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Some one pinged me recently and here is my reply, I thought I would share it since I had a blast writing it.
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Background a 17 yr old asked if I could mentor him....
here is my response.
so, your in high school. great. you want some real quick advice? dont got to collage. that's just my experienced opinion. Go start a business instead. You will learn more, faster.
your young yet, so to be honest, I usually wait until someone is in their mid 20's to begin mentoring them.
why?
because at your age, you dont even know what you dont know. and I have tried mentoring younger guys, but really, they are so busy trying to tell me how the world works, they they dont seem to have time to listen to what I have done, and what I know.
So, I let them talk, and several years later they apologize and ask again.
what you need at your age is a coach. someone who can kick your a$$ a little bit, and can help you focus. not really a mentor.
a coach can say, you want to do biz? go do this and this and this. let me know how it goes.
mentoring is a whole nother level.
the people I mentor are people who
1. are ready for a mentor,
2. have a burning desire to succeed, (and will probably succeed even with out my help)
3. are in the industry or sector that I am already in.
4. have a symbiotic relationship, with what ever I am doing at the time, adding value to me and my time. (example, if im buying apartments, then the people I mentor are usually in real estate, if im selling shit online, then they are online focused, if i am investing in companies then they have the resources to do so as well, or know others who can)
now, good on you for contacting me. most people are just to chicken shit to reach out to someone they want to meet with. dont know why. but there ya have it.
so what I'm going to do for you is give you some advice. then, you can come back to me and let me know what advice you took, and more importantly what advice you didn't take, and why.
if there is a synergy, well, maybe we can chat from time to time. but to be honest, I get alot of people pinging me asking for the short cut.
so here is the short cuts. funny part is, few people actually believe it, or use it.
short cut.
Skip collage. go start a business. any business. fail at it. start another.
if you want to learn, (and you need to on a damm near daily basis) look up classes, or weekend workshops for what ever skill or info you are looking for
learn to be discerning about people who you learn from. find them. track them down, ask high quality questions and then act on it.
DO IT. what ever needs to be done, dont think about it, dont worry forever about it. just do it. regardless what others say. failure is the best lesson, and 1 good failure is worth 10,000 opinions from other people. F*ck em. they are not you, so get over what ever they say. they just dont know.
Take action. every day, towards your goals. get out of the chair get off the couch. get it done.
if you have an xbox, a ps3 or if you do pc games. Kill it for the next few years. seriously give that shit away. and read instead.
Discover your why. why the hell do you want to work that hard to make money? its 2-10x harder than a job. why work so hard? if you dont have a good why. your F*cked. find it. and use it as leverage on yourself to get shit done.
if you need someone to kick your a$$ to get shit done. pay them.
Give 10 checks for 100 bucks each to someone, and then promise to get it done, or they get to cash the check. believe me, that has worked for years.
Do it. get shit done.
dont be a pussy. stop being afraid. quit dicking around. what the hell are you afraid of? GO. DO IT.
Do things that scare the shit out of yourself. do massive things. make big plans and then push past them.
you will learn on the way. you dont need to know everything right now. you just need to find someone who needs something, and go get it for them.
you are seriously not too good to make coffee, fetch things, or do shit work. that's part of the price you pay of not having money get over yourself.
Help people for free. help those that are in a position to pay you well, and do it for free. it will come back to you in ways you never would have imagined. seriously.
leap, and the net will appear. sometimes the net will look alot like the ground. that's ok, its there to break your fall.
you will fail, you will suck, and it will take a while for that shit to stop happening on a regular basis. TRUST THAT THIS IS TRUE and life will be easier for you. (the upside is, at some point you stop sucking, and start really shining! )
ignore your friends. they will go out and get jobs, get nicer cars. go out partying, and shit like that. the parties they do now, will be epic for them later, when all they have is the memory of the parties, and the mortgages they pay. while you will be able to party for the rest of your life, with no mortgage, if you just learn to not suck
they say it takes 10,000 hrs to really master something. focus on that, and F*cking master something. and no, its not call of duty or the latest assassins creed.
learn to network with the best and brightest people in the world, and you will have all the resources you ever need only a phone call away.
Hire people smarter than you, and fire yourself as fast as possible
make your "list" of must have skills then focus on getting them. take a class, take a weekend seminar, watch youtube vids on the topic, look up open source education, and learn stuff. Learn how to learn. you will never be behind if you do that.
ok, good luck, and have at it. when you get out of school ping me again, see where your at, and we may chat then.
Z
Enjoy
Background a 17 yr old asked if I could mentor him....
here is my response.
so, your in high school. great. you want some real quick advice? dont got to collage. that's just my experienced opinion. Go start a business instead. You will learn more, faster.
your young yet, so to be honest, I usually wait until someone is in their mid 20's to begin mentoring them.
why?
because at your age, you dont even know what you dont know. and I have tried mentoring younger guys, but really, they are so busy trying to tell me how the world works, they they dont seem to have time to listen to what I have done, and what I know.
So, I let them talk, and several years later they apologize and ask again.
what you need at your age is a coach. someone who can kick your a$$ a little bit, and can help you focus. not really a mentor.
a coach can say, you want to do biz? go do this and this and this. let me know how it goes.
mentoring is a whole nother level.
the people I mentor are people who
1. are ready for a mentor,
2. have a burning desire to succeed, (and will probably succeed even with out my help)
3. are in the industry or sector that I am already in.
4. have a symbiotic relationship, with what ever I am doing at the time, adding value to me and my time. (example, if im buying apartments, then the people I mentor are usually in real estate, if im selling shit online, then they are online focused, if i am investing in companies then they have the resources to do so as well, or know others who can)
now, good on you for contacting me. most people are just to chicken shit to reach out to someone they want to meet with. dont know why. but there ya have it.
so what I'm going to do for you is give you some advice. then, you can come back to me and let me know what advice you took, and more importantly what advice you didn't take, and why.
if there is a synergy, well, maybe we can chat from time to time. but to be honest, I get alot of people pinging me asking for the short cut.
so here is the short cuts. funny part is, few people actually believe it, or use it.
short cut.
Skip collage. go start a business. any business. fail at it. start another.
if you want to learn, (and you need to on a damm near daily basis) look up classes, or weekend workshops for what ever skill or info you are looking for
learn to be discerning about people who you learn from. find them. track them down, ask high quality questions and then act on it.
DO IT. what ever needs to be done, dont think about it, dont worry forever about it. just do it. regardless what others say. failure is the best lesson, and 1 good failure is worth 10,000 opinions from other people. F*ck em. they are not you, so get over what ever they say. they just dont know.
Take action. every day, towards your goals. get out of the chair get off the couch. get it done.
if you have an xbox, a ps3 or if you do pc games. Kill it for the next few years. seriously give that shit away. and read instead.
Discover your why. why the hell do you want to work that hard to make money? its 2-10x harder than a job. why work so hard? if you dont have a good why. your F*cked. find it. and use it as leverage on yourself to get shit done.
if you need someone to kick your a$$ to get shit done. pay them.
Give 10 checks for 100 bucks each to someone, and then promise to get it done, or they get to cash the check. believe me, that has worked for years.
Do it. get shit done.
dont be a pussy. stop being afraid. quit dicking around. what the hell are you afraid of? GO. DO IT.
Do things that scare the shit out of yourself. do massive things. make big plans and then push past them.
you will learn on the way. you dont need to know everything right now. you just need to find someone who needs something, and go get it for them.
you are seriously not too good to make coffee, fetch things, or do shit work. that's part of the price you pay of not having money get over yourself.
Help people for free. help those that are in a position to pay you well, and do it for free. it will come back to you in ways you never would have imagined. seriously.
leap, and the net will appear. sometimes the net will look alot like the ground. that's ok, its there to break your fall.
you will fail, you will suck, and it will take a while for that shit to stop happening on a regular basis. TRUST THAT THIS IS TRUE and life will be easier for you. (the upside is, at some point you stop sucking, and start really shining! )
ignore your friends. they will go out and get jobs, get nicer cars. go out partying, and shit like that. the parties they do now, will be epic for them later, when all they have is the memory of the parties, and the mortgages they pay. while you will be able to party for the rest of your life, with no mortgage, if you just learn to not suck
they say it takes 10,000 hrs to really master something. focus on that, and F*cking master something. and no, its not call of duty or the latest assassins creed.
learn to network with the best and brightest people in the world, and you will have all the resources you ever need only a phone call away.
Hire people smarter than you, and fire yourself as fast as possible
make your "list" of must have skills then focus on getting them. take a class, take a weekend seminar, watch youtube vids on the topic, look up open source education, and learn stuff. Learn how to learn. you will never be behind if you do that.
ok, good luck, and have at it. when you get out of school ping me again, see where your at, and we may chat then.
Z
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