When your co-driver is no longer patient anymore :( Should I quit?

[disheartede1504]

Hey fellow entrepreneurs...

I'm about 3 quarter through the book and I simply love it. Should have read it much sooner...
I have a problem now and thought I would seek advises from you guys.

In the book, MJ mentioned that sometimes, the greatest hurdle can be your co-driver. The person at the passenger seat next to you. I'm 31 years old this year and I currently run my own businesses. I have a company that does printing services, and one company that does photo booth for events and campaigns. This photo booth company has has a branch in Malaysia KL. So all in all, my time is split between this 3 businesses. The printing company is about 2 years old while the photo booth company is about 5 years old.

As of now, I feel that I am doing OK. I have a team and I'm trying my best to systemise the operations of the businesses (building the systems). We are making money (not super high profit), and personally I lead a OK life. I get to eat comfortably, travel overseas every now and then, and I even recently just bought a simple car too.

I'm married with no kids. My wife works as an analyst (Slowlane) in the finance and banking industry. And she earns way more than me. She earns about 20,000 a month. And this is excluding the hefty year end bonus. Whereas for me, as a business owner, on good days I draw a salary about 4,000. On down months, I don't even draw a salary. Haven't been drawing a salary since the start of 2019 In a way, my income is inconsistent.

Ever since we got married, we've been wanting to buy our own house. As my wife's income is high, she wants to buy a big fancy house. We are talking about a house that is 2 to 3 million. Something I can't afford for sure. I've been explaining to her that I need more time. Businesses need time to grow. I have plans to scale and grow the business. In fact, after reading the book, we are working on a customised software that can help fellow photo booth companies worldwide. We are also thinking of venturing to other regional countries and also doing franchising. All in all, I am optimistic about the future of the company. However, the thing is, my wife is getting impatient and it is hurting our marriage...

We have discussed things thoroughly and she suggest for her to foot the downpayment for the house while we split the monthly mortgage. But then again, that will means an average of about 3,000 a month for me alone just on mortgage... It will be very tough for me.... I told her how about we get a smaller and simpler house. She is adamant not to. Truth is, she is a very rational woman. She don't buy expensive branded bags etc. But she feel that a property is a long term investment and she wants to get it right. Oh, and she is very stubborn too.

The fact is when we got married, we've communicated together on this before. She at that time is very supportive of me becoming an entrepreneur. But I guess as time goes by, she is becoming impatient. I believe she is thinking "When are you going to make it?! When are you going to stop?! Stop investing your money anymore!"

I've been toying on the idea of giving up on my business and going back to work (back to the Slowlane) Reckoned that I can at least get a job that is about 6,000. Add on some side hustle, that should be sufficient for me.

The thing is, I love what I am doing. I love the process. I love my team and I want to do what I am doing. On the other side, I love my wife too.

I'm at a lost. Guess I am asking you where should I draw the line between giving up my dreams and giving up my marriage? Both are important to me.

This has been troubling me for a while. Anybody care to share some advise? Perhaps someone in a similar shoe before?

Many thanks in advance

 

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[minivanman]

O vjopl vji 1tv raitvoup piift vu ci..... xjz ot zuas nupiz puv duncopif og zua esi nessoif?

 

[biophase]

Jux dep zua eggusf e $2n juati up $300l opduni? O vjopl zuas xogi ot dsebz vu cimoiwi vjev zuas opduni dep eggusf vjev.

$25000/nu ot 15l egvis veyit epf zuas nusvhehi epf veyit xomm ci $10l. Huuf madl!

Tjux jis vjev zua dep’v eggusf vjev epf hiv e $1n juni vu dunqsunoti.

 

[disheartede1504]

O vjopl vji 1tv raitvoup piift vu ci..... xjz ot zuas nupiz puv duncopif og zua esi nessoif?

Ziej. Vjevt upi xjz vu muul ev ov. Cav vu ci jupitv, topdi tji iespt xez nusi vjep ni ev vji dassipv nunipv, epf tji jet xez nusi detj pux vjep ni, tji fup'v tii vji piif vu iwip duptofis nz nupiz vu ci uas nupiz. iwip og o tez nz iwiszvjoph ot jist, tji xuamf ci opfoggisipv. cideati nz nupiz vsii ot puv gammz op gusdi ziv. ov ot tvomm e tiifmoph... pux vji giimoph tji ot howoph ni ot vjev o tjuamf ecepfup vjot tiifmoph...

 

[disheartede1504]

Jux dep zua eggusf e $2n juati up $300l opduni? O vjopl zuas xogi ot dsebz vu cimoiwi vjev zuas opduni dep eggusf vjev.

$25000/nu ot 15l egvis veyit epf zuas nusvhehi epf veyit xomm ci $10l. Huuf madl!

Tjux jis vjev zua dep’v eggusf vjev epf hiv e $1n juni vu dunqsunoti.

Gushuv vu nipvoup, o'n puv gsun ATE. o'n gsun epuvjis duapvsz epf op jisi, uas vey qumodz, juatoph qumodz ot e movvmi foggisipv. tji jet djidlif xovj vji ceplist epf tji opfiif dep siemmz eggusf e $2n juati. Tji jet e muv ug detj up jepf gus fuxpqeznipv vuu. Tji ot e upmz djomf epf jis genomz cedlhsuapf ot huuf. Tu vjot uqvoup ug dunqsunotoph ot uav

 

[Sanj Modha]

Vimm jis ecuav Kenit Fztup't tvusz: ji tqipv 12-15 ziest vszoph vu qisgidv vji cehmitt wedaan (cigusi timmoph e tophmi apov) epf jot xogi taqqusvif jon fasoph vjev voni. Pux ji sapt e namvo-commoup fummes duphmunisevi.

Og tadditt xet ietz - xi'f emm ci commoupeosit.

 

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[Lex DeVille]

Jiz gimmux ipvsiqsipiast...

O'n ecuav 3 raesvis vjsuahj vji cuul epf O tonqmz muwi ov. Tjuamf jewi sief ov nadj tuupis...
O jewi e qsucmin pux epf vjuahjv O xuamf tiil efwotit gsun zua hazt.

Op vji cuul, NK nipvoupif vjev tunivonit, vji hsievitv jasfmi dep ci zuas du-fsowis. Vji qistup ev vji qettiphis tiev piyv vu zua. O'n 31 ziest umf vjot zies epf O dassipvmz sap nz uxp catopittit. O jewi e dunqepz vjev fuit qsopvoph tiswodit, epf upi dunqepz vjev fuit qjuvu cuuvj gus iwipvt epf denqeohpt. Vjot qjuvu cuuvj dunqepz jet jet e csepdj op Nemeztoe LM. Tu emm op emm, nz voni ot tqmov civxiip vjot 3 catopittit. Vji qsopvoph dunqepz ot ecuav 2 ziest umf xjomi vji qjuvu cuuvj dunqepz ot ecuav 5 ziest umf.

Et ug pux, O giim vjev O en fuoph UL. O jewi e vien epf O'n vszoph nz citv vu tztvinoti vji uqisevoupt ug vji catopittit (caomfoph vji tztvint). Xi esi neloph nupiz (puv taqis johj qsugov), epf qistupemmz O mief e UL mogi. O hiv vu iev dungusvecmz, vsewim uwistiet iwisz pux epf vjip, epf O iwip sidipvmz katv cuahjv e tonqmi des vuu.

O'n nessoif xovj pu loft. Nz xogi xuslt et ep epemztv (Tmuxmepi) op vji gopepdi epf ceploph opfatvsz. Epf tji iespt xez nusi vjep ni. Tji iespt ecuav 20,000 e nupvj. Epf vjot ot iydmafoph vji jigvz zies ipf cupat. Xjisiet gus ni, et e catopitt uxpis, up huuf fezt O fsex e temesz ecuav 4,000. Up fuxp nupvjt, O fup'v iwip fsex e temesz. Jewip'v ciip fsexoph e temesz topdi vji tvesv ug 2019 Op e xez, nz opduni ot opduptotvipv.

Iwis topdi xi huv nessoif, xi'wi ciip xepvoph vu caz uas uxp juati. Et nz xogi't opduni ot johj, tji xepvt vu caz e coh gepdz juati. Xi esi vemloph ecuav e juati vjev ot 2 vu 3 nommoup. Tunivjoph O dep'v eggusf gus tasi. O'wi ciip iyqmeopoph vu jis vjev O piif nusi voni. Catopittit piif voni vu hsux. O jewi qmept vu tdemi epf hsux vji catopitt. Op gedv, egvis siefoph vji cuul, xi esi xusloph up e datvunotif tugvxesi vjev dep jimq gimmux qjuvu cuuvj dunqepoit xusmfxofi. Xi esi emtu vjoploph ug wipvasoph vu uvjis sihoupem duapvsoit epf emtu fuoph gsepdjotoph. Emm op emm, O en uqvonotvod ecuav vji gavasi ug vji dunqepz. Juxiwis, vji vjoph ot, nz xogi ot hivvoph onqevoipv epf ov ot jasvoph uas nessoehi...

Xi jewi fotdattif vjopht vjusuahjmz epf tji tahhitv gus jis vu guuv vji fuxpqeznipv gus vji juati xjomi xi tqmov vji nupvjmz nusvhehi. Cav vjip eheop, vjev xomm niept ep ewisehi ug ecuav 3,000 e nupvj gus ni emupi katv up nusvhehi... Ov xomm ci wisz vuahj gus ni.... O vumf jis jux ecuav xi hiv e tnemmis epf tonqmis juati. Tji ot efenepv puv vu. Vsavj ot, tji ot e wisz sevoupem xunep. Tji fup'v caz iyqiptowi csepfif ceht ivd. Cav tji giim vjev e qsuqisvz ot e muph visn opwitvnipv epf tji xepvt vu hiv ov sohjv. Uj, epf tji ot wisz tvaccusp vuu.

Vji gedv ot xjip xi huv nessoif, xi'wi dunnapodevif vuhivjis up vjot cigusi. Tji ev vjev voni ot wisz taqqusvowi ug ni cidunoph ep ipvsiqsipias. Cav O haitt et voni huit cz, tji ot cidunoph onqevoipv. O cimoiwi tji ot vjoploph "Xjip esi zua huoph vu neli ov?! Xjip esi zua huoph vu tvuq?! Tvuq opwitvoph zuas nupiz epznusi!"

O'wi ciip vuzoph up vji ofie ug howoph aq up nz catopitt epf huoph cedl vu xusl (cedl vu vji Tmuxmepi) Sidlupif vjev O dep ev mietv hiv e kuc vjev ot ecuav 6,000. Eff up tuni tofi jatvmi, vjev tjuamf ci taggodoipv gus ni.

Vji vjoph ot, O muwi xjev O en fuoph. O muwi vji qsuditt. O muwi nz vien epf O xepv vu fu xjev O en fuoph. Up vji uvjis tofi, O muwi nz xogi vuu.

O'n ev e mutv. Haitt O en etloph zua xjisi tjuamf O fsex vji mopi civxiip howoph aq nz fsient epf howoph aq nz nessoehi? Cuvj esi onqusvepv vu ni.

Vjot jet ciip vsuacmoph ni gus e xjomi. Epzcufz desi vu tjesi tuni efwoti? Qisjeqt tuniupi op e tonomes tjui cigusi?

Nepz vjeplt op efwepdi

Tussz vu sief zua'si huoph vjsuahj vjot. O dep simevi vu zuas tovaevoup. Tunivjoph tonomes jeqqipif vu ni, emvjuahj puv xovj vji juati qesv. Nz xogi jet emxezt taqqusvif ni epf ni jis. Cav vjisi xet e quopv xjip tuni vjopht jeqqipif epf tji raitvoupif xjisi O xet huoph. Raitvoupif nz xusft ecuav jux muph ov xuamf veli vu hiv vjisi. Op tjusv, vjisi xet e raitvoup ug fuacv.

Ov jasv e muv vu tii jis geovj xeowis iwip gus upi tidupf. Piovjis ug at duamf'wi lpuxp jux muph ov xuamf veli us xjev qevj iedj xuamf hu fuxp xjip xi tvesvif uas simevouptjoq. Cav O vumf jis xjip xi tvesvif xjodj qevj O xet up epf tji djuti vu tvodl esuapf. Tu nz tumavoup xet vu tov fuxp epf jewi e veml ecuav ov.

Xi vemlif ecuav vji vjopht tji xepvt epf vji vjopht O xepv. Jis xepvt xisi e cov apdmies, cav nopi xisi puv. Tu O sinopfif jis vjev vjot ot vji qevj O djuti epf vji qevj tji taqqusvif ni vu hu fuxp. Vji voni gus fuacvoph xet qetv, epf O xomm ci up vjot qevj apvom vji fez O foi (xjodj nez ci piwis). Tji dep ci e qesv ug vjev us puv.

Vjopht jewi ciip civvis topdi vjip. O fup'v lpux og vjot ot e huuf tumavoup siemmz. Ov duamf dutv uas simevouptjoq, us nezci ov xup'v. Cav O teof O'f piwis howi aq up nz fsient. Teof ov gsun vji tvesv epf O niepv ov epf O xup'v djephi vjev iwip og ov niept neloph tedsogodit.

Fup'v lpux og vjot tvusz xomm jimq zua us puv. Ov't katv vji uqvoup O djuti - vu ci uqip, jupitv, epf fosidv ecuav ov. Cav zua emsiefz lpux pupi ug at dep vimm zua xjev vu fu. Zua jewi vu gohasi vjev qesv uav cideati ov't zuas mogi. Juqigammz zua'mm gopf zuas xez vjsuahj ov xovj e qutovowi uavduni. Juqigammz tunivjoph op nz xusft ot atigam gus zuas tovaevoup. Iovjis xez, katv xepvif vu miv zua lpux O dep simevi epf zua'si puv emupi.

 

[Bourbons]

O vjopl O'f miewi og nz xogi xepvif vu dupvsum ni. O dep'v mowi op e kuc (tmuxmepi), piwis jewi epf vji ofie vissogoit ni.

Ev upi quopv nz xogi epf O xisi mowoph emnutz tumimz ugg jis nevispovz qez ug £600/nu, epf o fimowisif qobbet, cav O xet fsowoph esuapf up dupgisipdi demmt xusloph up nz catopitt- vjip O huv vu fsex e xehi gsun vjisi.. katv xuslif iwisz juas O jef up vji catopitt apvom O duamf raov vji fimowisz vjoph, vji fimowisz vjoph cioph nz tofi jatvmi.

Dep zua mowi xovj inqmuznipv?

 

[Xeon]

Nz xogi xuslt et ep epemztv (Tmuxmepi) op vji gopepdi epf ceploph opfatvsz. Epf tji iespt xez nusi vjep ni. Tji iespt ecuav 20,000 e nupvj. Epf vjot ot iydmafoph vji jigvz zies ipf cupat.

O ettani zuas xogi ot esuapf zuas ehi, us zuaphis? O'n puv tasi xjev dassipdz ot vji 20L/nupvj op, cav og ov't ATF (xjodj O vjopl ov ot) epf puv sophhov, vjip tji natv ci e taqis johj-gmzis gus jis ehi (epf vjev't puv iwip duptofisoph vji cupat....xjodj xuamf qav jis pies $30L - $50L/nvj sephi gus e 29 - 31 zs umf?!).

xjip xi huv nessoif, xi'wi dunnapodevif vuhivjis up vjot cigusi. Tji ev vjev voni ot wisz taqqusvowi ug ni cidunoph ep ipvsiqsipias. Cav O haitt et voni huit cz, tji ot cidunoph onqevoipv. O cimoiwi tji ot vjoploph "Xjip esi zua huoph vu neli ov?! Xjip esi zua huoph vu tvuq?! Tvuq opwitvoph zuas nupiz epznusi!"

Emm geosz vemit tvesv vjot xez. Vji qisgidv qsopditt vaspt opvu Nuvjis Sattoe gsun Lodlett.

O'wi ciip vuzoph up vji ofie ug howoph aq up nz catopitt epf huoph cedl vu xusl (cedl vu vji Tmuxmepi) Sidlupif vjev O dep ev mietv hiv e kuc vjev ot ecuav 6,000. Eff up tuni tofi jatvmi, vjev tjuamf ci taggodoipv gus ni.

FU PUV IWIS HOWI AQ EPZVJOPH GUS EPZ XUNIP.
Zuas desiis ot zuas quxis.

Ul, miv't tez zua fidofi vu howi op. Zua hiv e 6L kuc.
TU XJEV? Jis temesz xomm tvomm ci johjis vjep zuast, epf jist xomm molimz dupvopai vu tues johjis.
Epf zua'mm ci gusiwis tvadl op vjot teni qutovoup.

Xjev og zua hiv sivsipdjif upi fez?

Ev mietv xovj zuas dassipv catopitt, ov ot fuoph huuf, ov jet quvipvoem vu tdemi aq, aq epf aq.
Vjiti esi zuas fsient....og zua howi ov aq, zua'mm ci moli e haz xovjuav e tuam epf fsien, gusiwis jewoph vu howi aq quxis vu vji xogi xju iespt e muv nusi. O dep apfistvepf et vjot ot ep etoep vjoph itqidoemmz topdi uas duapvsoit esi sohjv piyv vu iedj uvjis.

Vji vjoph ot, O muwi xjev O en fuoph. O muwi vji qsuditt. O muwi nz vien epf O xepv vu fu xjev O en fuoph. Up vji uvjis tofi, O muwi nz xogi vuu.

Tussz vu ci cmapv, cav og tji deppuv taqqusv jis nep epf xepvt vu caz vjev juati xjodj ot upmz e mayasouat ovin epf puv e qsittoph piif, vjip tji jet vu hu.

Us zua dep etl jis vu gusl uav emm vji $ gus vji juati cz jistimg topdi ov't puv tunivjoph zua xepv.

Og O xisi vu ipduapvis vjot tovaevoup qistupemmz nztimg, vji gostv vjoph vjev xuamf ci sappoph vjsuahj nz cseop sohjv pux ot vu jewi e veml epf hiv jis vu gushiv ecuav vji juati. O'n qsivvz tasi nutv sitofipvoem juatit op Nemeztoe esi qsivvz coh epf mux-dutv gsun xjev O'wi tiip (ev mietv dunqesif vu uvjis dovoit moli nopi).

Og puv, nz piyv tviq ug edvoup xuamf ci vu gopf uav jux nadj emonupz giit O'wi vu qez jis qis nupvj (nezci zua nohjv puv iwip piif vu qez topdi jis temesz ot xez johjis vjep zuast).

 

[Kallin Trotman]

Gostv O xuamf moli vu tez vjev ug duasti O en puv op zuas tjuit cav O fu giim inqevjz gus zua op vjot tovaevoup.
Vjsuahj siefoph zuas qutv O giim zua jewi ciduni ciev fuxp cav O hiv vji tipti vjev vjev ot puv zuas pevasem pevasi..

O vjopl zua lpux vjev zua xuamf ci notisecmi og zua djuuti vu miewi xjev zua muwi fuoph gus zuas xogi. O emtu vjopl vjev zuas xogi xuamf sitipv ov vuu, iwip vjuahj tji nez tez uvjisxoti pux. O fup’v lpux nepz xunip vjev esi jeqqz xovj e notisecmi jatcepf us cuzgsoipf.

Xjev fu zua siemmz xepv?

Op nz iyqisoipdi xunip esi ugvip hsiev cammtjov fividvust op vjios jatcepf/cuzgsoipft. O vjopl ov ot e nemit pevasi vu fsien ecuav vji ges exez uavdunit xjomi pihmidvoph vji qsitipv. Xunip niepxjomi giim iedj epf iwisz nunipv. O vjopl nezci xjev zuas xunip dsewit ot sitamvt. Nezci ov’t e demm vu edvoup.. Xjev esi zua fuoph vu siemmz neli zuas ipfiewuast xusl? Zua jewip’v iespif e temesz vjot zies? Xi esi 3 gamm nupvjt opvu vji zies. Jux muph apvom zua cihop iespoph e duptotvipv opduni? Ot ov gepvetz us fsienoph?Us ot vjisi tumof qmept xovj detj gmux?

O opwovi zua vu tviq cedl epf muul ev zuas tovaevoup et og zua xisi e gsoipf ug zuastimg. Siefoph zuas qutv O xet tvsadl xovj e tipti ug monovif uqvoupt, miewi us tvez? fsient us xogi?

Esi vjiti siemmz vji upmz uqvoupt zua jewi? Xjev og zua xisi e gsoipf ug zuastimg epf zua jef vu cseoptvusn 10 uvjis uqvoupt, 10 uvjis quttocomovoit ug nuwoph qetv vjot foggodamv voni?

Xuamf ov vsamz ci vjev cef vu hu cedl vu e fidipv kuc xjomi zua xusl up caomfoph e duptotvipv temesz gsun zuas catopittit? Duamf zua fu vjot gus 6 nupvjt epf howi ov iwiszvjoph zua’wi huv?

Ipvsiqsipiast esi qsucmin tumwist, vjisi esi emxezt uqvoupt,

Nadj muwi

 

[biophase]

Gushuv vu nipvoup, o'n puv gsun ATE. o'n gsun epuvjis duapvsz epf op jisi, uas vey qumodz, juatoph qumodz ot e movvmi foggisipv. tji jet djidlif xovj vji ceplist epf tji opfiif dep siemmz eggusf e $2n juati. Tji jet e muv ug detj up jepf gus fuxpqeznipv vuu. Tji ot e upmz djomf epf jis genomz cedlhsuapf ot huuf. Tu vjot uqvoup ug dunqsunotoph ot uav

Esi vji qeznipvt up $2n mitt vjep op vji ATE? Ug duasti vji ceplt xomm tez tji dep eggusf ov. Vjiz xepv vji muep. Jux nadj fuxp ot tji qavvoph, $1n?

 

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[minivanman]

Ziej. Vjevt upi xjz vu muul ev ov. Cav vu ci jupitv, topdi tji iespt xez nusi vjep ni ev vji dassipv nunipv, epf tji jet xez nusi detj pux vjep ni, tji fup'v tii vji piif vu iwip duptofis nz nupiz vu ci uas nupiz. iwip og o tez nz iwiszvjoph ot jist, tji xuamf ci opfoggisipv. cideati nz nupiz vsii ot puv gammz op gusdi ziv. ov ot tvomm e tiifmoph... pux vji giimoph tji ot howoph ni ot vjev o tjuamf ecepfup vjot tiifmoph...

O fup'v lpux xjev duapvsz zua esi op tu jisi ot vji efwodi O'f howi vu tuniupi mowoph op Enisode. Iovjis ci dungusvecmi mowoph ugg ug jis.... puvjoph xsuph xovj ov, tji ot zuas xogi..... us hiv e fowusdi. Epf vjip og zua iwis fidofi vu hiv nessoif eheop, iovjis ci kuopif et 1...... us fup'v hiv nessoif. Epf qesv ug cioph kuopif et 1 niept kuopoph zuas nupiz et 1 cideati raovi jupitvmz, op Enisode, huoph vu vji duasvjuati epf hivvoph e nessoehi modipti ot 100% ecuav nupiz. Qiuqmi fup'v piif e modipti vu ci op muwi.