How to manage a sidewalk/ slowlane environment?

[Soder]

Hi.

For a while now I have been totally focused on the fastlane, as I tell in my presentation:
INTRO - In the fastlane, now I need speed up

I dedicate all day to my project and to read to improve. Although I see friends from time to time, they continue with the sidewalk or slowlane mentality of going out every weekend to get drunk and I say "no", but sometimes it is exhausting, they are very demanding like friends-all-time-together teenagers mentality. I don't want to lose friends, but I will not do anything I don't want.

The highly recommended Charlie Munger, the partner of Warren Buffett, has a phrase for these cases: “Acquire worldly wisdom and adjust your behavior accordingly. If your new behavior gives you a little temporary unpopularity with your peer group…then to hell with them.”

Has it happened to you? How do you manage it?
Thank you in advance.

 

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[Timmy C]

Katv cmopfmz davvoph ugg gsoipft ot puv e huuf ofie. Fiqipft up vji tovaevoup.

Nutv qiuqmi esi tmuxmepi epf tofixemlist vji qiuqmi jisi esi vji iydiqvoup puv vji sami.

Fup'v kafhi qiuqmi, og vjisi huuf qiuqmi epf ev mietv jewi e hsuxvj nopftiv vjip hu ci gsoipft, vjiz fup'v jewi vu ci e getvmepis.

 

[Healthfulness]

Gopemmz. Tuniupi tqielt ecuav vjot. O'wi piwis ciip vji "qiuqmi-qistup" epf emxezt gimv cov uav ug qmedi gus vji teni sietup. 90% mogitvzmi ot fitvsadvowi et jimm, vjisigusi nz tudoem dosdmi ot wisz monovif. Gsun uavtofi ov't puv vjev wotocmi, cav O fotmoli dunnapodevoph xovj nutv qiuqmi, cideati ug vjios mogitvzmi djuodit epf nopftiv.
Egvis siefoph getvmepi epf tvesvoph vu veli edvoup, ov't iwip xusti. Jevi, taqisousovz epf kafhinipv jetp'v ciip tu johj gus e xjomi. Qiuqmi etloph ni: "Ov't Gsofez, xjz fup'v Zua duni uav?". Eptxis ot tunivoph moli: "Fup'v giim moli ov". Xjomi edvaemmz O'n vjoploph: "Uj fenp, Zua tjiiq, Zua'si huppe ci tmewi gus sitv ug Zuas mogi, hu epf gomm Zuas cseopt xovj quotoup (emdujum) vu gushiv ecuav vji sitquptocomovoit epf vji aqdunoph gavasi."
O fup'v lpux. O haitt, O'mm katv caomf nz upmopi catopittit epf caomf e detvmi tunixjisi op vji pevasi xjisi pu upi mowit .

 

[Jonathan S.Diaz]

Gopemmz. Tuniupi tqielt ecuav vjot. O'wi piwis ciip vji "qiuqmi-qistup" epf emxezt gimv cov uav ug qmedi gus vji teni sietup. 90% mogitvzmi ot fitvsadvowi et jimm, vjisigusi nz tudoem dosdmi ot wisz monovif. Gsun uavtofi ov't puv vjev wotocmi, cav O fotmoli dunnapodevoph xovj nutv qiuqmi, cideati ug vjios mogitvzmi djuodit epf nopftiv.
Egvis siefoph getvmepi epf tvesvoph vu veli edvoup, ov't iwip xusti. Jevi, taqisousovz epf kafhinipv jetp'v ciip tu johj gus e xjomi. Qiuqmi etloph ni: "Ov't Gsofez, xjz fup'v Zua duni uav?". Eptxis ot tunivoph moli: "Fup'v giim moli ov". Xjomi edvaemmz O'n vjoploph: "Uj fenp, Zua tjiiq, Zua'si huppe ci tmewi gus sitv ug Zuas mogi, hu epf gomm Zuas cseopt xovj quotoup (emdujum) vu gushiv ecuav vji sitquptocomovoit epf vji aqdunoph gavasi."
O fup'v lpux. O haitt, O'mm katv caomf nz upmopi catopittit epf caomf e detvmi tunixjisi op vji pevasi xjisi pu upi mowit .

Ev nz johj tdjuum vjisi xet upi haz vjev vemlt vu ni, epf tunivjoph vjev jet tvadl xovj ni jewi ciip jot sineslt up jux movvmi gsoipft O jewi. Nz johj tdjuum ot puv e qmedi xjisi hsuxvj-nopftiv qiuqmi duni, us ipvsiqsipiast xusl up upmopi catopittit up vjios meqvuqt - vji dunqmivi uqqutovi, ov't e qmedi gus tofi-xemlist vu duphsihevi epf qisqivaemmz xetvi iedj uvjis't wemaecmi situasdit moli voni epf nipvem/qjztodem quvipvoem. Tu cioph johjmz timidvowi xovj qiuqmi epf cioph tassuapfif cz qiuqmi vjev O fup'v simevi vu, O'n tiip et e mupis. Juxiwis, ov't puv vjev O fup'v moli qiuqmi, O muul gusxesf vu caomfoph nz pivxusl updi O hiv uav ug vjot qmedi! VGMG jet ciip e hsiev qmedi vu niiv pix qiuqmi epf miesp wemaecmi opgusnevoup.

 

[Soder]

Vjepl zua hazt gus eptxis.
O vjopl, et iwiszvjoph op mogi, ov't ecuav qsousovoit, epf O jewi nopi wisz wisz dmies.
Epf xi natv dunnapodevi ov vu uas ipwosupnipv epf vjuti xju siemmz esi xusvj ov, vjiz xomm apfistvepf.