I'm not much of a writer, so I hope this flows nicely and is easy to read, bear with me as I start practicing.
Over the last 6-8 months I have found myself in a position where I have basically said good bye to most of my "friends", the dead weight in my life.
This is part of a larger picture that I will write about for the forum another time, but this particular component has come with a good and bad side that I want to discuss and even gain some advice.
I've mentioned before that TMF and UNSCRIPTED were the answer to how I feeling about the way my life was playing out as a day to day engineer, I wanted something bigger and better but couldn't find where to start. They have been a catalyst for my mindset development.
A part of that mindset development was identifying those around me who's lifestyles and personalities clashed with my newly developing one. They enjoyed heavy drinking on weekends, gaming in their spare time, poor lifestyle/health choices, general wasting time nonsense, things I wasn't really interested in. Not to mention they had no belief in what I was doing, or were jealous that I was taking the leap.
I thought I would let the relationships naturally fade out by cutting back on communication with them. What I found was that they essentially disappeared, which was disappointing (they gave no effort or interest in me) but at the same time a relief (I was correct).
I currently have a small circle of good quality people in my life, but I'm also feeling a little isolated which I'm beginning to think is affecting my happiness. I need to fill the void of those friends that are out of my life with people on a similar journey and have the same mindset as me. That's where my trouble start.
How do I even begin to find people the same as you and me on a social level, not just a business networking level?
I have seen people suggest meetup.com and things like that but I always see guru looking courses being pushed on there that lead to selling tickets to the next course etc.
Does anyone out there have any advice? Have you or are you experiencing something similar?
Over the last 6-8 months I have found myself in a position where I have basically said good bye to most of my "friends", the dead weight in my life.
This is part of a larger picture that I will write about for the forum another time, but this particular component has come with a good and bad side that I want to discuss and even gain some advice.
I've mentioned before that TMF and UNSCRIPTED were the answer to how I feeling about the way my life was playing out as a day to day engineer, I wanted something bigger and better but couldn't find where to start. They have been a catalyst for my mindset development.
A part of that mindset development was identifying those around me who's lifestyles and personalities clashed with my newly developing one. They enjoyed heavy drinking on weekends, gaming in their spare time, poor lifestyle/health choices, general wasting time nonsense, things I wasn't really interested in. Not to mention they had no belief in what I was doing, or were jealous that I was taking the leap.
I thought I would let the relationships naturally fade out by cutting back on communication with them. What I found was that they essentially disappeared, which was disappointing (they gave no effort or interest in me) but at the same time a relief (I was correct).
I currently have a small circle of good quality people in my life, but I'm also feeling a little isolated which I'm beginning to think is affecting my happiness. I need to fill the void of those friends that are out of my life with people on a similar journey and have the same mindset as me. That's where my trouble start.
How do I even begin to find people the same as you and me on a social level, not just a business networking level?
I have seen people suggest meetup.com and things like that but I always see guru looking courses being pushed on there that lead to selling tickets to the next course etc.
Does anyone out there have any advice? Have you or are you experiencing something similar?
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