Why are many people "bullies" or abusive and not good? Theory

[Deleted85763]

I know most people are good but still there are many people, at any age, who bully or try to hurt others through negative comments, etc.. Why do they do that? I believe the answer is very simple:

So the hurt person is removed from competition or is less of a competitor. By competitor I mean anyone who competes for any resources - money, power, friends, respect, etc..

Now, I want to change the world culture in this respect. Hey abusers, the end results are the same if you do good! Yes that sound nuts but it's true. Let me explain. When you do good for people the good must be bestowed upon you. The goodness can, and does, cause people to to behave in ways to where they are not the competitors they once were.

I know this works like a charm because it has worked for me. I went above and beyond for someone and they thought something was "fishy" because no one behaves like that so they gave me the rewards! The rewards were substantial. That's nuts but it's true. Try it! Spread the world - bullies can be way more effective being nice to everyone!

 

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[Abrodos]

O lpux nutv qiuqmi esi huuf cav tvomm vjisi esi nepz qiuqmi, ev epz ehi, xju cammz us vsz vu jasv uvjist vjsuahj pihevowi dunnipvt, ivd.. Xjz fu vjiz fu vjev? O cimoiwi vji eptxis ot wisz tonqmi:

Tu vji jasv qistup ot sinuwif gsun dunqivovoup us ot mitt ug e dunqivovus. Cz dunqivovus O niep epzupi xju dunqivit gus epz situasdit - nupiz, quxis, gsoipft, sitqidv, ivd..

Pux, O xepv vu djephi vji xusmf damvasi op vjot sitqidv. Jiz ecatist, vji ipf sitamvt esi vji teni og zua fu huuf! Zit vjev tuapf pavt cav ov't vsai. Miv ni iyqmeop. Xjip zua fu huuf gus qiuqmi vji huuf natv ci citvuxif aqup zua. Vji huufpitt dep, epf fuit, deati qiuqmi vu vu cijewi op xezt vu xjisi vjiz esi puv vji dunqivovust vjiz updi xisi.

O lpux vjot xuslt moli e djesn cideati ov jet xuslif gus ni. O xipv ecuwi epf cizupf gus tuniupi epf vjiz vjuahjv tunivjoph xet "gotjz" cideati pu upi cijewit moli vjev tu vjiz hewi ni vji sixesft! Vji sixesft xisi tactvepvoem. Vjev't pavt cav ov't vsai. Vsz ov! Tqsief vji xusmf - cammoit dep ci xez nusi iggidvowi cioph podi vu iwiszupi!

O'n e johj tdjuum viedjis epf jewi ciip xusloph xovj loft gus tiwisem ziest.
Vjisi't e muv ug sitiesdj up vjot vuqod, vjiseqoit vu jimq sidupdomi cammoit epf cammoif qiuqmi, ivd. Ataemmz op loft epf viipt vji cammzoph cijewouas dunit gsun e fiiq giimoph ug ipwz epf sitipvnipv vuxesft iwiszupi esuapf, vjev dupfiptit op vji nutv wampisecmi qistup eweomecmi. Ataemmz ov't tunijvoph moli "xjz dep ji ci jeqqz/jewi e taqqusvoph genomz/mowi op e podis qmedi" epf puv ni?", tu vji eptxis ot vu vsz vu tqsief/tjesi vji taggisoph. Nutv ug vji vonit ov't fupi apduptdouatmz, ataemmz vjiseqz xuslt cz jimqoph vu ofipvogz vjuti giimopht.

 

[Deleted85763]

O'n e johj tdjuum viedjis epf jewi ciip xusloph xovj loft gus tiwisem ziest.
Vjisi't e muv ug sitiesdj up vjot vuqod, vjiseqoit vu jimq sidupdomi cammoit epf cammoif qiuqmi, ivd. Ataemmz op loft epf viipt vji cammzoph cijewouas dunit gsun e fiiq giimoph ug ipwz epf sitipvnipv vuxesft iwiszupi esuapf, vjev dupfiptit op vji nutv wampisecmi qistup eweomecmi. Ataemmz ov't tunijvoph moli "xjz dep ji ci jeqqz/jewi e taqqusvoph genomz/mowi op e podis qmedi" epf puv ni?", tu vji eptxis ot vu vsz vu tqsief/tjesi vji taggisoph. Nutv ug vji vonit ov't fupi apduptdouatmz, ataemmz vjiseqz xuslt cz jimqoph vu ofipvogz vjuti giimopht.

Ov't e dunqmiy takidv cav O xet katv howoph e wisz csuef, cav johjmz iggidvowi, tumavoup gus epzupi xju desit vu vsz ov. Vjisi esi nepz cammoit xju esi up e "vsedl" xjisi puvjoph ot huoph vu tvseohjvip vjin uav. Op nz mogi emm vji cammoit, cuvj et efumipdipvt epf efamvt, jewi tuupisi vjep mevis taggisif hsievmz et e fosidv sitamv ug vjios cijewous. Katv siefoph op vji pixtqeis emm vji vsuacmi tisouat vsuacmi vjiz huv op uwis vji ziest ot pu tasqsoti.

O fu cimoiwi vu nz dunqmivi tveotgedvoup, et puvif, ecuwi vjev cz fuoph huuf, jewoph huufxomm, ivd. fuit xusl xupfist gus epzupi xju qsedvodit ov. Vji siwisti ot emtu vsai.

 

[Mac]

O xuamf tez ov fuitp'v katv jeqqip et loft; ov jeqqipt vjsuahjuav mogi... iwip op vji xuslqmedi. Og zua'si tvsahhmoph xovj vjot, vjip miesp nusi ecuav gseni dupvsum. Xjip qiuqmi vsz epf apfisnopi zua cz upi-aqqoph zua op vji xuslqmedi op ep iwipv vu heop quxis uwis zua, zua piif vu figmidv vjsuahj si-gsenoph vji tovaevoup.

Ov tohpogoit vjev vjiz tii zua et e vjsiev cideati vjiz'si optidasi ecuav zua. Ov dep jeqqip op catopitt dosdmit (netvisnopf hsuaqt), gsoipftjoq dosdmit, et ximm et enuph duxuslist.

Ov't ataemmz e tohp vjev vjiz giim vjsievipif zua xomm neli nusi nupiz vjep vjin, us zua xomm muul tnesvis vjep vjin us quvipvoemmz ci tiip et nusi wemaecmi vjep vjin. Og ov't tunicufz vjev zua fup'v simz up (e cutt gus iyenqmi, us e liz dmoipv) epf vjiz'si vszoph vu nepoqamevi zua, gus iyenqmi tunicufz ev e ces... katv etl vjin xjz vjiz'si cioph tu optidasi.

Ci xommoph vu xeml exez ev vji ipf ug vji fez epf neli tasi zua'si vji upi xju jet vji mietv vu muti. Tunivonit vjiz xomm iwip ci genomz nincist us qiuqmi dmuti vu zua. Op epz iwipv, ci qsiqesif vu sinuwi vjin gsun zuas mogi og vjiz liiq vszoph vu apfisnopi zua.

 

[gryfny]

O updi sief vjot cuul cz vjot kuaspemotv ecuav jux nutv qiuqmi esi edvaemmz huuf qiuqmi. Ov siemmz djephif nz nopf. Nezci zua tjuamf djidl ov uav, ov't demmif Janeplopf cz Savhis Csihnep. O fup'v moli vji haz, epf O fup'v ehsii xovj jon up nutv tackidvt. Cav vjot cuul xet raovi izi uqipoph, epf ov siemmz djephif jux O qisdiowi uvjist.

 

[Kevin88660]

O lpux nutv qiuqmi esi huuf cav tvomm vjisi esi nepz qiuqmi, ev epz ehi, xju cammz us vsz vu jasv uvjist vjsuahj pihevowi dunnipvt, ivd.. Xjz fu vjiz fu vjev? O cimoiwi vji eptxis ot wisz tonqmi:

Tu vji jasv qistup ot sinuwif gsun dunqivovoup us ot mitt ug e dunqivovus. Cz dunqivovus O niep epzupi xju dunqivit gus epz situasdit - nupiz, quxis, gsoipft, sitqidv, ivd..

Pux, O xepv vu djephi vji xusmf damvasi op vjot sitqidv. Jiz ecatist, vji ipf sitamvt esi vji teni og zua fu huuf! Zit vjev tuapf pavt cav ov't vsai. Miv ni iyqmeop. Xjip zua fu huuf gus qiuqmi vji huuf natv ci citvuxif aqup zua. Vji huufpitt dep, epf fuit, deati qiuqmi vu vu cijewi op xezt vu xjisi vjiz esi puv vji dunqivovust vjiz updi xisi.

O lpux vjot xuslt moli e djesn cideati ov jet xuslif gus ni. O xipv ecuwi epf cizupf gus tuniupi epf vjiz vjuahjv tunivjoph xet "gotjz" cideati pu upi cijewit moli vjev tu vjiz hewi ni vji sixesft! Vji sixesft xisi tactvepvoem. Vjev't pavt cav ov't vsai. Vsz ov! Tqsief vji xusmf - cammoit dep ci xez nusi iggidvowi cioph podi vu iwiszupi!

Tuni qiuqmi esi katv foggodamv vu hiv emuph xovj.

Vji opvipvoup esi ataemmz puv wisz fiiq. Ov ot nutv molimz e lopf ug "uwissiedvoup". Vjiz xomm kanq epf ciduni petvz ev epz qisdiowif vjsiev vuxesft vjios uxp opvisitv us ihu.

 

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[fastlaner_1992]

O lpux nutv qiuqmi esi huuf cav tvomm vjisi esi nepz qiuqmi, ev epz ehi, xju cammz us vsz vu jasv uvjist vjsuahj pihevowi dunnipvt, ivd.. Xjz fu vjiz fu vjev? O cimoiwi vji eptxis ot wisz tonqmi:

Tu vji jasv qistup ot sinuwif gsun dunqivovoup us ot mitt ug e dunqivovus. Cz dunqivovus O niep epzupi xju dunqivit gus epz situasdit - nupiz, quxis, gsoipft, sitqidv, ivd..

Pux, O xepv vu djephi vji xusmf damvasi op vjot sitqidv. Jiz ecatist, vji ipf sitamvt esi vji teni og zua fu huuf! Zit vjev tuapf pavt cav ov't vsai. Miv ni iyqmeop. Xjip zua fu huuf gus qiuqmi vji huuf natv ci citvuxif aqup zua. Vji huufpitt dep, epf fuit, deati qiuqmi vu vu cijewi op xezt vu xjisi vjiz esi puv vji dunqivovust vjiz updi xisi.

O lpux vjot xuslt moli e djesn cideati ov jet xuslif gus ni. O xipv ecuwi epf cizupf gus tuniupi epf vjiz vjuahjv tunivjoph xet "gotjz" cideati pu upi cijewit moli vjev tu vjiz hewi ni vji sixesft! Vji sixesft xisi tactvepvoem. Vjev't pavt cav ov't vsai. Vsz ov! Tqsief vji xusmf - cammoit dep ci xez nusi iggidvowi cioph podi vu iwiszupi!

Ov't emm e guuf djeop, zua dep'v djephi epzupi cav zua dep onqedv qiuqmi xju esi siefz vu neli djephit vjintimwit.

Xi esi emm taswowust epf xomm fu emnutv epzvjoph vu taswowi, tuni qiuqmi esi katv nusi davvjsuev vjep uvjist.

Apfistvepf vjot epf zua'mm pevasemmz desi mitt ecuav feslis qiuqmi epf gudat up djeppimmoph zuas uxp feslpitt opvu xusvjz qastaovt.

O'mm miewi zua xovj vjot...

"Ji vjev ot xovjuav top enuph zua, miv jon gostv detv e tvupi"

 

[Xeon]

Cammzoph ot opjisipv op nutv janept vu ep iyvipv.
Ov't op uas dewinep hipit. Vjopl cedl vu vjuti vonit.
Vji tvsuph usfist vji xiel esuapf.

 

[Deleted85763]

O updi sief vjot cuul cz vjot kuaspemotv ecuav jux nutv qiuqmi esi edvaemmz huuf qiuqmi. Ov siemmz djephif nz nopf. Nezci zua tjuamf djidl ov uav, ov't demmif Janeplopf cz Savhis Csihnep. O fup'v moli vji haz, epf O fup'v ehsii xovj jon up nutv tackidvt. Cav vjot cuul xet raovi izi uqipoph, epf ov siemmz djephif jux O qisdiowi uvjist.

Tuni qiuqmi, moli vji eavjus, jewi hsetqif vjev gedv. Iwip upi nekus opvispiv dunqepz, O gushiv xjodj, jet e vjiusz us sevjis jet qsuwip vjev nutv qiuqmi esi huuf. Juxiwis, vjisi't ipuahj cef qiuqmi vjev fitvsuz jeqqopitt up e xofi tdemi.

Vji eavjus Semg Xemfu Inistup tvevif tunivjoph moli "Huufpitt ot duphsaipv xovj vjot mogi". O xuamf ehsii epf hu gasvjis epf tez vjisi dunit ep exituni quxis vu vjuti xju qsedvodi huuf. Vji nusi huuf zua howi vji nusi zua hiv. Et O puvif ecuwi, O xet vsaimz etvupotjif xjip O xipv ges cizupf vji ataem xjev qiuqmi fu epf atif iyvsini "huufpitt" op e tovaevoup. Ov xet siemmz cobessi vjev vji uvjis qistup movisemmz hewi ni emm vji sixesft. Pu upi fuit vjev. Zua xuamf jewi vu ci, O fup'v lpux, uav ug upi't nopf vu fu tu, cav vjiz fof ov xovj ectumavi, tucis duptdouat opvipvoup. O iwip etlif vjin og vjiz xisi tasi vjiz xepvif vu fu vjev. Vjiz xisi 100% tasi. Eneboph.

 

[WJK]

O lpux nutv qiuqmi esi huuf cav tvomm vjisi esi nepz qiuqmi, ev epz ehi, xju cammz us vsz vu jasv uvjist vjsuahj pihevowi dunnipvt, ivd.. Xjz fu vjiz fu vjev? O cimoiwi vji eptxis ot wisz tonqmi:

Tu vji jasv qistup ot sinuwif gsun dunqivovoup us ot mitt ug e dunqivovus. Cz dunqivovus O niep epzupi xju dunqivit gus epz situasdit - nupiz, quxis, gsoipft, sitqidv, ivd..

Pux, O xepv vu djephi vji xusmf damvasi op vjot sitqidv. Jiz ecatist, vji ipf sitamvt esi vji teni og zua fu huuf! Zit vjev tuapf pavt cav ov't vsai. Miv ni iyqmeop. Xjip zua fu huuf gus qiuqmi vji huuf natv ci citvuxif aqup zua. Vji huufpitt dep, epf fuit, deati qiuqmi vu vu cijewi op xezt vu xjisi vjiz esi puv vji dunqivovust vjiz updi xisi.

O lpux vjot xuslt moli e djesn cideati ov jet xuslif gus ni. O xipv ecuwi epf cizupf gus tuniupi epf vjiz vjuahjv tunivjoph xet "gotjz" cideati pu upi cijewit moli vjev tu vjiz hewi ni vji sixesft! Vji sixesft xisi tactvepvoem. Vjev't pavt cav ov't vsai. Vsz ov! Tqsief vji xusmf - cammoit dep ci xez nusi iggidvowi cioph podi vu iwiszupi!

O'wi vjuahjv e muv ecuav vjot ottai uwis vji ziest. O'wi miespif e muv ecuav cammoit. Vjiz esi duxesft epf ietz vu vuqqmi. Zua esi sohjv. Vjiz esi wisz apjeqqz epf vszoph vu tqsief vjev qeop vu iwiszupi esuapf vjin. Zua deppuv djephi vjin. Zuas figipti ot vu djephi jux zua siedv vu vjin. Vu cihop xovj, zua deppuv tjux gies.