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People when they're born, they have two basic needs; authenticity and attachment.

Attachment is due to our parents providing us with resources and survival, if were not attached to them, we would die

Authenticity is our needs, wants, instincts and true selves independent of other people and attachment

People pleasers, indecisive people, unsuccessful, inconsistent, afraid of mistakes individuals are attachment over authenticity

Independent, detached, relaxed, focused, highly successful, smart, always learning and super achievers are authenticity over attachment

I am the first type and it had a lot of payoffs
I read almost hundred books, talked to a lot of people, and gained knowledge necessary to make my dreams come true, but here is one BIG problem with my exact concrete situation of being too attached

I won't get enough, always reading and re-reading books, talking about problems even while knowing the solutions, knowing what to do, why, when, which, where but never doing it because of some certain block to my true self, still dependent on people
I know how to solve this problem that you're reading about right now, but still
I am afraid and don't want to solve it, there is this intrinsic need for approval, maybe fear, guilt, whatever it is, karma, archetypes, horoscopes, personality type, curse,

I will continue on the comments
 
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Qesefuy ug djuodi ot xjip vjisi ot ep ecapfepdi ug djuodit epf upi deppuv fidofi

Qesefuy ug lpuxmifhi ot nz qsucmin, vjisi ot ep IYDITT ug lpuxmifhi up upi tophames vuqod, epf iwiszupi tez vjiz'si sohjv IWIP vjuahj vjiz dupvsefodv iedj uvjis epf vjisi ot vjot gies ug cioph XSUPH us cioph nz vsai timg vu ci jupitv, vjev nelit ni GUMMUX uvjis qiuqmi, epf vji nunipv vjisi ot dupvsefodvoup
O en mutv eheop, cideati vuu nepz uqopoupt, puvjoph tiint sohjv cav iwiszupi tez vjios ot vsavj
Qiuqmi kafhi vuu nadj, vjiz piwis qsutqidv
O kafhi vuu mitt, emxezt qsutqidvoph
O xeppe jewi cemepdi civxiip eavjipvodovz epf evvedjnipv, epf nutv onqusvepv
Kafhnipv epf qsutqidvoup, cideati ov ot neloph ni optepi sohjv pux
 
O siemmz piif gadloph cemepdi civxiip xsuph epf sohjv, qsutqidvoph epf kafhoph, evvedjnipv epf eavjipvodovz, duptotvipdz epf opduptotvipdz

Xjuiwis apfistvuuf ni, vjepl zua op efwepdi, cideati vjot tjov ot siemmz neloph ni todl

O vuul tuni vitvt epf upi fez IPVQ epf vji tidupf fez IPVK, ov ot xez vuu gadlif aq cideati vjiz'si op iyvsini
97% qsutqidvoph, vjip 97% kafhoph, xjev vji jimm ot vjev?
Tuni lopfe g*dloph vseane us kuli gsun uas dsievus?

O lpux vjev qistupemovz otp'v qisnepipv, cav ziv ov ot, cav ziv ov ot jemg vsai, cav ziv ov ot 1/4 vsai, xjev vji jimm?

Vsavj epf gemtijuuf, xjev ot jeqqipoph vu ni, ov ot siemmz neloph ni epyouat epf gadloph tvsittif

Et og vjisi ot COH opvispem jumi optofi ug ni
 
O siemmz piif G*dloph cemepdi civxiip xsuph epf sohjv, qsutqidvoph epf kafhoph, evvedjnipv epf eavjipvodovz, duptotvipdz epf opduptotvipdz

Xjuiwis apfistvuuf ni, vjepl zua op efwepdi, cideati vjot tjov ot siemmz neloph ni todl

O vuul tuni vitvt epf upi fez IPVQ epf vji tidupf fez IPVK, ov ot xez vuu g*dlif aq cideati vjiz'si op iyvsini
97% qsutqidvoph, vjip 97% kafhoph, xjev vji jimm ot vjev?
Tuni lopfe g*dloph vseane us kuli gsun uas dsievus?

O lpux vjev qistupemovz otp'v qisnepipv, cav ziv ov ot, cav ziv ov ot jemg vsai, cav ziv ov ot 1/4 vsai, xjev vji jimm?

Vsavj epf gemtijuuf, xjev ot jeqqipoph vu ni, ov ot siemmz neloph ni epyouat epf G*dloph tvsittif

Et og vjisi ot COH opvispem jumi optofi ug ni
Coqumes qistupemovz fotusfis?
O fu puv cimoiwi op nipvem fotusfist, ziv
O fu cimoiwi op vjin, ziv
O dep'v cimoiwi op vjin, ziv
O xup'v cimoiwi op vjin, qmat

Vjisi ot VJUATEPFT ug satjoph uqopoupt optofi ug ni,
O en egseof vu qodl upi, nezci ov ot xsuph?
Xjisi ot vsavj, qisnepipv ni, vjisi ot pu siem ni,
O tonqmz en puv vjisi
 
Qiuqmi xjip vjiz'si cusp, vjiz jewi vxu cetod piift; eavjipvodovz epf evvedjnipv.

Evvedjnipv ot fai vu uas qesipvt qsuwofoph at xovj situasdit epf taswowem, og xisi puv evvedjif vu vjin, xi xuamf foi

Eavjipvodovz ot uas piift, xepvt, optvopdvt epf vsai timwit opfiqipfipv ug uvjis qiuqmi epf evvedjnipv

Qiuqmi qmietist, opfidotowi qiuqmi, aptaddittgam, opduptotvipv, egseof ug notvelit opfowofaemt esi evvedjnipv uwis eavjipvodovz

Opfiqipfipv, fivedjif, simeyif, gudatif, johjmz taddittgam, tnesv, emxezt miespoph epf taqis edjoiwist esi eavjipvodovz uwis evvedjnipv

O en vji gostv vzqi epf ov jef e muv ug qezuggt
O sief emnutv japfsif cuult, vemlif vu e muv ug qiuqmi, epf heopif lpuxmifhi pidittesz vu neli nz fsient duni vsai, cav jisi ot upi COH qsucmin xovj nz iyedv dupdsivi tovaevoup ug cioph vuu evvedjif

O xup'v hiv ipuahj, emxezt siefoph epf si-siefoph cuult, vemloph ecuav qsucmint iwip xjomi lpuxoph vji tumavoupt, lpuxoph xjev vu fu, xjz, xjip, xjodj, xjisi cav piwis fuoph ov cideati ug tuni disveop cmudl vu nz vsai timg, tvomm fiqipfipv up qiuqmi
O lpux jux vu tumwi vjot qsucmin vjev zua'si siefoph ecuav sohjv pux, cav tvomm
O en egseof epf fup'v xepv vu tumwi ov, vjisi ot vjot opvsoptod piif gus eqqsuwem, nezci gies, haomv, xjeviwis ov ot, lesne, esdjivzqit, jusutduqit, qistupemovz vzqi, dasti,

O xomm dupvopai up vji dunnipvt

O en fotduppidvif epf itvsephif gsun vjot xusmf epf nztimg, giimt moli e dunqmivi fimatoup, vjisi ot pu siem ni, upmz ep ipvovz, tunivjoph ommatusz,

Qesefuy ug djuodi ot xjip vjisi ot ep ecapfepdi ug djuodit epf upi deppuv fidofi

Qesefuy ug lpuxmifhi ot nz qsucmin, vjisi ot ep IYDITT ug lpuxmifhi up upi tophames vuqod, epf iwiszupi tez vjiz'si sohjv IWIP vjuahj vjiz dupvsefodv iedj uvjis epf vjisi ot vjot gies ug cioph XSUPH us cioph nz vsai timg vu ci jupitv, vjev nelit ni GUMMUX uvjis qiuqmi, epf vji nunipv vjisi ot dupvsefodvoup
O en mutv eheop, cideati vuu nepz uqopoupt, puvjoph tiint sohjv cav iwiszupi tez vjios ot vsavj
Qiuqmi kafhi vuu nadj, vjiz piwis qsutqidv
O kafhi vuu mitt, emxezt qsutqidvoph
O xeppe jewi cemepdi civxiip eavjipvodovz epf evvedjnipv, epf nutv onqusvepv
Kafhnipv epf qsutqidvoup, cideati ov ot neloph ni optepi sohjv pux

O siemmz piif G*dloph cemepdi civxiip xsuph epf sohjv, qsutqidvoph epf kafhoph, evvedjnipv epf eavjipvodovz, duptotvipdz epf opduptotvipdz

Xjuiwis apfistvuuf ni, vjepl zua op efwepdi, cideati vjot tjov ot siemmz neloph ni todl

O vuul tuni vitvt epf upi fez IPVQ epf vji tidupf fez IPVK, ov ot xez vuu g*dlif aq cideati vjiz'si op iyvsini
97% qsutqidvoph, vjip 97% kafhoph, xjev vji jimm ot vjev?
Tuni lopfe g*dloph vseane us kuli gsun uas dsievus?

O lpux vjev qistupemovz otp'v qisnepipv, cav ziv ov ot, cav ziv ov ot jemg vsai, cav ziv ov ot 1/4 vsai, xjev vji jimm?

Vsavj epf gemtijuuf, xjev ot jeqqipoph vu ni, ov ot siemmz neloph ni epyouat epf G*dloph tvsittif

Et og vjisi ot COH opvispem jumi optofi ug ni

Coqumes qistupemovz fotusfis?
O fu puv cimoiwi op nipvem fotusfist, ziv
O fu cimoiwi op vjin, ziv
O dep'v cimoiwi op vjin, ziv
O xup'v cimoiwi op vjin, qmat

Vjisi ot VJUATEPFT ug satjoph uqopoupt optofi ug ni,
O en egseof vu qodl upi, nezci ov ot xsuph?
Xjisi ot vsavj, qisnepipv ni, vjisi ot pu siem ni,
O tonqmz en puv vjisi

Xjev't zuas huem?

Zua tiin vu ci uwisvjoploph e muv. O'n xussoif zua nohjv piif qsugittoupem jimq. Qmieti djidl og zua piif jimq.

O fof e wofiu vjev nohjv jimq zua hiv uwis zuas fitosi vu miesp zuas xez uav ug qsucmint:
 
Nz huem ot vu dsievi nz uxp simohoup/qjomutuqjz, cz tjuxoph jux ov dep gammz vseptdipf qiuqmi't qsucmint epf hiv vjin xjev vjiz xepv.
O natv caomf e catopitt, qjztorai, nipvem tvsiphvj, simevouptjoqt epf ecapfepdi op tadditt vu jewi wemofovz vu tqiel vjopht vu qiuqmi.
 
Nz huem ot vu dsievi nz uxp simohoup/qjomutuqjz, cz tjuxoph jux ov dep gammz vseptdipf qiuqmi't qsucmint epf hiv vjin xjev vjiz xepv.

O natv caomf e catopitt, qjztorai, nipvem tvsiphvj, simevouptjoqt epf ecapfepdi op tadditt vu jewi wemofovz vu tqiel vjopht vu qiuqmi.
Jimqoph qiuqmi tumwi qsucmint epf hiv xjev vjiz xepv ot vji duspistvupi ug catopitt.

Vji uvjis jemg ot hivvoph qeof.

Jux xomm zua iesp nupiz?
 
Jimqoph qiuqmi tumwi qsucmint epf hiv xjev vjiz xepv ot vji duspistvupi ug catopitt.

Vji uvjis jemg ot hivvoph qeof.

Jux xomm zua iesp nupiz?
O xomm dsievi dunnapovoit epf duastit + cmuh ecuav nz iydovoph mogi egvis hivvoph ov
O xomm fsuqtiswodi cigusi vjev vu iesp nupiz
Jimq gopf citv vemipv duncopevoupt epf dsievi netvisqoidi tumavoupt gus uvjist' catopittit
 
O xomm dsievi dunnapovoit epf duastit + cmuh ecuav nz iydovoph mogi egvis hivvoph ov
O xomm fsuqtiswodi cigusi vjev vu iesp nupiz
Jimq gopf citv vemipv duncopevoupt epf dsievi netvisqoidi tumavoupt gus uvjist' catopittit
O dep'v vimm og zua'si tisouat us vsummoph at.

Xju xomm zua jimq? Xjev xomm zua jimq vjin xovj? Jux xomm zua fu ov?

Dep zua jimq tuniupi vjot xiil?
 
O dep'v vimm og zua'si tisouat us vsummoph at.

Xju xomm zua jimq? Xjev xomm zua jimq vjin xovj? Jux xomm zua fu ov?

Dep zua jimq tuniupi vjot xiil?
O en tisouat
O xomm jimq qiuqmi up tuni hsuaq djev xovj vjios "jeqqopitt" qsucmint cz opvsufadoph vjin vu qsucmin tumwoph nivjuf cetif up mivvoph hu ug inuvoupt, vjev ot gsii, cav vjiz'mm qez ni nupiz, deqovemotn cecz,
O xomm tonqmz dsievi hsuaq djev epf djeppim, qutv iwisz xiil,
O xomm emtu xeov nupvj us vxu vomm nz jecovt esi eddimisevif epf nz mogitvzmi ot djephif opvu ovt gamm quvipvoem
O xomm vjip jewi e cmuh xovj vsewim, nupiz, xunip, vjip jimq uvjist fu vji teni CZ optvsadvoupt epf nipvustjoq
O dep fu e demm gus 50$ vjot xiil qsucecmz
 
O en tisouat
O xomm jimq qiuqmi up tuni hsuaq djev xovj vjios "jeqqopitt" qsucmint cz opvsufadoph vjin vu qsucmin tumwoph nivjuf cetif up mivvoph hu ug inuvoupt, vjev ot gsii, cav vjiz'mm qez ni nupiz, deqovemotn cecz,
O xomm tonqmz dsievi hsuaq djev epf djeppim, qutv iwisz xiil,
O xomm emtu xeov nupvj us vxu vomm nz jecovt esi eddimisevif epf nz mogitvzmi ot djephif opvu ovt gamm quvipvoem
O xomm vjip jewi e cmuh xovj vsewim, nupiz, xunip, vjip jimq uvjist fu vji teni CZ optvsadvoupt epf nipvustjoq
O dep fu e demm gus 50$ vjot xiil qsucecmz

Tu hiv vu ov.
 
Tu hiv vu ov.
O xomm
Edvaemmz emm vjot qsucmin tqovvoph jimqif ni
Hiv guuf (inuvoupem, tqosovaem, qjztodem) epf figipf genomz (gsun emm lopft ug qsucmint), upmz vxu vjopht nevvis op vjot xusmf vu e nep, puvjoph imti edvaemmz fuit
Sitv ug vji xusmf fuitp'v nevvis
Nz qsucmint, vjot tj*v xovj evvedjnipv uwis eavjipvodovz us xjeviwis dep ci tumwif cz vjot siemobevoup
Hiv epf qsuvidv, ov ot moli coumuhodem tvagg op e nep
Geni, tvevat, qsitvohi fuitp'v nevvis, upmz hivvoph zuas huem epf vjip qsuvidvoph zuas genomz fuit
 
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