LaVanesse_23
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@MJ DeMarco
Hi MJ,
I'm Vanessa from Mauritius.(Please excuse me if my English is not perfect) 24years old. Worker (or should I say Trading my 5 for 2!), Mom of a cute 1 and a half yo boy and happily married.
Well first of all, I'd like to say something about your profile picture: I thought it was a picture of you.
But then, when I was searching for your content on YT, I found your videos and I was like "Man! Such a gorgeous, handsome, superb millionnaire sitting ALONE in this huge mansion with that beautiful mountain view behind him."
Why did you choose that profile picture? (I have nothing for or against it) but just wanted to know, what does it represent/mean?
Now let's get back to what I intended to write here.
In 2017, around July, I discovered that my life sucked: lost all my friends, just had my son, was still living in that single room where I sleep, cook, eat, look after my son, my relationship with my husband was going nowhere great, had no meaningful goal in life, felt like shit, hated my job even more because it eats up most of my resources(time, energy, attention). I started feeling very Depressed.
That's when I discovered The Secret ,Vishen Lakhiani and his company Mindvalley.
(He could be qualified as a self-development guru because he sells courses, quests and other online programmes about Self-Development.)
Since then, I got an awakening. Suddenly, what felt normal to me became a realization like fish becomes aware of water. That was my awakening.
I started reading that guy Vishen's book The Code of The Extraordinary Mind, in which I got to discover how I "operate", what is a belief system and that I have one, my values, my perceptions,...
Mostly, what the book teaches is that we've been indoctrinated with Brules(Bullsh*t Rules) that truncate our experience of life(our reality)
I also discovered my Purpose and I'm on that journey to making my purpose my reality.
Long story short, my life has been changing. I've become accountable: when I could identify my patterns of behaviour through past experiences, I could change my reactions to new situations and change my perceptions. Life is is no more a routine to me.
Also,I was very religious before. Wherever there would be talks about Jesus, I would be there. As a Faithful Follower of the Christ. Jesus was My Spouse. I viewed millionaires as greedy sinners who would burn in hell (Money is the root of all evil. Who wants evil?) and I was praying for God to forgive them. I viewed bad experiences as God testing my Faith. I even was guilty when I started dating with my husband because to me, it felt like I was cheating on Jesus!!! My highest goal in life until then was to be a nun.
Now that I think of it again, all this did not make me a better, kinder, happier, more fulfilled person. I never even had breakthroughs. I don't remember myself having A-ha moments and learning to live a whole new way: MY WAY.
Because I had rules to follow from that big book because everyone was following it. Moreover, I thought I had no chance in life because I've been told that I'm a sinner. My fault: I was believing and following all this blindly. I did not question any of the system, until I read that book.
From that point, I also realized that I have the right(it's my birthright) to be happy and to be living my life the way I want it. That there's nothing wrong in having tons of money and driving sports car.
Infact, that book helped me to redefine every aspect of my life(from what I eat, to my parenting, to my financial life, my social life, adventures, why and how I pray God(and is He really as the others claim), how I deal with my emotions, my environment, how I love, make love and how I view my self ).
I learnt that I could redesign how I wanted these to be. I've been re-building my life and myself ever since.
I have to admit that I subscribed for a 30-days free trial and absorbed as much content from the Teachers featured in the programmes. Then, on 29th day, I cancelled my subscription.
But from what I learnt and applied, some helped me change my life.
This was not some Self-Help garbage but rather a Disrupting Book whereby the author would be encouraging me to re-question everything and do things my way. It's not a Fix-It book or a 'Here's-what-you-should-do' book but rather a 'Oh you got a lot of sh*t going on in your life, let's see the roots of it!'(Breaking everything into pieces to see where it went wrong) That took me a lot of time nut was so necessary.
Then, I got to hear about your books: MFL and Unscripted . And I haven't yet finished reading the MFL.
TMFL made me re-question what I'm doing with my money, for what reasons and how it affects my Quality of Life.
In some situations, I am a Sidewalker while in others I'm a Slowlaner. But either ways, I'm trying to get to Fastlane.
What I did not know was that it takes effort and process (not time, but still there is a price to pay) to get there. I am really taking time to absorb the information and re-question my ways towards life.
I even had to re-read some paragraphs and some chapters because the content was unbelievably honest and true. But still I had difficulties to grab the information and even to picture myself in the Fastlane.
But here is where it gets even more confusing, you said to not believe in Gurus and what they proclaim as they are just attempting at making money. And I do recognize that there are many liars doing this.
However, from my experience with that Disrupting Book, I am a firm believer in Personal Growth necessary for Business Growth.)
Can I conceal Entrepreneurship and Self-Development? What about The Secret?
I have to admit that if I had not read that DB, I would still be saying that your book is one of Satan's malicious tricks to tempt us, Daughters and Sons of God. And that you must have signed a pact with the Devil(selling your soul) to get all your wealth. I wouldn't even open your book, then!
I also have to say that I no more follow him and what he's doing. I'm not part of the Mindvalley Tribe and never attended any of his events. I have become an Implementer: I have a rule that if I learn something new that can improve an area of my life, I implement it for 20days to see the difference, then decide to keep it or drop it!
I also notice that whatever guru, system, government or business that exists, their success is due to their ability of "capturing" or "trapping" our faith. When we believe in what they are offering: even if it's an illusion. (Am I right here?)
So, please can you clarify on this confusion that I'm having? How to get over it? What is wrong in my perception? How should I then view these concepts?
Feel free to correct me wherever I am wrong. This will help me. Be blunt if need be.
To be honest, I love the fact that you address yourself to us readers in that blunt way!
Hi MJ,
I'm Vanessa from Mauritius.(Please excuse me if my English is not perfect) 24years old. Worker (or should I say Trading my 5 for 2!), Mom of a cute 1 and a half yo boy and happily married.
Well first of all, I'd like to say something about your profile picture: I thought it was a picture of you.
But then, when I was searching for your content on YT, I found your videos and I was like "Man! Such a gorgeous, handsome, superb millionnaire sitting ALONE in this huge mansion with that beautiful mountain view behind him."
Why did you choose that profile picture? (I have nothing for or against it) but just wanted to know, what does it represent/mean?
Now let's get back to what I intended to write here.
In 2017, around July, I discovered that my life sucked: lost all my friends, just had my son, was still living in that single room where I sleep, cook, eat, look after my son, my relationship with my husband was going nowhere great, had no meaningful goal in life, felt like shit, hated my job even more because it eats up most of my resources(time, energy, attention). I started feeling very Depressed.
That's when I discovered The Secret ,Vishen Lakhiani and his company Mindvalley.
(He could be qualified as a self-development guru because he sells courses, quests and other online programmes about Self-Development.)
Since then, I got an awakening. Suddenly, what felt normal to me became a realization like fish becomes aware of water. That was my awakening.
I started reading that guy Vishen's book The Code of The Extraordinary Mind, in which I got to discover how I "operate", what is a belief system and that I have one, my values, my perceptions,...
Mostly, what the book teaches is that we've been indoctrinated with Brules(Bullsh*t Rules) that truncate our experience of life(our reality)
I also discovered my Purpose and I'm on that journey to making my purpose my reality.
Long story short, my life has been changing. I've become accountable: when I could identify my patterns of behaviour through past experiences, I could change my reactions to new situations and change my perceptions. Life is is no more a routine to me.
Also,I was very religious before. Wherever there would be talks about Jesus, I would be there. As a Faithful Follower of the Christ. Jesus was My Spouse. I viewed millionaires as greedy sinners who would burn in hell (Money is the root of all evil. Who wants evil?) and I was praying for God to forgive them. I viewed bad experiences as God testing my Faith. I even was guilty when I started dating with my husband because to me, it felt like I was cheating on Jesus!!! My highest goal in life until then was to be a nun.
Now that I think of it again, all this did not make me a better, kinder, happier, more fulfilled person. I never even had breakthroughs. I don't remember myself having A-ha moments and learning to live a whole new way: MY WAY.
Because I had rules to follow from that big book because everyone was following it. Moreover, I thought I had no chance in life because I've been told that I'm a sinner. My fault: I was believing and following all this blindly. I did not question any of the system, until I read that book.
From that point, I also realized that I have the right(it's my birthright) to be happy and to be living my life the way I want it. That there's nothing wrong in having tons of money and driving sports car.
Infact, that book helped me to redefine every aspect of my life(from what I eat, to my parenting, to my financial life, my social life, adventures, why and how I pray God(and is He really as the others claim), how I deal with my emotions, my environment, how I love, make love and how I view my self ).
I learnt that I could redesign how I wanted these to be. I've been re-building my life and myself ever since.
I have to admit that I subscribed for a 30-days free trial and absorbed as much content from the Teachers featured in the programmes. Then, on 29th day, I cancelled my subscription.
But from what I learnt and applied, some helped me change my life.
This was not some Self-Help garbage but rather a Disrupting Book whereby the author would be encouraging me to re-question everything and do things my way. It's not a Fix-It book or a 'Here's-what-you-should-do' book but rather a 'Oh you got a lot of sh*t going on in your life, let's see the roots of it!'(Breaking everything into pieces to see where it went wrong) That took me a lot of time nut was so necessary.
Then, I got to hear about your books: MFL and Unscripted . And I haven't yet finished reading the MFL.
TMFL made me re-question what I'm doing with my money, for what reasons and how it affects my Quality of Life.
In some situations, I am a Sidewalker while in others I'm a Slowlaner. But either ways, I'm trying to get to Fastlane.
What I did not know was that it takes effort and process (not time, but still there is a price to pay) to get there. I am really taking time to absorb the information and re-question my ways towards life.
I even had to re-read some paragraphs and some chapters because the content was unbelievably honest and true. But still I had difficulties to grab the information and even to picture myself in the Fastlane.
But here is where it gets even more confusing, you said to not believe in Gurus and what they proclaim as they are just attempting at making money. And I do recognize that there are many liars doing this.
However, from my experience with that Disrupting Book, I am a firm believer in Personal Growth necessary for Business Growth.)
Can I conceal Entrepreneurship and Self-Development? What about The Secret?
I have to admit that if I had not read that DB, I would still be saying that your book is one of Satan's malicious tricks to tempt us, Daughters and Sons of God. And that you must have signed a pact with the Devil(selling your soul) to get all your wealth. I wouldn't even open your book, then!
I also have to say that I no more follow him and what he's doing. I'm not part of the Mindvalley Tribe and never attended any of his events. I have become an Implementer: I have a rule that if I learn something new that can improve an area of my life, I implement it for 20days to see the difference, then decide to keep it or drop it!
I also notice that whatever guru, system, government or business that exists, their success is due to their ability of "capturing" or "trapping" our faith. When we believe in what they are offering: even if it's an illusion. (Am I right here?)
So, please can you clarify on this confusion that I'm having? How to get over it? What is wrong in my perception? How should I then view these concepts?
Feel free to correct me wherever I am wrong. This will help me. Be blunt if need be.
To be honest, I love the fact that you address yourself to us readers in that blunt way!
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