To "socially groom oneself into the elite" isn't necessary for an unscripted person to do philanthropic work. Working class folk such as my parents were had more class than any one I ever met from a so called higher class. Manners maketh the man. Money is handy to have to say no to social pressure and live how you wish.
Where one gives respect - one gets respect. If you've ever read THICK FACE - BLACK HEART.... you'll know that "elite" is already within you.