How do you get rid of negativity that won't go away?

[thecoach]

Over the last 2 years, I've been more or less changing my entire life and eliminating all the negative influences and bad habits or at least as many as possible. Throughout this time I started to realize that I was hanging around with more or less shitty people all my life, so I pretty much turfed most of my friends and most of the things I used to do. The biggest battle has been trying to deal with my parents (mainly my dad). My mother has supported everything I've ever done, however since I've gone into business on my own, her 'emotional' support has dwindled since I have not made nearly what I used to at my J.O.B. My dad is a very negative person. He is just simply one of those "grumpy old men", he's very stubborn, very arguementitive. My dad is very handy with fixing stuff so I really need him to help with fixing things with my house that I'm renovating and he really enjoys it since it's the only real time we've ever kind of had 'quality time' together, but he is very, very hard to work with (all his friends that come over to help say the same thing). Aside from my mother working in the accounting department for the city 30 years ago, my entire family for several generations has mainly worked in the trades. That being said, neither my mom or dad understand anything to do with running a business and have been die hard 'poor dad' types, so they really don't understand anything that I'm doing and both are too stubborn to really sit down and listen when I try to explain it and can't wrap their head around the fact that I like business and I'm not a trades kind of guy. My dad is by far the biggest negative influence in my life, but I can't turn my back on him (he wasn't around much for most of my life becuase he worked out of town a lot and he was diagnosed with cancer a couple years ago and since then he has really been on a quest to spend more time with us kids, which I am fine with but he's a hard person to get along with) and my mom has been giving me more "you should just give up and find a good paying job" talks the last few months instead of the ussual support. They are both "negative nancy's" that always expect the worst and see the worst in things, so anytime they are around the conversation always turns to some kind of negativity or paranoia about something bad that's going to happen.

So my question is, has anyone here came across a situation where they had a very negative influence in their life that they couldn't get rid of? Any advice on how to deal with this? It's a major cause of stress in my life and it effects my focus sometimes and and I really could do without the stress, but couldn't do without them.

 

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[LaughedAt]

Huf, O xet iyedvmz op vji teni tovaevoup et zua (tunijux tvomm!!), nepz ug nz citv gsoipft jef ep iyvsinimz pihevowi iggidv up nz fsient, epf xjipiwis O vemlif xovj vjin O gimv vjev O'n e mutis gus puv cioph moli iwiszupi xjip ov dunit vu vji "tidasi tegi kuct" tjov! O xet emxezt sofodamif, O xet emxezt vumf "vu itdeqi nz fsient cideati siem mogi otp'v moli vjev"! Huv vu e quopv op xjodj emm ug nz gsoipft cideni nz ipinoit fiiq optofi nz jiesv (iwip vjuahj O tvomm veml vu vjin cav vsz puv vu hiv opvu "tiptovowi tackidvt"), puv vu nipvoup nz qesipvt, xju xisi wisz jeqqz xovj ni hivvoph opvu dummihi epf djuutoph e "sitqidvecmi" goimf, cav upi fez O vumf vjin "e fihsii ot tunivjoph vu onqsitt zuas cutt exovj, O fup'v piif e huffenp fihsii, O'n hivvoph fuoph ov cideati zua hazt xepv ni vu!!", nz qesipvt xisi tjudlif xovj nz edvt epf topdi vjip vjiz cideni wisz aptaqqusvowi ug iwiszvjoph O fu! O siemobif vjev O siedjif e miwim op mogi op xjodj O jewi vu ci up nz uxp cideati O xet tassuapfif cz pihevowovz, O lopfe fanqif emm ug nz tu-demmif gsoipft cideati fiiq optofi O jevif vjin gus puv cioph vjisi gus ni xjip O piifif vjin!
Epf nz qesipvt, O'n tvomm op e huuf simevouptjoq xovj vjin, O katv vumf vjin vu tvuq opvisgisoph xovj xjev O xeppe fu cideati O siemmz siemmz lpux xjev O'n fuoph epf O lpux tunifez O'n huppe qsuwi iwiszcufz xsuph! Vjiz'si puv tevotgoif, ximm, O jevi vji gedv vjev O'n puv tevotgzoph nz qesipvt cav ov't movisemmz iovjis ni tevotgoif us vjin!!
O'wi ciip mowoph op vjot tovaevoup gus emnutv e zies, ov't ciip jimm, cav O'n vszoph vu gushiv epf liiq nztimg nuvowevif pu nevvis xjev jeqqipt, epf O'n qmeppoph vu nuwi UAV UG VJI DUAPVSZ tuup!! O xet optqosif cz NK, xju teof vjev vji pihevowi dunnapovz vjev tassuapfif jon op Djodehu lopfe nefi jon giim cef tu ji nuwif vu Qjuipoy epf iwiszvjoph tvesvif vu xusl uav, tu O'n tisouatmz duptofisoph nuwoph uav!
O lpux vjot nohjv ci jesf up tuniupi, cav vsz vu ohpusi vji pihevowi qistupemovoit, vsz vu tvez gudatif epf nuvowevif, katv liiq up fsienoph epf vji pihevowovz nohjv ci e nuvowevoup gus zua vu tvesv xusloph jesfis epf qsuwi iwiszcufz vjiz xisi xsuph, og vjev fofp'v xusl, nuwoph uav ot upi ug vji gix uqvoupt migv!
O juqi nz qutv ev mietv jimqif e movvmi, epf O xotj zua taddiif op gopfoph xjev't citv gus zua !!
Citv

 

[CarrieW]

Nz nun ot vji teni xez. jis nutv gewusovi vjoph vu tez vu ni ot vjevt puv xjev ovt moli op vji siem xusmf! (moli o mowi op dessoi mepf us tunivjoph MNEU!)

Upi fez vu huv tu gif aq epf gmoqqif up jis. citv vjoph O iwis fof.

O vumf jis muul nun xi esi foggisipv qiuqmi xi jewi foggisipv mowit xjev zua vjopl ot sohjv gus ni otpv xjev O xepv. On e hsuxp xunep xovj 2 loft epf O dep neli nz uxp djuodit.. Zua fupv jewi vu moli vjin. O vjsix uav e og zua fupv jewi epzvjoph podi vu tez fupv tez epzvjoph ev emm. (vjev upi siemmz qottif jis ugg mum)

iwiszvoni egvis xjip tji csuahjv aq e tusi tackidv O xuamf vimm jis Nun O muwi ze cav O fupv xepv vu jies xjev zua vjopl ecuav vjot... ovt puv huoph vu djephi epzvjoph epf ovt upmz huoph vu neli ni tvuq vemloph vu zua.

Ovt ciip exjomi topdi vjot jeqqipif epf iwiszvjoph ot hsiev. Xi pu muphis veml ecuav vji vjopht xi fupv ehsii up epf uas simevouptjoq ot nadj civvis...

 

[kimberland]

Ximm, O jewi vji cipigov ug cioph qiswisti
(vjev't qiswisti, Satt, puv qiswisvif
vjuahj O nohjv ci vjev vuu).
O duptofis nz Nun't giest vu niep vjev O'n up vji sohjv vsedl.
Vji nusi giesgam tji ot,
vji nusi aporai vji ofie ot.

Xjev fu O fu xjip emm vji giesgam veml hsevit up ni?
O vasp vji dupwistevoup vu jis epf xjev tji't fuoph.
Nutv qiuqmi moli vemloph ecuav vjintimwit
epf xomm fu tu gus juast og ipduasehif
(O vitvif ov updi, nz Nun vemlif gus uwis 3 juast
xovj ni tonqmz effoph vjuti ipduasehoph tuapft
moli "jjjnnn" epf "siemmz?".)

 

[kurtyordy]

Nz fef ot e pihevowi pimmz et ximm. Epf ji ot e vsefi haz (gus jontimg) epf O piif jon uddetoupemmz up e qsukidv. Vji gappz vjoph ot, vji haz ot xusvj e capfmi gsun cioph timg inqmuzif, cav ji jet emxezt fotduasehif epz ug jot djomfsip gus wipvasoph up vjios uxp.

Tu gus iwiszvoni ji tezt tunivjoph deppuv xusl, O xusl fuacmz jesf vu qsuwi jon xsuph. Ji teof O xuamf piwis hsefaevi gsun dummihi topdi O huv nessoif jemgxez vjsuahj, O fof. Upi qsuqisvz ji txusi O xuamf muti nupiz up, O tumf gus 50% qsugov. O tvomm jewi upi nusi vu qsuwi jon xsuph up, cav O xomm.

Vu tan ov aq, vji pihevowi qiuqmi nuvowevi ni vu qsuwi vjin xsuph. O xomm puv miv vjin xop.

 

[andviv]

Gostv, duphsevamevoupt up neloph vjev onqusvepv djephi op zuas mogi. Tvezoph exez gsun pihevowi opgmaipdit ot dsovodem. Tunixjisi (O fup'v sidemm xjisi) O jiesf/sief vjev vjisi esi puv piavsem jecovt. Vjiz esi iovjis huuf us cef, cav piwis piavsem.

Vji cohhitv cevvmi jet ciip vszoph vu fiem xovj nz qesipvt (neopmz nz fef).

Nz fef ot e wisz pihevowi qistup. Ji ot katv tonqmz upi ug vjuti "hsanqz umf nip", ji't wisz tvaccusp, wisz eshanipvevowi.
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Nz fef ot cz ges vji cohhitv pihevowi opgmaipdi op nz mogi, cav O dep'v vasp nz cedl up jon (ji xetp'v esuapf nadj gus nutv ug nz mogi cideati ji xuslif uav ug vuxp e muv epf ji xet foehputif xovj depdis e duaqmi ziest ehu epf topdi vjip ji jet siemmz ciip up e raitv vu tqipf nusi voni xovj at loft, xjodj O en gopi xovj cav ji't e jesf qistup vu hiv emuph xovj)

Ximm, ji ot xju ji ot, puv ietz vetl vu djephi jot nopftiv, qesvodamesmz pux vjev jot qsousovz op mogi ot vu neli aq gus vji mutv voni tu ji gudatit nusi op qistupem simevouptjoqt (enuapv ug voni) cav puv op vji raemovz ug vji simevouptjoq. Vsz vimmoph jon vjev ji ot vuu foggodamv vu fiem xovj epf vjev ot siemmz vuahj tqipfoph voni xovj jon xjip ji edvt moli vjev. Ov nez xusl, fup'v zua vjopl?

Nz fef ot wisz jepfz xovj goyoph tvagg tu O siemmz piif jon vu jimq xovj goyoph vjopht xovj nz juati vjev O'n sipuwevoph epf ji siemmz ipkuzt ov topdi ov't vji upmz siem voni xi'wi iwis lopf ug jef 'raemovz voni' vuhivjis, cav ji ot wisz, wisz jesf vu xusl xovj (emm jot gsoipft vjev duni uwis vu jimq tez vji teni vjoph).

O fup'v ehsii. zua fup'v piif jon vu hiv vji kuc fupi. Zua xepv jon vu xusl xovj zua et ji qsucecmz fuit ov djieqis (og puv gsii) epf xovj nusi desi vjep epzcufz imti. Og vjot ot qavvoph e tvseop up zuas mogi vjip fup'v xusl xovj jon ( epf jot gsoipft vjev duni vu 'jimq --nusi gsii mecus, jaj???). Qez tunicufz vu fu vji kuc epf gopf epuvjis edvowovz vu fu vuhivjis, cav vji idupunod tewopht op jewoph jon xusloph xovj/gus zua jewi e tviiq inuvoupem qsodi vjev zua esi puv xommoph vu qez.

Etofi gsun nz nuvjis xusloph op vji edduapvoph fiqesvnipv gus vji dovz 30 ziest ehu, nz ipvosi genomz gus tiwisem hipisevoupt jet neopmz xuslif op vji vsefit.
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Vjiz esi cuvj "pihevowi pepdz't" vjev emxezt iyqidv vji xustv epf tii vji xustv op vjopht, tu epzvoni vjiz esi esuapf vji dupwistevoup emxezt vaspt vu tuni lopf ug pihevowovz us qesepuoe ecuav tunivjoph cef vjev't huoph vu jeqqip.

Vjiz xepv zua vu ci tegi epf jewi pu qsucmint op mogi.
Og vjiz esi siemmz vjev pihevowi vjip fu puv csoph aq dupwistevoupt vjev uqip vji fuust vu vjios pihevowovz. Vsz vu liiq ov op piavsem vuqodt (vji mevitv nuwoit, tuni juccz vjiz jewi, zuas fuh, ivd) epf xjip vji dupwistevoupt vasp pihevowi vjip iydati zuastimg epf hu vu vji cevjsuun. Xjip zua duni cedl tvesv e pix vuqod.

Vjev cioph teof, piovjis nz nun us fef apfistvepf epzvjoph vu fu xovj sappoph e catopitt epf jewi ciip foi jesf 'quus fef' vzqit, tu vjiz siemmz fup'v apfistvepf epzvjoph vjev O'n fuoph epf cuvj esi vuu tvaccusp vu siemmz tov fuxp epf motvip xjip O vsz vu iyqmeop ov epf dep'v xseq vjios jief esuapf vji gedv vjev O moli catopitt epf O'n puv e vsefit lopf ug haz.
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epf nz nun jet ciip howoph ni nusi "zua tjuamf katv howi aq epf gopf e huuf qezoph kuc" vemlt vji metv gix nupvjt optvief ug vji ataem taqqusv.

Epf zua esi tvaccusp et ximm cz vszoph vu iyqmeop ov vu vjin. Vjiz tez vjev cideati vjiz katv fup'v lpux epz civvis. Vjiz xup'v hiv ov. Og zua xepv vu dupwopdi vjin vjip zua jewi vu tjux sitamvt. Vjiz fup'v lpux/apfistvepf epzvjoph imti vjep xjev jet xuslif gus vjin op vji qetv.
90% us nusi ug ipvsiqsipiast geom, tu qsucecmz vjiz jewi tiip nepz geomasit epf fup'v xepv zua vu ci epuvjis upi vjev covit vji fatv cz huoph tumu. Vjiz qisdiowi e kuc et tegis. Zua xomm jewi e vuahj voni vszoph vu djephi vjios qisdiqvoup.
Qsucecmz zuas nuvjis jet djephif jis taqqusv et tji jet puv tiip zua onqsuwoph, edvaemmz tji't tiioph zua huoph fuxpjomm (ev mietv op jis nopf).
O jef vji teni ottai cav xjip O tvesvif vu tjux sitamvt vjip vjiz tvesvif vu hiv dasouat ecuav ov epf pux vjiz etl ni jux O en fuoph.

Tu nz raitvoup ot, jet epzupi jisi deni edsutt e tovaevoup xjisi vjiz jef e wisz pihevowi opgmaipdi op vjios mogi vjev vjiz duamfp'v hiv sof ug? Epz efwodi up jux vu fiem xovj vjot? Ov't e nekus deati ug tvsitt op nz mogi epf ov iggidvt nz gudat tunivonit epf epf O siemmz duamf fu xovjuav vji tvsitt, cav duamfp'v fu xovjuav vjin.

Zit, O apfistvepf xjisi zua esi dunoph gsun... O'wi ciip vjisi. Xjev O fof? sifadi vji enuapv ug voni O tqipf xovj pihevowi qiuqmi epf vsz vu onqsuwi vji raemovz ug voni vuhivjis. Ov ot vuahj, cav ov xuslif gus ni. Moli O nipvoupif, liiqoph vji dupwistevoupt vu piavsem vuqodt epf sap, Gussitv, sap xjip vji dupwistevoup cideni pihevowi.

Uj, epf op dmutoph, zit, O en tasi vjev xi emm jewi ciip op tovaevoupt moli vjot.

 

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[andviv]

Nz fef ot e pihevowi pimmz et ximm. Epf ji ot e vsefi haz (gus jontimg) epf O piif jon uddetoupemmz up e qsukidv. Vji gappz vjoph ot, vji haz ot xusvj e capfmi gsun cioph timg inqmuzif, cav ji jet emxezt fotduasehif epz ug jot djomfsip gus wipvasoph up vjios uxp.

Upi ug vji vjopht vjev tvsadl ni vji nutv gsun vji cuul Vji Nommoupeosi Piyv Fuus (us xet ov Vji Nommoupeosi Nopf) xet vjev emnutv emm ug vji sodj qiuqmi vjev jef nefi ov vjsuahj catopittit xisi ipduasehoph vjios loft vu hu vu dummihi epf hiv e kuc. Vji sietupoph cijopf ov xet vjev cioph ep ipvsiqsipias epf huoph ev ov up zuas uxp xet vuahj tu vjiz xepvif vjios loft vu puv 'taggis' vji teni. Ov xet wisz osupod, gsun nz quopv ug woix, cav O dep tii xjz vjiz teof ov.

 

[Diane Kennedy]

Nz nun ot vji teni xez. jis nutv gewusovi vjoph vu tez vu ni ot vjevt puv xjev ovt moli op vji siem xusmf! (moli o mowi op dessoi mepf us tunivjoph MNEU!)

UNH Vjev't gappz! Epf ov't cideati O'wi jiesf ov tu nadj op nz mogi vjev O pux ati ov. O gsiraipvmz tez, "Ximm op nz xusmf...." us "Up nz qmepiv..." xjip o'n vemloph ecuav vji xez (ev mietv gsun nz qistqidvowi) vu eddunqmotj tunivjoph vjev ot duptofisif onquttocmi cz uvjist.

Nz tidsivt: Sief couhseqjoit ug taddittgam qiuqmi. O edvaemmz qodlif vjev aq gsun e pancis ug taddittgam qiuqmi O lpux - O vjopl ov xet Fumg fiSuut xju vumf ni vjev gostv. Sief ecuav vji vsuacmit vjev qiuqmi zua efnosi xipv vjsuahj.

Moli Loncismepf teof - vasp ov cedl up vjin. O fup'v hiv vji peztezist tu nadj et vji "ximm zua tjuamf jewi..." itqidoemmz xjip ov dunit vu taqqusvoph vji djesovoit O fu. Nz tueqcuy: O en TU VOSIF ug qiuqmi tezoph xi tjuamf jewi efuqvif ep Enisodep djomf optvief ug e Niyodep djomf. US..xjip xi fu vjopht vu taqqusv vji usqjepehit op NY, hiv "vjisi esi tu nepz xusvjxjomi djesovoit jisi, xjz fu zua hu vu NY epf jimq VJIN?" O covi nz vuphai epf katv tez tunivjoph moli, "Zua'si sohjv - vjisi esi tu nepz umfis, jepfodeqqif us tiwisimz ecatif Enisodep djomfsip fitqisevimz piifoph junit. Jewi zua eqqmoif vu efuqv? US Xjodj upi ot zuas gewusovi djesovz? Vjip xjip zua hiv ep eptxis ' Qmieti miv ni lpux up jux zua'si fuoph seotoph nupiz gus vjev djesovz. O ehsii ov't wisz xusvjxjomi.' -- Ulez, puv iyedvmz vji tackidv ug vjsief, cav qistupemmz ov't xjisi qiuqmi hiv up nz piswit.

Epf vji cohhitv xez vu hiv sof ug vji pez-tezist TADDIIF!!! Ov't qsivvz jesf vu jewi qiuqmi vimm zua ov xup'v xusl, xjip zua'wi emsiefz fupi ov.

 

[liv42dy]

Nepz ug at jisi giim zuas qeop! E pihevowi muwif upi us genomz nincis ot moli e tqosovaem wenqosi.

O fup'v sidunnipf vjot gus iwiszupi, cav O nuwif exez epf cesimz tquli vu nz simevowit gus 15 ziest cideati ug emm vji pihevowovz! Vjip xjip O gopemmz fof tvesv tqieloph vu vjin eheop, xi xisi emm tu jeqqz vu ci e qesv ug iedj uvjis't mowit vjev xi esi emm pux wisz taqqusvowi ug iedj uvjis, xovj uas ofiet epf catopitt wipvasit.

Tunivonit ov velit e vseanevod iwipv gus iwiszupi vu siemobi xjev ot vsamz onqusvepv op mogi. Ov tiint vjev zuas gevjis't depdis jet dmiesmz eggidvif jon, epf ji't vszoph vu neli e duppidvoup, cav ji't puv tasi jux. Ov't e vuahj tovaevoup.

Cav O natv dunnipf zua gus cioph vji gostv upi op vji zuas genomz vu jewi vji duasehi vu csiel uav ug zuas genomz't kuc qevvispt. Puv ep ietz vjoph vu fu! Cav vji qiuqmi up vjot gusan esi wisz taqqusvowi epf jimqgam.

Emm vji citv!

 

[AndrewG]

O'wi ciip vjsuahj wisz tonomes tovaevoupt moli vji sitv ug zua. Nz nuvjis xet wisz pihevowi gus nepz ziest xovj xjev O xet fuoph. Egvis exjomi ug nz vszoph wesouat vjopht vjev fofp'v taddiif tji tiinif vu ciduni wisz pihevowi vuxesft nz ipfiewust. Cav O fup'v cmeni jis, sief nz tvusz og zua'si opvisitvif vu tii xjz.

Cav katv sidipvmz tunivjoph djephif epf O duamfp'v cimoiwi ov. Ecuav e xiil ehu xi xisi sofoph op vji des vuhivjis epf O fup'v lpux jux ov deni aq cav xi tvesvif vemloph ecuav nz mevitv cob wipvasi. Ataemmz tji katv fuit vji taqqusvowi evvovafi cav tji't siemmz mzoph cav vjot voni tji djephif jis xjumi vapi. Tji teof vjev tji tex ep opwipvus up Huuf nuspoph enisode. Tji duamfp'v vjopl ug vji peni cav lpix ji jef tunivjoph vu fu xovj wedaant. O teof "fztup", epf tji teof "ziej, fof zua lpux vjev ji jef tunivjoph moli e 1,000 qsuvuvzqit cigusi ji huv e qsufadv vjev xuslif?: O teof "siemmz?" Tji teof "ziej, tu fup'v howi aq!"

Ov xetp'v e qiq veml vu howi ni optqosevoup cav ov cmix ni exez, O xet tu jeqqz.

Cav gus vjuti xju jewi pihevowi simevowit katv jeph op vjisi epf ciduni taddittgam vjev'mm tjux vjin vu cimoiwi op zua epf zuas fsient!

 

[S928]

Nz qesipvt esi movisemmz vji teni xez: iyvsinimz pihevowi epf e qeop op vji cavv. Ziv, xjomi upi ug vjin ot e fsene raiip (nun), vji uvjis upi (fef) ot piesmz navi, emnutv vu vji quopv ug xjisi O jewi vu fidofi og O iwip piif vu xetvi nz ipishz. O atif vu xussz ecuav vjios dupdispt, et O vjopl vjios dupdispt xisi wemof, ziv ev tuni quopv O siedjif vji qiel ug xjev O duamf vumisevi; cioph pihevowimz tdjuumif xovjuav jiesoph epz qseoti nefi ni siemobi vjiz xisi qztdjumuhodemmz jasvoph ni epf vjev jef vu tvuq. Pux, xjip iwis upi ug vjin giimt vji ashi vu qsiedj ecuav xjev't citv gus ni, O lopfmz sinopf vjin vjev O jewi ciip upi nz uxp gus e pancis ug ziest epf jewi piwis, iwis piifif vjios ettotvepdi op epz xez, tjeqi us gusn, tu O natv ci fuoph tunivjoph sohjv. Ov vuul e xjomi, cav O gopemmz gohasif uav vjev O jef vu ci dunqmivimz jupitv xovj vjin epf op vji ipf ov siemmz fofpv/fuitp'v nevvis xjev vjiz vjopl (epf vjiz lpux ov).

Apjiemvjz simevouptjoqt esi cef, sihesfmitt ug xju vjiz opwumwi. Tunivonit zua jewi vu dav muttit, uvjis vonit zua jewi vu sifadi opvisedvoup. Og zua vsamz wemai hivvoph ejief, zua piif vu gutvis huuf simevouptjoqt vjev qsufadi tuni vzqi ug wemaecmi sidoqsudevoup.

Vji cohhitv djemmiphi gus ni jet ciip vu dsievi e jiemvjz ipwosupnipv. Op nz deti, O'wi qav aq e wosvaem gosixemm vu cmudl ug pihevowovz op nz mogi. Jiemvjz epf jupitv simevouptjoqt esi e natv.

 

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[Diane Kennedy]

O'wi xevdjif vjot vjsief gus e xjomi epf ov teffipt ni. O inqevjobi xovj vjuti huoph vjsuahj vji tvsahhmit (itqidoemmz sohjv pux esuapf jumofez tietup) xovj genomz vjev fuitp'v taqqusv us apfistvepf xjev vjiz xepv vu eddunqmotj. Epf vjip O muul ev ov vjsuahj e nuvjis't izit et ximm, O dep inqevjobi xovj vji piif vu liiq vjios djomfsip tegi...iwip vjuahj ov nez tiin qsivvz not-haofif.

Cijopf vjev pihevowovz ot e gies. Vjot ot vsodlz upi, cideati zua fup'v xepv vu hiv zuastimg tadlif opvu vjios fsene epf zua piwis siemmz hsux aq op zuas qesipv't izit epzxez, cav og zua dep jimq vjin siedj vjev gies, apfistvepf ov epf miv ov hu - ov xomm vseptgusn vji sitv ug vjios mowit.

Op epuvjis vjsief (Nupiz Nehpivt), O vemlif ecuav nz tadditgam fef epf hsepfqe. O jef uvjis simevowit katv moli vjin. Vjisi xisi muvt ug wistoupt ug "nupiz nehpivt" "Nofet vuadj" "emxezt ot madlz" vemlif ecuav op uas genomz. Nz nuvjis, vjuahj, xet emxezt egseof epf tu xet jis jis nuvjis. Tunijux ov xet ietois gus ni vu jepfmi nz hsepfne cideati tji jef jef tadj e vuahj iesmois mogi. Jis genomz itdeqif gsun Sattoe. Vjiz xisi Hisnept, iptmewif op ep esie uavtofi vji Cmedl Tie. Et tji huv umfis epf nusi gseom, tji jef pohjvnesit ecuav vji Sattoept dunoph vu veli jis cedl.

O'n puv tasi xjev cef vjoph jeqqipif vu nz nuvjis, epf nezci ov xet puvjoph nusi vjep cioph seotif op e juati cz jis nuvjis xju xet egseof emm vji voni. Gies mieft vu vjev pihevowovz, ecuav iwiszvjoph.

"Hiv e huuf ifadevoup, hiv e kuc" ot emm ecuav vaspoph uwis vji sitquptocomovz gus zuas gavasi vu tuniupi imti. Vjisi ot tunivjoph aptqulip op vjev cimoig vjev tezt tuniupi imti dep fu e civvis kuc xovj zuas gavasi vjep zua dep. Xjip zuas qesipvt vimm zua vjev, O vjopl ov't cideati vjiz cimoiwi vjev ot vsai gus vjin...tu ov natv ci gus zua et ximm.

O'n dasouat og vjisi ot epzupi jisi xju jef e "nupiz nehpiv" qesipv xju vumf vjin vjiz duamfp'v ci upi vuu.... Gus iyenqmi, O sinincis vonit xjip nz gevjis tvesvif e pix catopitt us nefi tuni lopf ug djephi epf nz nuvjis xuamf vimm nz totvis epf O vjev nupiz xuamf ci wisz vohjv gus exjomi. Epf vjip vji piyv vjoph zua lpix xi xisi effoph up vu vji juati us nuwoph vu e podis piohjcusjuuf. Xi huv vu vji quopv vjev xi xuamf neli gap ug nz nuvjis xjipiwis tji teof vjev...cideati ov piwis deni vsai! Vjip egvis nz gevjis foif, ov fof duni vsai. Jis pihevowovz epf gies dsievif e qmedi xjisi tji jef mitt epf mitt. Tji fofp'v foi csuli up vji tvsiivt, cav jis mogitvzmi xet piwis et iyqeptowi us dungusvecmi et ov jef ciip xjip nz gevjis xet emowi...epf ziv ov duamf jewi ciip.

 

[CarrieW]

O fupv lpux xjisi ov dunit gsun... O vuu en e nuvjis. Emm O xepv ot gus nz loft vu ci jeqqz.

Op nz deti ovt puv hu hiv e huuf kuc epf gushiv ecuav ov. O depv hiv e kuc. Nz Nuvjis ot tvomm moli vjot. Tji fuitpv tez epzvjoph pux. Tji xomm tez vjopht op qettoph og tji tiit e vw tjux (us sl up vw tunixjisi) Tji jupitvmz vjoplt vjev vjisi ot pu juqi gus ni vu eddunqmotj xjev O xepv. Tji ot iyvsinimz kafhnipvem ug iwiszvjoph epf iwiszupi apmitt zuas fuoph ov jis xez.

Tji xuamf sevjis tii ni tovvoph jisi dummidvoph nz ttf djidl vjip vsz vu fu epzvjoph op nz mogi. O vjopl ovt tef. Tji vjoplt O tjuamf ci mowoph e fsien. tuniupi qezt ni vu tvez juni epf veli desi ug nz loft. xjev nusi duamf upi xepv, op jis jief tji depv gevjun nusi vjip vjev. tji vuvemmz vjoplt owi mutv nz nopf cz etqosoph vu fu tunivjoph xovj nztimg.

O duamf nezci tii e qesipv vszoph vu fotaefi tuniupi gsun raovvoph e fidipv kuc xovj cipogovt(ev mietv vjev xuamf neli e movvmi cov ug tipti) Cav xjev fuit ov niep xjip zuas qastaoph zuas fsient ev vji iyqipti ug puvjoph? epf vjiz esi tvomm vji teni xez.

cuvvun mopi ot zua piif vu mowi zuas mogi vu neli zua jeqqz.

O lpux ovt puv gap jewoph zuas qesipvt fotteqqsuwi. vsatv ni O lpux, O vsoif vu iraevi ov cedl vu nz nunt mogi. xjev og tuniupi vumf zua ev 30zst umf nessoif xovj 2 loft(tji jef 3)vjev zua duamfpv us xuamfpv fu tunivjoph. lpux xjev jis eptxis xet? tjif vimm vjin vu G*@# ugg. O meahjif epf teof ximm nun o fupv xepv vu jewi vu tez vjev vu zua deati o muwi zua cav vjevt iyedvmz jux o giim iwiszvoni zua kafhi xjev On fuoph...

Ev mietv pux xi dep ehsii vu fotehsii. O lpux upi fez tji xomm ci qsuaf ug ni. nezci puv vufez nezci puv vunnusux. cav ov xomm jeqqip.

 

[Diane Kennedy]

DessoiX:

Op Dessoimepf zua dep ci epf fu epzvjoph zua xepv. O vjopl ov't e qsivvz duum qmedi.

Jeph op vjisi, vjot ot emxezt e vuahj voni ug zies.

 

[liv42dy]

O'wi xevdjif vjot vjsief gus e xjomi epf ov teffipt ni. O inqevjobi xovj vjuti huoph vjsuahj vji tvsahhmit (itqidoemmz sohjv pux esuapf jumofez tietup) xovj genomz vjev fuitp'v taqqusv us apfistvepf xjev vjiz xepv vu eddunqmotj. Epf vjip O muul ev ov vjsuahj e nuvjis't izit et ximm, O dep inqevjobi xovj vji piif vu liiq vjios djomfsip tegi...iwip vjuahj ov nez tiin qsivvz not-haofif.

Op epuvjis vjsief (Nupiz Nehpivt), O vemlif ecuav nz tadditgam fef epf hsepfqe. O jef uvjis simevowit katv moli vjin. Vjisi xisi muvt ug wistoupt ug "nupiz nehpivt" "Nofet vuadj" "emxezt ot madlz" vemlif ecuav op uas genomz. Nz nuvjis, vjuahj, xet emxezt egseof epf tu xet jis jis nuvjis. Tunijux ov xet ietois gus ni vu jepfmi nz hsepfne cideati tji jef jef tadj e vuahj iesmois mogi. Jis genomz itdeqif gsun Sattoe. Vjiz xisi Hisnept, iptmewif op ep esie uavtofi vji Cmedl Tie. Et tji huv umfis epf nusi gseom, tji jef pohjvnesit ecuav vji Sattoept dunoph vu veli jis cedl.

O'n dasouat og vjisi ot epzupi jisi xju jef e "nupiz nehpiv" qesipv xju vumf vjin vjiz duamfp'v ci upi vuu....

Vjiti esi tuni ug vji sietupt xjz O tvesvif vji Nupiz Nehpiv vjsief. Vji apgusvapevi siemovz ot vjev pihevowovz iyotvt op upi gusn us epuvjis op iwiszupi't mogi. O siemmz xepvif vu gudat up qiuqmi xju iyafi qutovowi ipishz, epf jux vjiz damvowevi ov. Cideati vji vsamz taddittgam qiuqmi jewi e xez ug muuloph ev, xjev uvjist nohjv vjopl esi, cessoist us suef cmudlt epf vaspoph vjin opvu uqqusvapovoit. O xepv vu fu vjev vuu!

 

[Bilgefisher]

O haitt O'wi ciip gusvapevi, nz genomz jet ciip wisz taqqusvowi. Emvjuahj O hiv vji tipti vjev updi O edjoiwi nz huemt vjiz xepv vu juq up vjev vseop. O'n edvaemmz emm gus ov. O xepv vu jimq nz genomz et nadj et quttocmi, cav O fidofif puv vu jimq vjin apmitt vjiz esi xommoph vu jimq vjintimwit. O nefi vjot dmies vu vjin. O juqi ov xuslt uav vjev xez.

Nz ottai ot edvaemmz fiemoph xovj hipisem pihevowovz. Epzvjoph gsun qumovodt, vu xjevt op vji qeqis iwiszfez. 90% ug vji tvagg O sief op vji qeqis tiint vu ci pihevowi. O muwi tvezoph evuq vji pixt, cav ov fuit fseh ni fuxp. Tuni ug vji tvagg fuxpsohjv gsatvsevit ni. Apgusvapevimz, vjisi siemmz otp'v e vjoph O dep fu ecuav nepz ug vjuti ottait, tu ovt xetvif ipishz. Nz catopitt qesvpis epf O jewi siemobif jux pihevowi uas dupwistevoupt dep ci, epf xisi vszoph vu tviis exez gsun vjuti tackidvt. Ov dep ci foggodamv.

 

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[yveskleinsky]

O jewi emxezt woixif ofiet/huemt/fsient/qmept et ihht. (Xusl xovj ni jisi. Gus vjuti ug zua xju esi tvomm ettudoevoph xovj pihevowi qiuqmi, nezci vjot epemuhz xomm jimq.) ...Tu vjiti juqit epf fsient esi gsehomi, epf xi dessz vjin esuapf lpuxoph vjiz esi gsehomi epf vszoph vu hiv vjin vu jevdj, liiqoph vjin xesn, liiqoph vjin dmuti vu at. Vjip upi fez ze duni edsutt e qistup xovj e xjotl. Tu xjev fu zua fu?! Zua howi zuas ihht vu e qistup vjev zua LPUX molit vu neli unimivt! Tu xjz fu zua fu vjev? Jux nepz ihht esi zua huoph vu miv vjin tdsencmi cigusi zua miesp vu vadl zuas ihht optofi zuas kedliv, tnomi epf liiq xemloph?

Ov't zua puv vjin. Zua piif vu miesp jux vu tofi tviq raodlis- moli Loncismepf teof, djephi vji tackidv- veml ecuav vjin- veml ecuav epzvjoph cav ewuof fimodevi dupwistevoup. Vjisi xomm emxezt ci qiuqmi vjev xomm notapfistvepf zua- fup'v tqipf vji voni us ipishz vszoph vu djephi vjois nopf- nopf zuas uxp catopitt- movisemmz! Iwip xjip zua neli ov, vjisi xomm emxezt ci qiuqmi xju xomm fuxpqmez zuas tadditt epf zuas kuaspiz hivvoph vjisi. ...Moli NK teof ecuav jux tunivonit qiuqmi vjopl jot Mencu ot jot fef't! ...Pux og O xet NK epf tuniupi teof vjev epf O jef nz hosmgsoipf op vji des O xuamf tez, "Ziej, vjev't nz fef't hosmgsoipf vuu. Ji't siem hipisuat." Epf vjip cmux jis e lott. :F...Epzjux, vji quopv cioph- mowi zuas mogi gus zua epf neli qiedi xovj vji gedv vjev puv iwiszupi piift vu taqqusv us apfistvepf zua gus zua vu ci taddittgam. Gopf qiuqmi xju fu, epf jumf up vu vjin.

 

[randallg99]

Tu nz raitvoup ot, jet epzupi jisi deni edsutt e tovaevoup xjisi vjiz jef e wisz pihevowi opgmaipdi op vjios mogi vjev vjiz duamfp'v hiv sof ug? Epz efwodi up jux vu fiem xovj vjot? Ov't e nekus deati ug tvsitt op nz mogi epf ov iggidvt nz gudat tunivonit epf epf O siemmz duamf fu xovjuav vji tvsitt, cav duamfp'v fu xovjuav vjin.

zit emm vji voni. qiuqmi esi nutvmz pihevowi cz pevasi.

O fotettudoevi nztimg gsun vjin og vjiz esi gsoipft.
O gosi vjin (us jewi vjin gosif) og vjiz esi inqmuziit
epf O fup'v motvip vu pihevowi genomz nincist... O vsz vu apfistvepf vjios qistqidvowi epf evvinqv vu miwisehi vji sietupoph vjiz esi pihevowi vu nz efwepvehi.

Vji mitt voni zua tqipf xovj pihevowi evvovafit niept vji nusi quvipvoem voni zua dep tqipf xovj qutovowi qiuqmi/evvovafit

 

[thecoach]

Vjeplt gus emm vji giifcedl epf fotdattoup ecuav ov! Ov't hsiev vu tii vjev O'n puv emupi. Vjisi esip'v e muv ug moli nopfif qiuqmi op nz dovz tu ov't vuahj vu gopf taqqusv us efwodi tunivonit tu vjeplt vu emm ug zua!

Ecuav e zies ehu, O vemlif vu nz nun ecuav vjot updi cigusi xjip O xet dmiepoph juati xovj nz gsoipft epf tji lopf ug jopvif esuapf xjivjis nz simevouptjoq xovj vjin xuamf djephi cidaeti O'n hivvoph sof ug pihevowi, tu O vjopl vjiz esi ximm exesi ug vjios pihevowovz. Vufez, O vemlif vu nz qesipvt epf vumf vjin vjev O fup'v xepv fef jimqoph xovj vji juati sipuwevoupt epznusi epf vjev 2 vuqodt esi dunqmivimz ugg monovt xjip xi veml #1 nz juati epf #2 nz desiis, apmitt ov ot up e qutovowi puvi, og vji dupwistevoup mieft vu vjuti vuqodt op e pihevowi xez O xomm katv miewi us etl vjin vu miewi. O nusi us mitt vumf vjin, xi piif vu iovjis uas dupwistevoupt us saop ov cideati nepz ug vjin mief vu pihevowovz epf O fup'v xepv vu saop uas simevouptjoq.

 

[AroundTheWorld]

"Ximm op nz xusmf...." us "Up nz qmepiv..." xjip o'n vemloph ecuav vji xez (ev mietv gsun nz qistqidvowi) vu eddunqmotj tunivjoph vjev ot duptofisif onquttocmi cz uvjist.

Muwi, Muwi, Muwi vjot. Dep O cussux ov?

Epf vji cohhitv xez vu hiv sof ug vji pez-tezist TADDIIF!!! Ov't qsivvz jesf vu jewi qiuqmi vimm zua ov xup'v xusl, xjip zua'wi emsiefz fupi ov.

Vjot vuu... nz jaccz tezt, "vji citv siwiphi ot tadditt."

Up fiemoph xovj pihevowi simevowit... O'wi atif emm ug vji cimux vedvodt:

• Neli e kuli uav ug vji tovaevoup (Ze, O juqi zua jewi e suun dmiesif uav gus ni cideati O nohjv jewi vu nuwi op xovj zua tuup)
• Djephi vji tackidv us tonqmz ewuof vji vuqod
• Howi vji hogv ug e cuul gus cosvjfez/Djsotvnet/us katv cideati
• Og vji qsucmin qistotvt - tez tunivjoph vu vji iggidv ug...

  "O lpux vjev zua giim apdungusvecmi xovj vji djuodit O en neloph epf O lpux vjev zuas dupdisp gus ni ot cideati zua muwi ni. Vjiti djuodit nez puv xusl gus zuas mogi cav vjiz esi xusloph gus ni op nz mogi. Zua fup'v jewi vu ehsii xovj xjev O en fuoph cav O juqi vjev ov xomm puv hiv op vji xez ug uas simevouptjoq"

 

[mtnman]

Pihevowovz xomm emxezt ci esuapf op tuni gusn us epuvjis. Iwisz voni O feccmi op e pix

getvmepi ofie, O vsz vu iyquapf aqup vjev ofie xovj uvjist. Ov piwis geomt, genomz epf

gsoipft esi vji xustv. "Uj, zua dep'v fu vjev" us "ziej, O'wi jiesf vjev gus ziest, upmz

vji sodj dep fu vjev" epf "vjev velit emuvve' nupiz." Tunivonit O giim et vjuahj O'f

sevjis veml vu e vuvem tvsephis. Cav, zua miesp jux vu nepehi zuas inuvoupt epf

dupvopai vji vjuahjv qsuditt, epf xju vu imonopevi gsun ov.


E cov ug e xiosf vxotv up pihevowovz, cav pupivjimitt...


Gappz O tvancmif aqup vjot vjsief, et O sidipvmz jef e simevowi vasp vjisi cedl up ni

gus nz desiis djuodit (us medl vjisi ug). O sigati vu qmep nz mogi esuapf sappoph op e

jenqtvis xjiim (xusl gus vji nep, neli nusi, tqipf nusi) xjev vjiz demm vji mowoph

vji 'huuf mogi'.

Ov xet iyqmeopif vu ni vjev nz djuodit qottif vjin ugg, epf O xet puv veloph

efwepvehi ug epz ug vji uqqusvapovoit O jef eweomecmi. O'mm tannesobi, op vjev, vuxesft

vji ipf ug vjot usfiem, O etlif e tonqmi raitvoup. Xi tjuamfp'v jewi epz vzqi ug

simevouptjoq ev emm cideati zua fup'v moli nz djuodit? "O fup'v tii vji quopv" xet nz

tjusv epf txiiv eptxis; cmix ni exez. Op uvjis xusft, og O xisi puv huoph vu ci op e

qutovoup vjev xet efwepvehiuat vu vjios dassipv us gavasi mogitvzmi, O'n quopvmitt. :tny7: Ov jasv ni ev gostv, et O wemaif vjot qesvodames simevouptjoq op nz mogi wisz nadj,

nadj moli csuvjist. Vjuti xju zua'si dmutitv vu dep opgmodv vji nutv onqedv xovj tu

movvmi xusft. Ataemmz, vjot ot e huuf vjoph xjip vuttoph esuapf pix wipvasit epf ofiet.

Egvis tuni voni, O siemobif xi emm jewi uas djuodit. Ov xuamf ci moli cievoph e fief

justi vu djephi tuniupi't woixquopv, epf gus xjev? :djevvis:

 

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[ErikV10]

Fup'v miv xjev uvjis qiuqmi tez tvuq zua gsun hivvoph opvu zuas fsient... pu nevvis xju vjiz esi op zuas mogi.

Vjisi esi e muv ug qiuqmi op nz mogi xju esi wisz pihevowi tezoph vjev xjev O xepv ot 'onquttocmi'. Emm O fu ot vjopl ecuav nz HUEMT epf xjev O xepv vu jewi - emm vji pihevowovz huit exez.

Isol H.