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Almost 4 years ago, when I was at my third IT job working in Downtown Dallas. I was working for a Fintech Firm as a Security Operations Analyst. Our Director had just placed in his two weeks notice before my third month into the job. The CIO took over our department, but was responsible for other departments. I was in charge of assisting the Security Engineer with the systems that he was maintaining or developing.
One of those systems was a vulnerability scanner called Rapid7 Nessus, it had a report function that would allow me to create reports and review vulnerabilities. The CIO didn't like how the report was created by default from the software itself. He wanted me to create a meeting with him and I to discuss the report, I invited the entire team (which was only about 4 people, to be honest). The meeting proceeded on a Thursday, the meeting proceeded and I told the individuals what the purpose of the meeting was and asked the CIO how he wanted the report to be changed. He flip the script and basically said that "No, this meeting was for you, not for me to discuss how I want to report to be made." In Slack, he did proceed to say that he wanted to change the report, but didn't remember that over our meeting. I'm sure I stepped on the wrong foot with him when I started off with the meeting with him taking charge.
He then proceeded to tell me "well how would you read the report." I read it exactly as it was structured, he didn't like what I said and from then on proceeded to publicly humiliate me and read the report a different way. You could tell he was not very pleased. He stated that we will discuss what happened on Today's meeting the following day when I went home.
The next day, he wasn't very happy at all foul language was used, we checked our objectives as to what I was doing how the progress was made. Towards the end of the call, he placed a PIP upon me. I did make a mistake by making a tweet about him on Twitter so many years ago. That I have accepted that was not right of me and of course I took ownership of this since the years have past.
But ever since I have locked myself away from the world, protecting myself from people, because of this experience.
Do you, any Fastlaners, have any tips on how I could overcome this obstacle?
I recently also had a bad experience with a network marketer who was from Amway trying to sell me or to become apart of his downline. Let's just say we met up yesterday at a Starbucks Coffee shop and it didn't go very well, because I had my walls up waiting for the sell. He didn't like what I thought of network marketing. I really thought the dude was cool and had some good stuff as we had several conversations. But what I didn't like though is that even though he displayed this persona of being an awesome, outgoing guy, he did make sneaky comments about your flaws in the process.
He basically told me, "Oh your just a dude that built up four walls and stopped network." To which he was right. I have been afraid of putting myself out there again, because of these experiences.
One of those systems was a vulnerability scanner called Rapid7 Nessus, it had a report function that would allow me to create reports and review vulnerabilities. The CIO didn't like how the report was created by default from the software itself. He wanted me to create a meeting with him and I to discuss the report, I invited the entire team (which was only about 4 people, to be honest). The meeting proceeded on a Thursday, the meeting proceeded and I told the individuals what the purpose of the meeting was and asked the CIO how he wanted the report to be changed. He flip the script and basically said that "No, this meeting was for you, not for me to discuss how I want to report to be made." In Slack, he did proceed to say that he wanted to change the report, but didn't remember that over our meeting. I'm sure I stepped on the wrong foot with him when I started off with the meeting with him taking charge.
He then proceeded to tell me "well how would you read the report." I read it exactly as it was structured, he didn't like what I said and from then on proceeded to publicly humiliate me and read the report a different way. You could tell he was not very pleased. He stated that we will discuss what happened on Today's meeting the following day when I went home.
The next day, he wasn't very happy at all foul language was used, we checked our objectives as to what I was doing how the progress was made. Towards the end of the call, he placed a PIP upon me. I did make a mistake by making a tweet about him on Twitter so many years ago. That I have accepted that was not right of me and of course I took ownership of this since the years have past.
But ever since I have locked myself away from the world, protecting myself from people, because of this experience.
Do you, any Fastlaners, have any tips on how I could overcome this obstacle?
I recently also had a bad experience with a network marketer who was from Amway trying to sell me or to become apart of his downline. Let's just say we met up yesterday at a Starbucks Coffee shop and it didn't go very well, because I had my walls up waiting for the sell. He didn't like what I thought of network marketing. I really thought the dude was cool and had some good stuff as we had several conversations. But what I didn't like though is that even though he displayed this persona of being an awesome, outgoing guy, he did make sneaky comments about your flaws in the process.
He basically told me, "Oh your just a dude that built up four walls and stopped network." To which he was right. I have been afraid of putting myself out there again, because of these experiences.
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