I want everyone that ever doubted me or slighted me to know that I'm successful.
I know exactly how you feel. Been there. Didn't do that... but sure as hell wanted to...
To get to the bottom of it, you have to start breaking things down. Your ex-boss' words obviously made you angry. He was discounting & dismissing you as a human being. Literally saying, you have no worth, no value, therefore you have no options & are f*cked. Why did it make you angry? Because a part of you believed him. If your boss had said, "I don't believe in gravity!" you would have shrugged yours shoulders & went, whatever man. Because you know better. You know how it really is. His comments made you angry because they made you question yourself & your worth. It pissed you off that he sees you how you see you.
Why would someone make a comment like that? Because they feel worthless themselves. When you know your value & have come out of some shit, people typically want to lift each other up, to help. When you have someone tearing others down, it gives away their true beliefs about themselves. He probably thinks he's f*cked, that's the only thing he can see, so it must apply to you as well (because if it didn't, he would be forced to examine himself & see where he's lacking & most people don't want to do that, as it's uncomfortable). It's much easier & feels better to tear each other down.
So how do you get past wanting to rub someone's face in it? You start to realize your own value. And it's not what you make in net profits. It has nothing to do with that. You have to actively find your own value & worth & believe it with the quiet respect that you acknowledge & live by the laws of gravity. You then start to see your former boss for who he is. Someone who's frustrated with himself, his situation & probably walking through life with a "the world owes me" mentality that always ends in bitterness & disappointment. He may never get out of that hamster wheel. But you did.
The question here isn't, how do I fight human nature & wanting to scream from the rooftops I TOLD YOU F*CKERS SO, the question is why you don't see your own worth outside of the opinions of others?
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