Folks -- I need some advice here...
ATW's "Rant" post hit a nerve with me in one of the other forums, so I decided to solicit the forum for advice here regarding a personal finance matter that is plaguing me currently.
I'm having trouble dealing with my ex with regards to money matters. I currently pay full child support to her each month, as we split the custody of the kids about 60/40.
Something that is pretty typical of the situation happened recently, and the kids needed about $1500 of dental work. Of course I paid it, because I don't want my kids walking around with rotten teeth -- and when I asked the ex to kick in her half, it was her usual reply -- "Well you know I don't have any money... I don't even have a job... where is the money supposed to come from? How am I supposed to pay? Am I even obligated to pay you half? You make more money than I do -- so you should have to pay!"
What do you do in this situation? Sucking it up, and letting it roll off of my back is getting pretty old fast.... FYI -- my current girlfriend, who lives with the kids & I -- Keeps telling me that I'm being a doormat, and I need to stand up to the ex and just start garnishing her child support checks for the money that she owes me (Which I don't even know if that's legal... But her point is that I need to get tough... If I reduce my monthly payment, I can almost guarentee that she'll be unable to pay her rent, and her & the kids will have to move back in with her parents... )
I live my life very responsibly, and cut back & save so that I can afford the things the kids need. We hardly ever eat out, go out, etc anymore -- Whereas it seems like the ex is eating out quite often, and is shopping atleast twice a week. Of course her boyfriend is a dirtbag who lives with her, makes a small income - but doesn't contribute any rent. Must be nice to live off my child support checks, right? -- My point is... it seems like she has money for the things that are important to her, and the kids medical bills are not a priority for her!?
Give me some advice here folks... What do you do with an ex who expects you to pay 100% of the kids incidentals, simply because she's unwilling to work and carry her share of the load?
- Hakrjak
ATW's "Rant" post hit a nerve with me in one of the other forums, so I decided to solicit the forum for advice here regarding a personal finance matter that is plaguing me currently.
I'm having trouble dealing with my ex with regards to money matters. I currently pay full child support to her each month, as we split the custody of the kids about 60/40.
Something that is pretty typical of the situation happened recently, and the kids needed about $1500 of dental work. Of course I paid it, because I don't want my kids walking around with rotten teeth -- and when I asked the ex to kick in her half, it was her usual reply -- "Well you know I don't have any money... I don't even have a job... where is the money supposed to come from? How am I supposed to pay? Am I even obligated to pay you half? You make more money than I do -- so you should have to pay!"
What do you do in this situation? Sucking it up, and letting it roll off of my back is getting pretty old fast.... FYI -- my current girlfriend, who lives with the kids & I -- Keeps telling me that I'm being a doormat, and I need to stand up to the ex and just start garnishing her child support checks for the money that she owes me (Which I don't even know if that's legal... But her point is that I need to get tough... If I reduce my monthly payment, I can almost guarentee that she'll be unable to pay her rent, and her & the kids will have to move back in with her parents... )
I live my life very responsibly, and cut back & save so that I can afford the things the kids need. We hardly ever eat out, go out, etc anymore -- Whereas it seems like the ex is eating out quite often, and is shopping atleast twice a week. Of course her boyfriend is a dirtbag who lives with her, makes a small income - but doesn't contribute any rent. Must be nice to live off my child support checks, right? -- My point is... it seems like she has money for the things that are important to her, and the kids medical bills are not a priority for her!?
Give me some advice here folks... What do you do with an ex who expects you to pay 100% of the kids incidentals, simply because she's unwilling to work and carry her share of the load?
- Hakrjak
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