Dealing with significant other who has bad money habits

[Lights]

I have a boyfriend who goes out and foolishly wastes his money, and every time I see that happening it's like a dull butter knife giving me a stigmata. Anyways, for example he would go out a few times a week to buy groceries, the same type too, and the groceries he purchases are usually expensive and not-sales item, like small jars of peanut butter for $4... buying bread repeatedly... taking too many trips to the stores. I tell him one item is better to buy because it's cheaper in bulk and I know he likes it. He's like, "I'm not going back" this was at the cash register line.

Then I see him buying worthless crap like a $110 plastic banana tree, seriously, I was like, "That's money that we're not going to feel comfortable for next week".

Seriously, when it starts affecting my plans then it's a problem, siince I had to purchase $40 of groceries even though I know we spent like over $200 in one month. I wasn't hungry though, he's just a guy who eats a lot of crap.

He receives money for being disabled/police officer pensions from retirement. It's a little less than 30 k a year.

 

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[77startup]

Lol... so let me get this straight. You have no skills, no degree and no job and and The "boyfriend" you proudly proclaim to be using for the sole purpose of leeching off his disability check is affecting your plans by spending his money?

You are one messed up women.

 

[yveskleinsky]

Seems to me that buying a plastic banana tree is one of the better financial decisions this guy is making.

 

[Lights]

Lol... so let me get this straight. You have no skills, no degree and no job and and The "boyfriend" you proudly proclaim to be using for the sole purpose of leeching off his disability check is affecting your plans by spending his money?

You are one messed up women.

I have a job, and I'm in college.

 

[77startup]

^

Do you have some type of mental disorder or something? I ask because you don't make any sense from what I've read. It's like you just fart out thoughts and post them as they come by without thinking about what you're trying to say.

You aren't an entrepreneur, you aren't bringing value to other people, and you have a completely unjustified sense of entitlement. Does being here just make you feel like you are part of the successful group or do you just want attention so you can feel important?

 

[wade1mil]

"Omg he's so ugly, can't I do better than this?"

No, but he could.

 

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[Lights]

Do you have some type of mental disorder or something? I ask because you don't make any sense from what I've read. It's like you just fart out thoughts and post them as they come by without thinking about what you're trying to say.

You aren't trying to be an entrepreneur, you aren't trying to bring value to other people, and you're clearly a sidewalker so just why are you here? Does being here just make you feel like you are part of the successful group or something? Do you just want attention so you can feel important?

Well I'm working on fastlane plans, but I'm working/doing college until I have succeeded to drop them. I believe keep what you have until you don't need it anymore. When I'm making more than 10-20 k a month, then I believe I should quit my college degree. When I don't need it, then I'll drop them. I use the slowlane to help me until I get going.

So no, I belong here, if you don't like what I say then ignore me. You can do that you know.

 

[77startup]

Well I'm working on fastlane plans, but I'm working/doing college until I have succeeded to drop them. I believe keep what you have until you don't need it anymore. When I don't need it, then I'll drop them. I use the slowlane to help me until I get going, but I wouldn't be here for no reason.

Definitely not, I'm here to make millions in my life.

Well what about the babble fish? You can't make millions without failed and finding 10,000 ways that won’t work . You need to drop them when you don't need it, but the only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary. I'm kinda like "lol of course the dictionary he most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said". If everything seems under control, you’re just not going fast enough.

 

[Bozigian]

I dont understand you lights

You will drop out of college when you start making 10-20k a month?

What if that 10-20k business or whatever you call it stops?

@77startup, you should probably stay off this thread. Your only going to get mad and waste your time. I know because of my past experiences with her

 

[Lights]

Well what about the babble fish? You can't make millions without failed and finding 10,000 ways that won’t work . You need to drop them when you don't need it, but the only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary. I'm kinda like "lol of course the dictionary he most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said". If everything seems under control, you’re just not going fast enough.

I'm not working fast enough.

I know my faults.

 

[Lights]

I dont understand you lights

You will drop out of college when you start making 10-20k a month?

What if that 10-20k business or whatever you call it stops?

@77startup, you should probably stay off this thread. Your only going to get mad and waste your time. I know because of my past experiences with her

Then I'll have savings, and start over. Starting over is easy. I have to have that experience first to talk about it though... but I believe dropping college when you are in the height of success like Bill Gates dropping out when he figured he needed to was wise.

 

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[Bozigian]

So what if your boyfriend dumps you, you gonna have money to keep yourself up?

 

[Lights]

So what if your boyfriend dumps you, you gonna have money to keep yourself up?

yeah, I have at least 4k and gold to afford cheap rent.

 

[Bozigian]

Do you really want the answer to that? Not that, I care about answering this question,

Haha, you answered this question with paragraphs.
Well in my eyes, you are playing dirty in the game of life.

I hope you at least use protection whenever you have intimacy with someone.
I can see why many people despise you, you are just like my sister but she is worse.

I think in the near future, you will aqcuire the "stalker/wrong guy" whom you meet and sleep with. Ultimately its bound to happen whether it is a druggie or insane person.

I know how girls are, where I live girls have absolutely no morals or respect for themselves. I know their little games and tricks that they try to use on boys.

But what do you have to say for yourself, knowing that you leech off boys' money?
I mean are you really successful if you are leeching off other peoples money?

BTW, how old are you and how did you grow up?

 

[Georgian]

Ultimately everyone is responsible for learning their own lessons. The boyfriend obviously has to learn about women, if it weren't Lights it would be someone else that he had to learn from, it's simple as that.

Though the real lesson he has to learn is not about women, but about himself. He knows (on some level, "deep inside" as they say) he's living a fake romance. He just doesn't want to accept it (yet). So the lesson he needs to learn is to GET THE F REAL, as in, connect to reality (he's "disconnected" now). Probably feels "lucky" and "happy", which only shows he doesn't know what either of the two really means or feels like.

 

[Lights]

Haha, you answered this question with paragraphs.
Well in my eyes, you are playing dirty in the game of life.

I hope you at least use protection whenever you have intimacy with someone.
I can see why many people despise you, you are just like my sister but she is worse.

I think in the near future, you will aqcuire the "stalker/wrong guy" whom you meet and sleep with. Ultimately its bound to happen whether it is a druggie or insane person.

I know how girls are, where I live girls have absolutely no morals or respect for themselves. I know their little games and tricks that they try to use on boys.

But what do you have to say for yourself, knowing that you leech off boys' money?
I mean are you really successful if you are leeching off other peoples money?

BTW, how old are you and how did you grow up?

Are you trying to understand my psychology? Lol, well I did modify my comment but you read it, and that's all that matters.

Well I grew up pretty normal, and by most people I am normal again. That was a crazy month out of normalcy.

If you want detail answers contact me by private messages or ask for my email lol.

 

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[cashflow3000]

I have a boyfriend who goes out and foolishly wastes his money... when it starts affecting my plans then it's a problem...

Hey Lights -

This is a problem because you are "pooling" your funds.

You have your own money, goals, plans, and needs.

He has his own money too. Let him use his money to buy whatever he wants.

Keep your funds separate and don't feed him.

Good luck!

 

[Kak]

Well I'm working on fastlane plans, but I'm working/doing college until I have succeeded to drop them. I believe keep what you have until you don't need it anymore. When I'm making more than 10-20 k a month, then I believe I should quit my college degree. When I don't need it, then I'll drop them. I use the slowlane to help me until I get going.

So no, I belong here, if you don't like what I say then ignore me. You can do that you know.

Hitting graduation day at college is not going to unleash some magic money making machine that you previously didn't have. It is the typical slowlane mentality. If you are going to do it, do it because the credibility would somehow help your business or networking.