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NOTABLE! What would you tell your 18 or 25 year old self?

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MaxKhalus

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what a good motivation, I thnk I will do tomorrow :D
Don't waste time/money on a business. Get a strong freelance first to fix money issues. Passive income comes second.

Since 18 to 21 (today), I've wasted my life this way. There's still time.
 

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The most important thing I would tell me 21 year old self is that everybody is NOT your friend.

Most of the people that I thought were my "friends" in my early life were just leaches that wanted to see how much of my free labor I could provide, all while thinking I was "helping" them.

I was a professional auto mechanic and you will be amazed at the number of "friends" you make when they figure out you can fix their car.

I now am VERY selective on who I am friends with and NO LOSERS ALLOWED
 

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  1. Find a profitable process you enjoy and the money will follow (that is, don't chase money, chase a problem to solve that you like solving and has value to others).
  2. Stop doubting yourself; any weaknesses you perceive can be fixed through learning new skills and finding good people to surround yourself with.
  3. You only need to be successful once. You only fail if you decide to stop trying. Everything else is a lesson to leverage higher chances of success down the line.
  4. F*ck the naysayers who laughed at you for not wanting the "typical" lives they complain about having.
  5. Don't waste time overthinking. Educate yourself but don't forget to actually do something.
Luckily I'm only 29 so while these would've been useful lessons to have learned earlier on, I'm grateful I learned them at all by now.
 

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You're making the right decision. It's now or never - and it's not so bad on the other side.

Besides, nobody knows or understands you better than YOU do - so screw their thoughts on your situation.

{25 was the age at which everything I thought I had - especially my marriage - crumbled and went to hell. I knew it was time to move on and fought with myself about how much to listen to everyone else about my decision. I was deeply depressed. Suicidal. Etc.}

I'm about to be 29... so clearly whatever I thought then ended up saving my life.

It's been a few years... and I honestly would add that this would stay the same, with some exceptions.

  • You're not obligated to "take anyone with you" regardless of whether or not you share the same family, systemic challenges, or anything that remotely matches you on the surface level.
  • Why? Because for these past few years, "taking everyone with me" has weighed me down and put me in the way of more obstacles and responsibilities than I needed to take on.
  • Unless you're equally balanced and know how to ground each other, practice celibacy (or semen retention for men) and/or get a strong "self-love" game. You have no idea how much people take from you just from having sex with you. Male or female.
  • Sleep. Gym. Healthy Food. Meditate. Isolate. Elevate.
  • Don't DIY - DIBYDS - Do it by ya damn self - don't share your ideas with anyone who isn't financially invested in the best possible outcome. Most of the time, that's you...
  • If you're willing to get paid by someone else to do it, please believe you still need some of those hours to work on your own brand/business.
  • Whatever "lifestyle" you aim to have, live it first, then build your business to fit the desired lifestyle.
  • Allow your customers to tell you what they want. It works. Your customers will literally tell you exactly what it is they want ... as long as you allow them to and stop being fixed to what you THINK you want to happen.
  • Get the f*ck off Social Media. I killed my social media accounts in March 2018 and honestly have been better since. Unless I'm getting paid, the illusion of making money via networking did not pan out... sometimes it felt like I was like being gaslighted publicly. It just wasn't healthy for me.
  • Get f*cking boundaries. No means no. Means no.
  • Thick Face, Black Heart. Burn it into your knowledge.
  • Establish as many blue oceans as possible.
  • You only collaborate with people you dream of collaborating with, not people who dream of collaborating with you. (Do not allow yourself to be the blessing for someone who is inequally yoked.)
  • If short term disability is available at your job, use it. You can use that time to get therapy if your job has literally destroyed your life, family, friendships, etc. (AUTO INSURANCE, CORPORATE AMERICA, TO BE EXACT).
I confess that I've become more "spiritual"/magickal and aware of mind/body/spirit connection and even "energy"... so maybe all of it won't seem practical. But essentially... stay away from everyone who isn't going to give you this money. Ignore / Kill energy vampires. Stay fly. Pay your debts. Do yoga.

P.S. People who call you crazy, dismiss you, and envy you are right in front of your face. Take note now, because you're not going to extend any favors later.

Hope this helps.

~ The Me in 2021
 

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The most important thing I would tell me 21 year old self is that everybody is NOT your friend.

Most of the people that I thought were my "friends" in my early life were just leaches that wanted to see how much of my free labor I could provide, all while thinking I was "helping" them.

I was a professional auto mechanic and you will be amazed at the number of "friends" you make when they figure out you can fix their car.

I now am VERY selective on who I am friends with and NO LOSERS ALLOWED

Everyone... including your family members and the person you sleep next to at night. Even your siblings and your children (of adult age ). No one is safe... and that's the real truth.
 

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