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Luckily I had actual reasons. She was supportive, but to a degree.. she had no real interest in what I was doing, and was completely unlike me.With just that I would say you made a fair decision. I'm always against young people shackling themselves down too early when they haven't truly experienced jack shit yet. They end up miserable because they settled on the first person to give them the time of day which isn't wise.
BUT...
You say your reasoning was "business", but your true reason was wanting to sow your wild oats. It's evident because you went into more detail about that than business.
If you decide to leave her because you wanted to focus on bettering yourself, making money/a business, building a better future, but she didn't fit in the plans her attitude or mindset, I'd still be with you. Like if she was controlling, combative, lazy, or any other negative assumption I couldn't think of, of course leave her behind, that wouldn't aid you on your journey. If she wasn't those things and you just wanted to get your dick wet whenever or where-ever you could get it, I can't help but feel bad for the girl.
If she was supportive and a keeper then yes you are a selfish prick, but sometimes you have to be a bit selfish to get where you want to go.
All in all it was your choice and trying to get validation from strangers online won't stop your conscience from eating at you.
You're gonna carry that weight.
P.S. No matter the book always take it with a grain of salt and look before you leap.
Yes, lazy, unmotivated, always complaining about the way her mom treats her when I could tell she was just acting like a child.
I was always constantly reminded about the passage in TMF , where MJ talks about who's in your passenger seat, and mentions, "or is the relationship like luke warm water? Not too bad, not too good, but just comfortable to stay down pat".
(I know that's not word for word, but hopefully someone knows what I'm talking about.
That's EXACTLY how I felt in the relationship, I'm confident I ended it for the right reasons. Yes I may want to sow my "wild oats", but the outcome of this decision is just so, so much more than that now.
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