Most people talk about their beliefs as if they are things that they will to be so. As if beliefs were just a matter of choice, and one could instantly simply choose to believe differently.
Personally I disagree with this view.
I think that while you can choose your reasoning, you cannot choose the conclusions (your beliefs). The conclusions always flow logically from your process of reasoning.
Think about it — can you choose to believe it’s night while outside it’s actually day? I don’t think so. To say otherwise would be to imply that there is no relationship at all between reality and your beliefs. Can you choose to believe that you are dead? And what use would your beliefs have if they have nothing to do with reality?
And emotions… they are just how you experience your beliefs. If you want, beliefs are the cognitive component of the conclusions of your reasoning, while emotions are the felt component of the very same process.
For example — say cold calling makes you afraid. The fear you experience is the same as your belief that cold calling could potentially have a bad/negative result for you. Some of you will say “But I KNOW there is nothing to be afraid of while cold calling, but I still feel afraid” — and that’s a LIE! You don’t know. That lie is the result of thinking that you get to choose what you believe… you don’t! In this case, the fear you experience is the result of the fact that you actually do believe that cold calling is potentially dangerous for you. And no matter how much you want to get rid of that belief, you cannot simply will it out of existence. Changing your beliefs is simply not a matter of willpower.
This is why I always say that it’s much harder to change your mindset than to change your actions. You can will your actions, but you can’t will your beliefs. You can force yourself to cold call, but you can’t will yourself not to be afraid of it.
And paradoxically by changing your actions, you’ll often change your mindset a lot more easily… because your reasoning process changes as you gain more experience and your reality changes.
This isn’t to say that you can’t just change your reasoning… you could, it’s just that this is a lot more difficult than just changing your behavior.
So to wrap it up, if you think that you can will or choose your beliefs, you’ll get stuck, and you won’t even understand why you’re stuck anymore. To get unstuck, you have to shift your focus from your sucky beliefs, to actions that are aligned with your goals. That’s the fastest way to change your reasoning process, and hence change its logical conclusions (your beliefs).
Feel free to discuss the topic as you wish and even disagree with me if you have different thoughts.
Personally I disagree with this view.
I think that while you can choose your reasoning, you cannot choose the conclusions (your beliefs). The conclusions always flow logically from your process of reasoning.
Think about it — can you choose to believe it’s night while outside it’s actually day? I don’t think so. To say otherwise would be to imply that there is no relationship at all between reality and your beliefs. Can you choose to believe that you are dead? And what use would your beliefs have if they have nothing to do with reality?
And emotions… they are just how you experience your beliefs. If you want, beliefs are the cognitive component of the conclusions of your reasoning, while emotions are the felt component of the very same process.
For example — say cold calling makes you afraid. The fear you experience is the same as your belief that cold calling could potentially have a bad/negative result for you. Some of you will say “But I KNOW there is nothing to be afraid of while cold calling, but I still feel afraid” — and that’s a LIE! You don’t know. That lie is the result of thinking that you get to choose what you believe… you don’t! In this case, the fear you experience is the result of the fact that you actually do believe that cold calling is potentially dangerous for you. And no matter how much you want to get rid of that belief, you cannot simply will it out of existence. Changing your beliefs is simply not a matter of willpower.
This is why I always say that it’s much harder to change your mindset than to change your actions. You can will your actions, but you can’t will your beliefs. You can force yourself to cold call, but you can’t will yourself not to be afraid of it.
And paradoxically by changing your actions, you’ll often change your mindset a lot more easily… because your reasoning process changes as you gain more experience and your reality changes.
This isn’t to say that you can’t just change your reasoning… you could, it’s just that this is a lot more difficult than just changing your behavior.
So to wrap it up, if you think that you can will or choose your beliefs, you’ll get stuck, and you won’t even understand why you’re stuck anymore. To get unstuck, you have to shift your focus from your sucky beliefs, to actions that are aligned with your goals. That’s the fastest way to change your reasoning process, and hence change its logical conclusions (your beliefs).
Feel free to discuss the topic as you wish and even disagree with me if you have different thoughts.
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