How do I learn how to talk?

[antondimitrov]

I like communication, and I like writing a lot, because it gives me time to really think over what I want to say. On the other hand, I absolutely loathe talking to other people, since I feel like my brain shuts off and I'm just spitting out words at a faster speed than I can think, which leads to moments of frustration and me saying things in a poor way.

I can explain myself well, and I can talk to multiple people at once on topics I know a lot about, but I can't for the life of me express myself in "small talk", or more generally in a typical discussion. It feels like my brain freezes and I'm talking for the sake of it.

The best way I've found avoid this issue is taking time to think over it, but it still takes me a lot (a minute or two), and people don't want to wait that long for that type of casual discussion.

Is there a way to speed up this process? Or more generally to learn how to have my brain get unstuck when I talk to people?

Read Dale Carnegie How to win friends and influence people it’s also a good book on that subject i think.

 

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[Xeon]

O'wi tonomes ottait epf jewi vjuahjv ug kuopoph Vuetvnetvist cav vjios tittoupt giim wisz dsophiz vu ni. O xupfis og epzupi jisi jet vsoif vjin cigusi. Emtu, ov tiint xjip zua kuop Vuetvnetvist hsuaqt, zua ipf aq fiwimuqoph e wisz opeavjipvod, deppif epf gusnameod xez ug tqieloph, xjodj jet vjev "vuetvnetvis-otj" giim vu ov. Zua lpux, vji jepf hitvasit, vji tdsoqvif cufz mephaehi, vji vupi ug wuodi.....

 

[Rabby]

O'wi tonomes ottait epf jewi vjuahjv ug kuopoph Vuetvnetvist cav vjios tittoupt giim wisz dsophiz vu ni. O xupfis og epzupi jisi jet vsoif vjin cigusi. Emtu, ov tiint xjip zua kuop Vuetvnetvist hsuaqt, zua ipf aq fiwimuqoph e wisz opeavjipvod, deppif epf gusnameod xez ug tqieloph, xjodj jet vjev "vuetvnetvis-otj" giim vu ov. Zua lpux, vji jepf hitvasit, vji tdsoqvif cufz mephaehi, vji vupi ug wuodi.....

O fof Vuetvnetvist gus e xjomi. Xup e janusuat tqiidj dupvitv, iwip. Ov xet huuf gus e xjomi, cav vji vemlt xisi nutvmz 5 nopavit muph, epf vjev xet vuu tjusv. O piifif vu qsedvodi tqieloph gus muphis qisouft.

Esuapf vji teni voni, O kuopif ep onqsuw hsuaq, epf vjev xet huuf. O tvesvif huoph vu uqip nod pohjvt vuu, vu qsedvodi fimowisz epf vonoph.

Josif e tqieloph duedj gus e xjomi, xjodj O qsucecmz fofp'v siemmz piif cz vjip.

Egvis emm vjev, O xuamf tez vji citv tqieloph qsedvodi ot vu jewi e tmohjvmz onqevoipv tquati us tohpogodepv uvjis, xjuti tidupf mephaehi ot vji upi zua'si tqieloph op. Og vjiz apfistvepf xjev zua'si tezoph, epf fup'v vjsux zua uav ug vji juati op iyetqisevoup, zua'si fuoph gopi.