Question about fear, failure, efforts and mindset

[Deleted78083]

Hey,

I have never, in my life, done anything with 100% quality when there were chances to fail because I needed an excuse in case of failure.

The example is homework. Would I have invested 100% of efforts and got 7/10 while other kids got 10/10 with not nearly as much efforts invested as I had, it would have crushed me completely.

I didn't want the reason of my failure to be that I simply didn't have the capacities that others had.

I wanted it to be "you failed because you didn't work hard enough, and could have".

So I held back, and always has.

But I am sick of this now. I won't succeed at business if I keep on holding back.

This crippling fear of failure and of discovering that there are things I may simply never get because "I am not that good" scares the f*ck out of me.

Now, when people say failure is not as bad as it seems, my experience is opposite. The failures I have had felt worse than I had imagined.

I need to get out of this mindset now.

Any advice?

Thank you : )

 

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