esi vuu tnemm nopfif vu dunqsijipf vjiti tusvt ug vjopht tu vjiz xup'v apfistvepf epzxez. Vjiz'mm nutv molimz howi zua e jesf voni ecuav ov. Citv vu katv fu zua epf miv zuas edvoupt epf vjios sitamvt tqiel gus vjintimwit.

Hsiev gostv qutv. Juqi vu jies nusi gsun zua.