If you enjoyed the process of helping others, you would not have to wait.

 

I think you hit the nail on the head. First off happiness is not something you plan for the future, it is something that you should be experiencing in the now. Postponing it until you are 'rich' is a mistake many make (I have done so myself in my distant past). After all success is a journey not a destination.

Rich is measured in so many ways, putting a monetary price on it will never bring satisfaction. You create a rich life, you don't wait for it. To me contentment is the greatest wealth of all.

I wish you all the best in your search.

 

Why leave?

How are you blaming this forum for the state of your life.

 

Have you taken any action during these 2 years? If so, what have you done, why it failed? I don't know anything about you but from your post I understand that you have just spent 2 years here and did nothing more.

If you don't do anything to become rich = you will not be even if you spend 50 years here.

 

Hi, I can understand you, since I spend too much time here reading threads, that are not really interesting to me.
But in reality it's not the forum that is attracting too much, but it's the work, that is pushing away, since I connect bad feelings to it (fear, disappointment,...). Maybe the same is true for you?
I wish you all the best, but be sure to not replace the forum with something similar, just to escape work and reality.

 

He's been here since 2013 I read.

All the best to him though.

 

I smell a storm of comments coming.

@Ayanle Farah, you can enjoy life anytime you want.

It just needs to benefit yourself, others and at an effective cost, monetary or emotional.

A simple trip locally, some gifts for your loved ones, can be easily affordable.

If we are talking about more expensive stuff, like a cruise for instance, there are numerous ways to get them at lower prices.

All you need is decent planning. That's it. Your happiness is yours to control.

You are right about one thing though. Fastlane isn't just about locking yourself on front of an online forum. You've got to be going out to do things and meet people offline, likely the others said.

The iron law of charity, jobs and business is general is that it must fulfill a need, aka helping people. Universal. Not bullshit.

All in all, @Ayanle Farah, don't throw in the towel yet.

Reread TMF and UNSCRIPTED, consider a change in your industry of focus, and take a look at your friends and family around you. Did you feel 'left out' because they look like they are having a better time than you? Peer pressure? A change of environment may be needed.

You are right that you do not need to spend your whole life getting rich. Go earn enough cash/profit to be self-sustainable first, and then rich can come later.Take a short break from this forum for a bit if you need.

I feel that you want to jump the gun, rushing to get rich, which you don't need to. Even if you were to launch a blockbuster product tomorrow, the market needs time to accept it to pay you.

 

What did you do in your attempt to become rich?

 

Have you tried doing anything about your problems before?

Have you charted out a basic timeline where you have milestones to solve them?

You might need to re-skill then to solve the bigger problems accordingly.

Do you have a regular job? Studies? I can understand if they didn't let you work as much as you'd like.

 

The biggest reason most of it doesn't work is because of following people.

Take DeMarco, for instance. He didn't read books about getting rich using the internet. He just took his own route.

By the time something becomes commonplace enough that you hear "you should try this" on the internet, it's too late. You're now the means of getting someone else rich. You're not Tim Ferris: you're an accounting entry on the way to his next sports car.

The second biggest reason is failing to do things that are hard.

If anyone can do it, it's crap. This is why doctors and lawyers can get paid so much: it's hard to become a skilled doctor or lawyer, which constraints supply, while demand remains high. Concurrently, running a cafe is easy, so you only make basic money.

The chief path to success has never been business by itself, but doing something that's genuinely hard to do, and is also in demand.

Which is why all the mockery of "time for money" is so wank and misplaced: until your time is worth solid money, you've nothing to fall back on but luck.

 

I think you don't want it enough and that's okay. You do you.

I see people on here giving you advice. I think they give that with the assumption you are like them and want the same things as much as they do.

But maybe you're not like them.

 

I think @loop101 meant that if you enjoyed providing value, then you would also enjoy the process of building a company that produces value...meaning you'd be enjoying your life right now without being rich.

Of course no one builds a business off of charity, that's why there are 2 books and this forum that contain the framework and actionable advice on how to monetize provided value.

As for the forum itself...is it charity to help others? Are we only here for some sort of return?

I help for a return, yeah. That return comes in the joy of helping others through teaching what I know (one of my greatest joys in life), through the camaraderie and support, and through others helping me by teaching me what they know...and my acting on that shared wisdom and experience.

90% of life is mindset, only 10% is skill.

Your mindset needs some serious work.

 

So do you now see why some financially rich people sometimes say they're depressed?

Even though I personally went through exactly what you're going through now, I came to realise that having money should be used as a way to boost the reasons why we are happy not be the reason why we are happy...

I mean whilst you should be doing the stuff that brings you happiness in this life - where it's chilling with your family, meeting your friends, praying to God, working on a hobby or whatever and keep on doing it, but the message is at the same time try to follow a CENTS principles in business if you get the chance...I mean you mentioned that you are going through financial difficulty, well having a job at that moment can at least ease that until you are able to start thinking about business, because usually starting a business doesn't work smoothly side by side whilst you're fighting to pay the bills, even though many make it work, but it makes life super harder for you and people who depend on you.

Becoming rich can take 20 years instead of 5 or 7 years like many of the people that have made it here on the forums, for so many reasons that you can't even list them here, such as having your warehouse burn down with millions worth of products when you're at the top of your game...should that stop you from fighting back and growing it to a bigger warehouse than before? definitely not...but stuff happens whether you like it or not.

You should now realise where are you now, in what situation concerning health, financial, spiritual etc. and ACCEPT IT. When you do that you're not actually putting yourself down, you're just accepting the reality you're in. Then, write down where you are now, accept it, think about ways that you can improve it to have a better life....

So if you are financially broke, accept it, look at the choices and go for it. Do I need a job even if it's a minimum wage job to help me get through the days? Then start searching and asking people to help you find work.

Do you find yourself away from your family and therefore makes you feel lonely? Accept it, then go visit your family and sit around with them and have fun.

Did you miss out on seeing your friends because you're reading "how to become a millionare book" and so you felt bad? accept it, go see them on the next meetup and make another time to read that book.

I just wanted to share what worked with me when I was feeling the way you did and from the time I started doing it, I started feeling much much better. And I hope you do.

It's like you said, it's usually not the Forums, MJ Demarco, Robert Kiyosaky to blame for pushing us to start thinking in a different way than we used to, it's ourselves. We made a assumption of what they meant and thought that's how we should start living our lives. But it us who made those assumptions.

Anyway I hope your life becomes more happier and you enjoy your life more than you do now.

 

Ok, so just a typical burn out cycle. See you again when you recover from that.

 

Can you find an activity that meets these 3 criteria?

• You enjoy doing it.
• Other people can benefit from it.
• You can monetize it.

If you can, you can be making money right now, and be having fun. The Fastlane methodology just adds a few more rules, and drops the first one.