Hey Guys,
Most of you know me. The Paint Brush Cover Guy! lol.
Well for the last 2 years I have been pretty on point and focused. I have accomplished a lot in 2 years. I have worked my a$$ off for hours everyday, while having a job, and running a side business. With the very little time I have, I still found plenty of time to focus on my fastlane plan, and things are starting to pay off.
I have one problem though. I've been through some tough stuff in the last several months. I'm not scared to share the story here. I got married last May to what I thought was the woman of my dreams. She was my inspiration to get started on creating a better life for us. I was very motivated because of her. I felt very at peace and was able to focus. Then towards the end of 2012, a lot of things happened.
It kinda started with hurricane Sandy. We got hit pretty hard in our area. Since, I am a NYC fireman, I was working non stop for a bit, trying to put things back together and clean up the mess. Then, my side business took off. We were doing jobs for half the price of what the crooks were charging, so I was basically working at the firehouse, then side jobs until at least mid December. I was hardly home, and still squeezing in enough Paint Brush Cover work. October-December was actually or busiest month with orders, and we got on QVC's website. A lot happened.
From all this, and other factors, my wife went into a depression. She was also diagnosed with a thyroid condition in early December. This created an even bigger problem. Led her deeper into depression. The problem was that she never talks about anything. She holds it all in. I thought everything was fine. Then, a few days before Christmas, we got into a small argument, she blew up on me, and ran out the door. She went to her parents house. I thought it was something that would blow over in a day, but it never did. It snowballed and got worse. She never wound up coming back.
We were about to get divorced, then started talking about trying to work things out about a month ago. That didn't last long. We decided to go through with the divorce. Now the paperwork is in, and we can both get on with our lives.
My issue is, that even though I am happy where I'm at right now, I feel so unfocused. Kinda like ADD. I can't get as much as I want accomplished. My minds always racing. And not racing thinking about her. It's all over the place. I'm actually content now. I understand what happened and why. It's a much longer story, but we're both to blame in way. I am happy where I am and where I'm headed. I'm constantly in a great mood. Have great people around me. I'm not sure exactly what it is though.
I can't read. I used to read 2-3 books, or more a month, I've started 3 books in the last 4 months and haven't gotten to the halfway point on any of them. Correction - I read 3 books on 'Paleo' because I was looking to change my eating habits around, and was extremely interested in the subject. But, besides that, I can't read anything. I'm struggling to read a few daily emails I get. Haven't been on the forum much. Anything to do with reading has been very difficult for me, when it was so easy a few months ago.
I'm also way out of focus with my business. I still get a lot of work accomplishes. Not nearly enough as I want, but I get it done. I kinda have to force myself to get it done. I try everyday, but it doesn't feel the same. I have a huge trade show coming up in 3 weeks, and I feel I'm not as prepared as I could be. I'm probably just paranoid. I know I've done a lot for the show. I know I could have done more though, if my focus was there.
I usually do Yoga to calm me down, but haven't been able to do that either. Tried meditation, but my mind races too much. Tried sitting myself in a quiet room and reading. No Good.
The only thing that calms me down is working out, running, and enjoying life with people close to me.
What do I do to get back that super sharp focus I once had??? I don't know what else to do. I want my business to succeed more than anything, but I feel that if I don't change my mindset back to the way it was, then it will never reach full potential.
Does anyone have any advice????
Most of you know me. The Paint Brush Cover Guy! lol.
Well for the last 2 years I have been pretty on point and focused. I have accomplished a lot in 2 years. I have worked my a$$ off for hours everyday, while having a job, and running a side business. With the very little time I have, I still found plenty of time to focus on my fastlane plan, and things are starting to pay off.
I have one problem though. I've been through some tough stuff in the last several months. I'm not scared to share the story here. I got married last May to what I thought was the woman of my dreams. She was my inspiration to get started on creating a better life for us. I was very motivated because of her. I felt very at peace and was able to focus. Then towards the end of 2012, a lot of things happened.
It kinda started with hurricane Sandy. We got hit pretty hard in our area. Since, I am a NYC fireman, I was working non stop for a bit, trying to put things back together and clean up the mess. Then, my side business took off. We were doing jobs for half the price of what the crooks were charging, so I was basically working at the firehouse, then side jobs until at least mid December. I was hardly home, and still squeezing in enough Paint Brush Cover work. October-December was actually or busiest month with orders, and we got on QVC's website. A lot happened.
From all this, and other factors, my wife went into a depression. She was also diagnosed with a thyroid condition in early December. This created an even bigger problem. Led her deeper into depression. The problem was that she never talks about anything. She holds it all in. I thought everything was fine. Then, a few days before Christmas, we got into a small argument, she blew up on me, and ran out the door. She went to her parents house. I thought it was something that would blow over in a day, but it never did. It snowballed and got worse. She never wound up coming back.
We were about to get divorced, then started talking about trying to work things out about a month ago. That didn't last long. We decided to go through with the divorce. Now the paperwork is in, and we can both get on with our lives.
My issue is, that even though I am happy where I'm at right now, I feel so unfocused. Kinda like ADD. I can't get as much as I want accomplished. My minds always racing. And not racing thinking about her. It's all over the place. I'm actually content now. I understand what happened and why. It's a much longer story, but we're both to blame in way. I am happy where I am and where I'm headed. I'm constantly in a great mood. Have great people around me. I'm not sure exactly what it is though.
I can't read. I used to read 2-3 books, or more a month, I've started 3 books in the last 4 months and haven't gotten to the halfway point on any of them. Correction - I read 3 books on 'Paleo' because I was looking to change my eating habits around, and was extremely interested in the subject. But, besides that, I can't read anything. I'm struggling to read a few daily emails I get. Haven't been on the forum much. Anything to do with reading has been very difficult for me, when it was so easy a few months ago.
I'm also way out of focus with my business. I still get a lot of work accomplishes. Not nearly enough as I want, but I get it done. I kinda have to force myself to get it done. I try everyday, but it doesn't feel the same. I have a huge trade show coming up in 3 weeks, and I feel I'm not as prepared as I could be. I'm probably just paranoid. I know I've done a lot for the show. I know I could have done more though, if my focus was there.
I usually do Yoga to calm me down, but haven't been able to do that either. Tried meditation, but my mind races too much. Tried sitting myself in a quiet room and reading. No Good.
The only thing that calms me down is working out, running, and enjoying life with people close to me.
What do I do to get back that super sharp focus I once had??? I don't know what else to do. I want my business to succeed more than anything, but I feel that if I don't change my mindset back to the way it was, then it will never reach full potential.
Does anyone have any advice????
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