Well, I haven’t been around much in the past 2 weeks, and unfortunately there is a reason for it. This past week/weekend, my beautiful girlfriend of 5 years and I split up. We have been together since our senior year of college in 03’, and have been living together since our first apartment in 04. Needless to say, there has been A LOT to do. When your lives have been fused together for so long, it is hard to even fathom how to begin separating them. I now have SO much respect for anyone else who has been through a serious break-up or divorce. I have even more respect for the people who have come out stronger because of it.
I don’t have too much to say at this point, as I think the reality of the situation is finally starting to hit me. She and I are still like best friends, and we still care about each other a great deal. After 5 years of being together, the easiest explanation is that we just slowly but surely drifted apart. Although I was the one who started this and asked for the “breakâ€, I still wasn’t as prepared as I thought I was. I unexpectedly broke down a few times in the past week over little things like an empty dresser drawer, a stack of boxes in the living room, etc. To further complicate things, I am going through the busiest month I have EVER had at work, and have not been able to even step back and catch my breath a little to recoup. I am emotionally exhausted, and my drive is definitely being tested through all this.
I am very lucky that she and I are so close, and that this separation is being handled so amicably. Working together has made this whole “process†a lot easier then expected, as we are both trying to make things as easy as possible on each other. Although we moved into the house together, I actually bought it on my own (so A LOT of devastation/headache/hassle/etc. was avoided there as it is only in my name). We have been going through our things for the last week, splitting up our DVD collection, kitchen stuff, furnishings, etc. (an entire HOUSE of belongings), and it has taken a lot out of both of us. She has broken down on more then one occasion and has cried in my arms more times then I can remember. I guess after 5 years of dreaming about the future together, the thought of letting go is just hard to accept for both of us. Having gone through this, I can honestly say, seeing someone you love cry is one of the hardest things in the world…
Like many others, I hope to come out of this stronger, and I’m living by the mantra that “if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to beâ€. I’m a firm believer in karma and that things always work out for the best, so I hope the road ahead has some good luck in store for me. Furthermore, I am trying to use this as a springboard for my overall well-being (including efforts to get back in shape physically, and efforts to REALLY accelerate that move towards the fastlane that I know deep down is mine for the taking). My mind has been in a hundred different places at once in the past few months due to all this, and it is now time to refocus and get my direction back.
If I can pass on some advice to my fastlane brothers and sisters out there, I can say this; Always take care of your relationships. Take TIME to revisit that “spark†from time to time, and to show the person you are with how much they mean to you. It is A LOT easier to keep a fire alive by tending it occasionally, then it is to rebuild one from scratch when it flickers out...
Thanks for listening guys.
I don’t have too much to say at this point, as I think the reality of the situation is finally starting to hit me. She and I are still like best friends, and we still care about each other a great deal. After 5 years of being together, the easiest explanation is that we just slowly but surely drifted apart. Although I was the one who started this and asked for the “breakâ€, I still wasn’t as prepared as I thought I was. I unexpectedly broke down a few times in the past week over little things like an empty dresser drawer, a stack of boxes in the living room, etc. To further complicate things, I am going through the busiest month I have EVER had at work, and have not been able to even step back and catch my breath a little to recoup. I am emotionally exhausted, and my drive is definitely being tested through all this.
I am very lucky that she and I are so close, and that this separation is being handled so amicably. Working together has made this whole “process†a lot easier then expected, as we are both trying to make things as easy as possible on each other. Although we moved into the house together, I actually bought it on my own (so A LOT of devastation/headache/hassle/etc. was avoided there as it is only in my name). We have been going through our things for the last week, splitting up our DVD collection, kitchen stuff, furnishings, etc. (an entire HOUSE of belongings), and it has taken a lot out of both of us. She has broken down on more then one occasion and has cried in my arms more times then I can remember. I guess after 5 years of dreaming about the future together, the thought of letting go is just hard to accept for both of us. Having gone through this, I can honestly say, seeing someone you love cry is one of the hardest things in the world…
Like many others, I hope to come out of this stronger, and I’m living by the mantra that “if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to beâ€. I’m a firm believer in karma and that things always work out for the best, so I hope the road ahead has some good luck in store for me. Furthermore, I am trying to use this as a springboard for my overall well-being (including efforts to get back in shape physically, and efforts to REALLY accelerate that move towards the fastlane that I know deep down is mine for the taking). My mind has been in a hundred different places at once in the past few months due to all this, and it is now time to refocus and get my direction back.
If I can pass on some advice to my fastlane brothers and sisters out there, I can say this; Always take care of your relationships. Take TIME to revisit that “spark†from time to time, and to show the person you are with how much they mean to you. It is A LOT easier to keep a fire alive by tending it occasionally, then it is to rebuild one from scratch when it flickers out...
Thanks for listening guys.
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