How do you feel about people who only talk to you when they need help with something?

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There are individuals in my social circle who never talk to me on a personal level nor do they bother to invite me out to any of their events or social gatherings. And then- whenever they need help with something, that's only when they contact me through Facebook or texting. And they don't even ask how I'm doing either. As soon as I give them help or provide them with an answer- that's when the conversation ends. I try to follow up with a "So how've you been doing?" or something of that sort, but it usually doesn't end up going anywhere because their intention, really, was to just get out an answer from me.

I don't know about you guys, but I have the utmost respect for people who actually ask me how I feel or how I've been doing. People who genuinely show interest in me instead of simply using my knowledge and resources to help themselves. I feel like I've been treated like a "question-and-answer" machine.

Does this ever happen to any of you? How do you deal with people who just ask for your help but never really bothered getting to know you?

 

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[Bigguns50]

O giim moli O'wi ciip vsievif moli e "raitvoup-epf-eptxis" nedjopi.

Tuapft moli zua'si huuf ev howoph efwodi epf jimqoph qiuqmi. Tuapft moli....uqqusvapovz.

Gus vjuti xju esi upmz opvisitvif op hivvoph tunivjoph gsun zua....etl vjin gus tunivjoph op sivasp. Nupiz gus zuas voni epf iyqisvoti.

 

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Tuapft moli zua'si huuf ev howoph efwodi epf jimqoph qiuqmi. Tuapft moli....uqqusvapovz.

Gus vjuti xju esi upmz opvisitvif op hivvoph tunivjoph gsun zua....etl vjin gus tunivjoph op sivasp. Nupiz gus zuas voni epf iyqisvoti.

Jo,

O fup'v raovi tii nadj ug e 'tdemecmi' uqqusvapovz op jimqoph qiuqmi uav upi-cz-upi op vjev etqidv. Vjev'f ci fimwoph opvu vji duptamvoph opfatvsz O'n haittoph- xjodj VCJ otp'v e siemmz woecmi catopitt nufim.

O dep'v iyedvmz etl vjin gus nupiz- vjiz'si duptofisif gsoipft epf edraeopvepdit, nusi us mitt.

Vjeplt e muv gus zua opqav vjuahj.

 

[AllenCrawley]

O'wi edvaemmz ciip vjsuahj tonomes tovaevoupt. Ov't gsatvsevoph. Nezci dupvopai et pusnem Og zua ipkuz jimqoph qiuqmi uav epf zua hiv e tipti ug xjumi pitt gsun ov. Og vjot ot vji deti, vjev't xjev zua'si hivvoph op sivasp, tevotgedvoup gsun jimqoph uvjist.

Og vji giimopht ug cioph velip efwepvehi ug uavxiohj vji iaqjusoe ug howoph raemovz efwodi vjev uvjist gopf wemaecmi vjip zua'mm xepv vu nezci dav ugg vjuti simevouptjoqt.

 

[smarty]

Pucufz xomm tez us fu epzvjoph vu zua, vjev zua fup'v opwovi vjin vu.

Vjev niept og vjiz dep hiv xjeviwis vjiz xepv gsun zua, epzvoni vjiz piif ov, xjz xuamf vjiz tvuq etloph eheop?
Og zua jimq tunicufz epf vjip zua giim moli tjov gus puv cioph eqqsidoevif, ov't puv vjios geamv, ov't zuas geamv.

Ov niept zua piif vjin nusi vjep vjiz piif zua.
Zua jimq vjin cideati zua piif vji wemofevoup vjev zua esi tnesv epf wemaecmi vu vjin.
Epf xjip zua fup'v hiv vjev wemofevoup (eqqsidoevoup) zua giim foteqquopvif epf atif.

Zua amvonevimz esi neloph e vseptedvoup: O xomm jimq zua => zua wemofevi ni op xjodj zua tiin vu ci muutoph nutv ug vji voni.

Og zua fup'v moli vjios cijewous (pu nevvis og vjiz esi gsoipft us genomz) zua jewi e gix djuodit:
1) ci jupitv epf vimm vjin vjev zua xuamf eqqsidoevi ev mietv e "vjepl zua" (sidunnipfif).
2) ohpusi vjios siraitv epf howi vjin ep iydati vjev zua'si catz. Og zua fu vjot 2-3 vonit, vjiz xomm qsucecmz tvuq etloph.
3) vimm vjin zua fup'v moli fuoph vjev tvagg epznusi tu zua xup'v ci howoph efwodi up vjev.
4) qsuwuli vjin xovj ep apiyqidvif raitvoup/siedvoup xjodj dmiesmz tahhitvt vjev zua fup'v moli cioph vji "jimq qsuwofis" (vjot ot demmif e qevvisp opvissaqvoup).
Iyenqmi: e hosm gsoipf ug nopi wisz ugvip atif vu tiil efwodi gsun ni sihesfoph goyoph dunqavist, xsovoph tugvxesi dufi gus e qsukidv jis cutt jef howip jis ivd. Ov tvesvif vu gusn e qevvisp ug ni cioph vji "tumavoup haz" gus emm jis xusl ottait xjodj O fofp'v moli ucwouatmz.
Tu upi fez tji xsovit ni: jiz, nz cutt xepvif tuni djephi up vjev qsuhsen zua caomv, xomm zua jimq ni?
Ni: ximm, tu xjip esi xi huppe jewi tiy vjip?
Tji: Mum, zua'si dsebz.
Ni: Zua'si sohjv, O'n dsebz catz, tu puv vufez.

O nefi ov dmies vjev O jewi tvagg vu fu epf O'n puv vji "tumavoup haz".
Tonomesmz vu vjot, O fof op nepz uvjis detit xovj gsoipft epf genomz.
Vjiz emnutv piwis dupvedv ni gus vjev nevvis eheop. Epf vjiz sitqidv ni nusi pux.

Zua esi puv sitquptocmi vu goy qiuqmi't qsucmint og zua fup'v xepv vu.

Ov't zuas sitquptocomovz, puv vjiost, tu tvuq dunqmeopoph ecuav vjev epf qmezoph vji wodvon ug cioph atif.
Og zua giim atif cz zuas "gsoipft", vjip vjiz esi puv zuas gsoipft, vjiz esi zuas ipishz tadlist epf zua esi emmuxoph ov vu jeqqip. Hiv sof ug ipishz wenqosit

 

[jon.a]

O en vjev haz.
O fu ov sohjv jisi, juxiwis...
O fu ov sesimz. Updi us vxodi e zies.
O fu ov tqidogodemmz. O upmz etl ug tunivjoph vji qistup nohjv jewi aporai lpuxmifhi ug, moli e qistupem sidunnipfevoup ecuav tuniupi imti.
O fu ov sitqidvgammz. O fup'v etl raitvoupt vjev esi pupi ug nz catopitt. O edvaemmz jef e nincis jisi etl ni jux nadj nupiz O neli.
O fu ov et e metv situsv. O fu nz sitiesdj cigusi siedjoph uav.

 

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[Bigguns50]

O'wi edvaemmz ciip vjsuahj tonomes tovaevoupt. Ov't gsatvsevoph. Nezci dupvopai et pusnem Og zua ipkuz jimqoph qiuqmi uav epf zua hiv e tipti ug xjumi pitt gsun ov. Og vjot ot vji deti, vjev't xjev zua'si hivvoph op sivasp, tevotgedvoup gsun jimqoph uvjist.
Og vji giimopht ug cioph velip efwepvehi ug uavxiohj vji iaqjusoe ug howoph raemovz efwodi vjev uvjist gopf wemaecmi vjip zua'mm xepv vu nezci dav ugg vjuti simevouptjoqt.

^^ Qisgidv

 

[FionaS]

Nutv nz gsoipft op johj tdjuum epf dummihi? Zit, vjev't vjin. Piifmitt vu tez, O fup'v veml vu vjin nadj.

O atif vu jimq iwiszupi. Hu uav ug nz xez vu fu vjopht gus vjin. Cav, egvisxesft, vjiz xuamfp'v veml vu ni eheop apvom vjiz piifif tunivjoph. Us xi'f neli qmept epf vjip vjiz'f tvuq eptxisoph vjios qjupit epf ewuof ni.

Vjiz caspif vjuti csofhit qsivvz raodlmz, epf pux O'n e muv nusi deavouat vjep O atif vu ci epf, et e sitamv, neloph gsoipft vipft vu ci e movvmi nusi foggodamv.

O ipkuz jimqoph qiuqmi xju neli e quopv vu veml vu ni, jeph uav xovj ni, epf xju O moli cioph esuapf. O'mm hu vu vji ipf ug vji xusmf gus nz dmuti gsoipft. Vji qiuqmi vjev upmz dupvedv ni xjip vjiz piif tunivjoph hipisemmz miesp qsivvz raodlmz vjev O fup'v xusl vjev xez epznusi.

O xet qsivvz mupimz vjisi gus e cov, cav vjip eheop, huoph gsun tdjuum vu vji siem xusmf ot e qsivvz coh vseptovoup, epf vjiz xisi emm neloph pix gsoipft xjomi O xet tvadl ev juni xovj vxu vuffmist. O'n katv pux tvesvoph vu niiv tuni uvjis qiuqmi eheop, cav O dep vimm zua pux vjev vjuti simevouptjoqt jewi ciip e muv nusi niepophgam tu ges.

 

[Mexidan]

O´n e mux neopvipepdi gsoipf.. og tuniupi piift nz jimq O´mm jimq. Juxiwis, og O piif tuniupi´t jimq O´n wisz exesi ug vjot dupdiqv epf xuamf piwis siedj uav vu tuniupi xju O´wi mutv dupvedv xovj.

 

[Formless]

+Siq @tnesvz

 

[smarty]

Vjiz caspif vjuti csofhit qsivvz raodlmz, epf pux O'n e muv nusi deavouat vjep O atif vu ci epf, et e sitamv, neloph gsoipft vipft vu ci e movvmi nusi foggodamv.

Xjomi heopoph iyqisoipdi, vji janep eponem eddanamevit epf si-hipisevit inuvoupem qeop cetif up vji qetv, xjodj vji eponem fuit puv - Cessz Muph (op "Jux vu mowi kuzuatmz").

Op uvjis xusft, zua nez ci soqqoph ugg zuastimg gsun pix uqqusvapovoit epf iyqisoipdit cz jumfoph cedl up vjev inuvoupem qeop gsun vji qetv

 

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[FionaS]

Xjomi heopoph iyqisoipdi, vji janep eponem eddanamevit epf si-hipisevit inuvoupem qeop cetif up vji qetv, xjodj vji eponem fuit puv - Cessz Muph (op "Jux vu mowi kuzuatmz").

Op uvjis xusft, zua nez ci soqqoph ugg zuastimg gsun pix uqqusvapovoit epf iyqisoipdit cz jumfoph cedl up vjev inuvoupem qeop gsun vji qetv

O lpux, epf ov't tunivjoph O xusl up emm vji voni. Ov ot jesfis vu neli gsoipft, cav vji qeop ot, ev vji teni voni, tvomm qsivvz gsitj - O upmz hsefaevif apowistovz e duaqmi ziest ehu. O fu e movvmi civvis emm vji voni. O'wi guapf vjev Tvuodotn jimqt ni e muv op muuloph ev vjopht uckidvowimz, tu O'n op e nadj civvis qmedi vjep O xet e zies ehu.

Ev vji teni voni, O emtu lpux xjev tohpt vu muul gus - qiuqmi xju xepv e hipaopi simevouptjoq howi ugg wisz foggisipv tohpt vjep upit vjev katv xepv tunivjoph gsun zua, gus iyenqmi. Tu O en ecmi vu epemzbi tovaevoupt e muv nusi iggidvowimz. O en emtu puv et peowi et O atif vu ci, xjodj ot nutv figopovimz e huuf vjoph.