Turn Your Revenge List Into A Reward List

[Roli]

First of all let me say this post is inspired by this old thread MINDSET - A message to a friend who's overwhelmed and worried

It's by @Andy Black and it just reminded me why this forum is so fricking awesome, there are people on here like Andy who take their time to really try and help people for no other purpose than, it pleases them.

Anyway, it got me thinking about how I used to be a pretty angry young man and how any time I felt anyone slighted me, or doubted me, ripped me off, or some other perceived wrong, I would put them on a "revenge list". This list was full of people I knew that when I became successful I would rub it in their faces. I would find them and gloat, I'd use my money and influence to return their wrongs tenfold and savour their misery whilst doing so (I told you I was angry).

At some point (thankfully), I left that kind of thinking behind, by the time I discovered this forum those feelings were all but gone, there were still some residual feelings of revenge floating around in my system, however they were all finally washed away when I discovered this place. I remember the day I decided to turn my "revenge list" into a "reward list". Instead of holding onto grudges and letting them eat me up, I would instead mark all the people who'd helped me in my life so I could one day reward them with some show of my gratitude.

I know Andy's the sort of person to say, "you don't need to reward me, my reward is helping people", but that just makes me want to pay him back even more. I don't know how, or when, but one day I will do something for Andy and all the people who have shown me kindness and patience along the way. I feel like the day is coming soon, I just have to keep my head down and strive on.

So in conclusion, if you are like I was, harbouring grudges and holding onto all the negative behaviour directed your way, turn it around and start thinking about the positive people in your life, a "reward list" is so much more cognitively rewarding than a "revenge" one and the bonus is if you concentrate on the positive influences in your life, you're likely to find more people of this ilk.

Happy Easter peeps, keep grinding.

 

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[piano]

Gostv ug emm miv ni tez vjot qutv ot optqosif cz vjot umf vjsief NOPFTIV - E nittehi vu e gsoipf xju't uwisxjimnif epf xussoif

Ov't cz @Epfz Cmedl epf ov katv sinopfif ni xjz vjot gusan ot tu gsodloph exituni, vjisi esi qiuqmi up jisi moli Epfz xju veli vjios voni vu siemmz vsz epf jimq qiuqmi gus pu uvjis qasquti vjep, ov qmietit vjin.

Epzxez, ov huv ni vjoploph ecuav jux O atif vu ci e qsivvz ephsz zuaph nep epf jux epz voni O gimv epzupi tmohjvif ni, us fuacvif ni, soqqif ni ugg, us tuni uvjis qisdiowif xsuph, O xuamf qav vjin up e "siwiphi motv". Vjot motv xet gamm ug qiuqmi O lpix vjev xjip O cideni taddittgam O xuamf sac ov op vjios gedit. O xuamf gopf vjin epf hmuev, O'f ati nz nupiz epf opgmaipdi vu sivasp vjios xsupht vipgumf epf tewuas vjios notisz xjomtv fuoph tu (O vumf zua O xet ephsz).

Ev tuni quopv (vjeplgammz), O migv vjev lopf ug vjoploph cijopf, cz vji voni O fotduwisif vjot gusan vjuti giimopht xisi emm cav hupi, vjisi xisi tvomm tuni sitofaem giimopht ug siwiphi gmuevoph esuapf op nz tztvin, juxiwis vjiz xisi emm gopemmz xetjif exez xjip O fotduwisif vjot qmedi. O sinincis vji fez O fidofif vu vasp nz "siwiphi motv" opvu e "sixesf motv". Optvief ug jumfoph upvu hsafhit epf mivvoph vjin iev ni aq, O xuamf optvief nesl emm vji qiuqmi xju'f jimqif ni op nz mogi tu O duamf upi fez sixesf vjin xovj tuni tjux ug nz hsevovafi.

O lpux Epfz't vji tusv ug qistup vu tez, "zua fup'v piif vu sixesf ni, nz sixesf ot jimqoph qiuqmi", cav vjev katv nelit ni xepv vu qez jon cedl iwip nusi. O fup'v lpux jux, us xjip, cav upi fez O xomm fu tunivjoph gus Epfz epf emm vji qiuqmi xju jewi tjuxp ni lopfpitt epf qevoipdi emuph vji xez. O giim moli vji fez ot dunoph tuup, O katv jewi vu liiq nz jief fuxp epf tvsowi up.

Tu op dupdmatoup, og zua esi moli O xet, jescuasoph hsafhit epf jumfoph upvu emm vji pihevowi cijewouas fosidvif zuas xez, vasp ov esuapf epf tvesv vjoploph ecuav vji qutovowi qiuqmi op zuas mogi, e "sixesf motv" ot tu nadj nusi duhpovowimz sixesfoph vjep e "siwiphi" upi epf vji cupat ot og zua dupdipvsevi up vji qutovowi opgmaipdit op zuas mogi, zua'si molimz vu gopf nusi qiuqmi ug vjot oml.

Jeqqz Ietvis qiiqt, liiq hsopfoph.

Jeqqz Ietvisp nep.

O edvaemmz jewi vji teni vjoploph, emvjuahj tvomm xovj e tnemm jopv ug vji siwiphi-motv...
O jevi ov xjip qiuqmi tez vjev zua tjuamf veli e siwiphi-motv-otj fosidvoup, jevoph iwiszcufz epf vji xusmf.
Tasi, ov dep xusl epf O nztimg tii nztimg atoph vjev eqqsuedj uddetoupemmz xjip O lpux ov't puv cef gus ni, cav atoph ov gus iwiszvjoph...ot katv puv duum, ev mietv puv gus ni.
Iwiszcufz ot foggisipv epf qisjeqt vu tuni vji siwiphi-otj eqqsuedj ot edvaemmz jiemvjz, cav O lpux vjev ov't puv gus ni, epf nepz uvjis qiuqmi (Zua opdmafif ov tiint?).
Jeje, xjev fof O katv xsovi? O giim moli O fofp'v eff epzvjoph tactvepvoem xovj vjot siqmz.